How to Finally Find the Right Guy

How to Finally Find the Right Guy

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Do you feel like you keep on falling for the wrong guy? That the men you’ve dated ended up disappointing you over and over again.

Are you afraid that you are never going to find “the one” and will end up living all by yourself, adopting countless cats and being doomed to loneliness?

I used to be afraid of that a lot.

All my friends were moving in together or getting engaged to their boyfriends, while I couldn’t get any of my relationships to last.

I kept on facing the same roadblocks over and over again and repeating the same mistakes without realizing it.

But I finally managed to turn the tide.

I realized that finding the right man has little to do with looks or luck.

You have to have the right mindset to even be open to finding the right guy.

In this article, I will outline the three big principles that helped me find the love of my life.

1. There Is No Such Thing as Being Doomed to Loneliness

I used to feel like ending up all alone was just “my fate”.

Quite a few of my friends told me that they struggled with the same fear too.

When a relationship doesn’t work out the way you wanted, it’s common to start feeling like it was your fault.

You might start believing that you’re somehow defective and that’s why you can’t get any guy to truly fall in love with you.

This is a very common worry a lot of women have, and also a COMPLETE BS!

Everybody makes some bad decisions every now and then.

It’s just a part of being human.

There is no such thing as “being doomed to loneliness”.

2. Identify The Bad Things About The Men From Your Past You Were Blind To

Everybody has a certain type that they often end up falling for.

A lot of women have a thing for “the bad boys”.

But it’s important to keep in mind that nobody ever CHOOSES to get heartbroken.

The only reason we get deceived or stuck in unhappy relationships is that we’re blind to certain things.

For example, I used to be completely blind to some men being utterly self-centered.

You know the type of guy that could go on talking about himself for hours on end without letting me get a word in, yes, that used to be my type. 😅

You can imagine that none of those relationships ever worked out for me…

The thing was I used to be COMPLETELY BLIND to people not caring about what I had to say.

I thought that they were just “very talkative” or something.

It took me realizing that their “talkativeness” was just them being utterly disinterested in me for me to never fall for this type of guy ever again.

Think back about your past relationships. Were there things that really surprised or shocked you about some of the guys you dated?

Was there something about them that you were initially completely blind to, that ended up being a total deal-breaker?

Identifying your own blind spots is key in NOT making the same mistakes in the future.

Ensuring that you are aware of these particular issues will prevent you from being deceived the same way again.

3. In Order To Find True Love, You Have To Know What You’re Looking For

A lot of people believe that true love is all about finding “the one” and that “if it’s meant to be” things will just magically fall into place.

I used to believe that myself.

In reality, things really don’t work that way.

You can’t count on destiny or some other higher power to sort things out for you. This kind of attitude will most likely just get you nowhere.

If you want to find true love, you’re going to have to go and search for it yourself.

YOU have to figure out what kind of relationship YOU are YOU looking for.

What does true love mean to you?

Are you a Cinderella, maybe you prefer Belle from Beauty And The Beast? Or are you more of a kickass Wonder Women type?

Are you looking for someone who will pamper and adore you, or maybe you seek to soften the heart of an angry beast? 😉

Be honest with yourself. Know your own preferences.

Figuring out what true love means to you personally, will make the search for it so much easier!

Conclusion

Everybody makes mistakes in their love life…

It happens to everyone. Sometimes it’s just bad luck.

Just because things aren’t working out the way you want them to, it doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you.

Identifying your own blind spots when it comes to certain types of men, will help you protect yourself in the future.

Taking charge of your love life and figuring out what exactly you’re looking for in a man will guide you and make the search for your own real love much easier.

If you have any questions about finding the right guy or if you’d like to vent about your horrible experiences, do so in the comments below and I’ll get back to you!

Karolina

The Real Truth About Why Men Ghost Women

The Real Truth About Why Men Ghost Women

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Being ghosted is a huge and common problem people have to face nowadays, especially in online dating.

When a person you thought you had a connection with suddenly stops replying, you’ll likely feel the sting of rejection.

It’s horrible and something I would never wish upon someone.

But I’ve known men who do it.

Here’s a run down of the most common reasons why men ghost women.

I hope they help you see that it’s rarely about you and all about them…

1. Men Ghost Women Because They’re Too Scared to Be Upfront About Things

According to a study on ghosting among Millenials carried out by BankMySell the main reason why men ghost women is to avoid confrontation.

Letting someone know that you’re not really into them takes balls.

Some men simply entirely lack those… 😉

They don’t dare disappoint you directly because they’re worried you might say something mean in return.

Like that you’re upset or that god forbid you FEEL THE SAME WAY and you’re not into them either.

Some men’s fragile egos couldn’t possibly take such a horrendous blow.

Ghosting you is his chicken-hearted way of ensuring that he is the one rejecting you and not the other way around.

Don’t waste your time with these kinds of men.

2. Men Ghost Women When They Want to Keep Stringing Them Along as a Plan B

Another big reason why men ghost women is when they want to intentionally end things on a vague note.

Letting you know that he’s not interested would give you a clear message to move on.

Ghosting, on the other hand, leaves an opening for the possibility of him getting back to you later on.

Dick move.

Some men resort to these types of games when they get to know another woman, whom they consider a better catch.

Getting together with her becomes their prime objective but they want to keep things vague just in case it doesn’t work out according to plan.

That’s why they want to keep their first date as a backup.

I’ve seen guys pull this move countless times.

They’ll first ghost a girl for a couple of weeks and then suddenly get back to her with some lame excuse like:

“Oh sorry, things at work have been so stressful, I just completely forgot about everything else…”

Then they’ll continue stinging her along until the next better catch comes along.

Yes, men can be very calculative sometimes and monkey-bar.

When a guy ghosts you, be careful if you decide to give him a second chance.

Keep in mind that if he truly cared about you, he would have found the time to let you know he was busy.

3. Men Ghost Women Because They Don’t Have to Deal With Any Negative Consequences

Ghosting has become such a prevalent practice since the age of the internet and online dating.

According to a study done by an online dating platform, PlentyOfFish, a staggering 78% of participants experienced being ghosted at least once!

The main advantage of online dating is that it provides a much larger pool of potential partners we may have never met otherwise.

This huge benefit comes with ONE BIG DRAWBACK though:

It allows people to be rude and treat each other badly without ever having to face any real-life consequences.

Most of the time, the person you match with on online dating platforms is a COMPLETE STRANGER.

You don’t have any ties or friends in common.

This means that if this guy acts like a jerk or ghosts you, he’ll most likely NEVER have to deal with any consequences.

You don’t know any of his friends.

And there is NO ONE to whom you could complain about his behavior to that would bring this matter back to him.

Regardless of how he acts, he‘ll never be dubbed as “flaky” or lose face in the eyes of the people whose opinion he actually cares about.

Unfortunately, the lack of accountability often brings up the worst in some people.

Conclusion

When it comes to being ghosted, I’ve seen female friends of mine often blame themselves for it and feel like they did something wrong.

That is mostly NOT the case though.

If you’ve been ghosted recently, you might be feeling regretful, like you missed out on something.

The truth is, you just dodged a bullet here!

Men who resort to ghosting are often immature and aren’t really looking for a serious relationship.

Guys who are too scared to be upfront about things, want to string you along or don’t have any standards or manners are NOT good boyfriend material.

You deserve better than that!

Now if you find yourself in a pattern of being ghosted by guys, or are struggling with a related dating or relationship problem that you’re not not sure how to deal with, then maybe our Personal Sessions can be helpful to you.

In a session, we’ll teach you what it takes to stop being ghosted and avoid those bad apples all together. You’ll also get a strategy specifically tailored to your needs and we’ll show you the exact next steps you need take to attract men that you can count on and are on the same wave length as you.

Click here to check out Personal Sessions.

Otherwise we’ve also got some further reading for you.

If you still find yourself unsure about whether a guy is a ghoster and if you can trust him, our post 11 Signs He Isn’t Into You might give you some further clarity.

And if you think you’ve had enough and are ready to move on, maybe it’s time to shift your focus on finally finding the right guy instead.

Got any questions or are unsure about any of these points? Leave me a comment and I’ll get back to you.

Gabriel

5 Warning Signs He’s Actually a Player

5 Warning Signs He’s Actually a Player

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Being played is crap.

And I hate to say it, but as a guy, I’ve known too many men that play women ALL THE TIME!

It’s almost as though it was a pass time to them.

If you’ve ever been into a guy and later realized he was actually just a player, I’m sorry you went through that.

But there’s good news!

I know how these guys tick and they’ve spilled all their little secrets to me.

So I’m laying out the 5 signs you need to watch out for to ensure it won’t happen to you again!

1. He’s Often on His Phone and Keeps It out of Your Sight

We all like our privacy.

Especially in the early stages of dating someone, you obviously won’t be sharing everything with them just yet.

But there’s a difference between casually glancing at your phone once or twice and being so preoccupied with it that it makes the date feel secondary.

If he is checking his phone a little too often and placing it face down or in his pocket to make sure you don’t see the screen…

He might be a player.

In these cases it’s important to trust your gut and not what he says.

Does it feel like he wants some understandable basic privacy…

Or does it feel like he is ACTIVELY hiding something from you?

2. He’s Tends to Be Vague About His Activity

  • “Oh, you know I was out of town.
  • I was just hanging with some friends.
  • I just popped by to help out with something.

This guy I knew would always talk to women this way.

He would avoid mentioning concrete people, places or time frames and keep it all very vague and fuzzy.

(It’s hard for players to keep track of all of their lies…)

But he bragged about all the “Chicks he juggled at once.”

With these types, it can help to pay attention to the difference between somebody not remembering…

And somebody hiding information or steering the conversation elsewhere to derail your train of thought.

3. He’s Always Bending the Truth

This is similar to the last point, with a subtle difference…

Instead of being vague about people, places and time frames, he’s very flexible with how he tells his stories.

Did you hear him tell the same story to someone else but a lot of details changed?

Does he never shoot straight and tell the truth?

Or is he always dodging questions and changing facts as he recounts them?

If yes, you might be dealing with a player here and want to watch out for signs that he’s lying to you.

4. He Frequently and Suddenly Drops off the Map Without Reason

If you happen to be in the early dating stages, then it’s natural you won’t know each other’s whereabouts since it’s all new and you haven’t built trust yet.

But if you’re in a relationship and have been sharing more of yourself with him and he isn’t, it might be a sign to look out for.

A friend of mine was in a relationship with a significantly older guy.

For hours or even DAYS at a time, he would just drop off the map and she’d have no idea where he was or what he was doing.

No replying to her texts or calls.

You know, the type to ghost you for all the typical reasons.

He’d then suddenly reappear and say he had to pull overtime and work late nights and that he was too tired to answer at the time.

This caused a lot of tension between them, but she liked him and wanted to make it work.

One day she found out he had been playing her all along.

There were rarely any late shifts at work.

There were, however, other women.

5. He’s Not Interested in Getting to Know You

Last but not least, if he’s not showing interest in you as a PERSON, he’s likely only interested in sex and is a player.

A normal dating process should generally involve getting to know each other.

If he’s constantly fixated on superficials like “Just having fun.” and going to parties or events all the time, keep your eyes peeled.

These types are just out for a constant stream of distractions and in a case like this, you’re just one of them.

There are also additional signs to watch out for that will clearly signal that he’s not serious or into you.

When a man is genuinely interested in you, he’ll take the time for you and be PRESENT.

You’ll see in his eyes that he’s genuinely into you.

Conclusion

So in summary, watch out for these 5 warning signs that tell you he’s a player:

  1. He’s frequently on his phone and hides it
  2. He’s vague about where he’s been and what he’s doing
  3. He bends the truth and lies
  4. He suddenly disappears without communicating anything
  5. He’s showing no signs of being interested in you as a person

It’ll save you a lot of time and grief.

If you’re struggling with players in your dating life or would like some help with finding the right guy online or in person, then you might want to check out our Personal Sessions we offer.

In a session, we’ll give you a strategy specifically tailored to your needs and show you the exact next steps you need to take, to finally find and keep the man, that you want and you deserve in your life.

Click here to check out Personal Sessions.

Additionally, we’ve got further reading you could be interested in. Like if the signs of a player fit for you, then maybe you need to finally write this guy off as yet another sad but hilarious dating problem.

You can move on and put your energy into finding the right guy for yourself instead, someone who is honest and straightforward with you.

If you’d like to share your experience with players or have questions, be sure to leave a comment and I’ll get back to you.

Gabriel

The Most Hilarious Dating Problems With Men You Can Probably Relate To

The Most Hilarious Dating Problems With Men You Can Probably Relate To

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If you’ve been on even a few dates with men, you’ll definitely have experienced some hilarious and or even awkward dating problems.

Now I don’t mean to knock on men (we’re not all alike).

But sometimes we really take the biscuit with our weird dating behavior.

Here are the Top 5 I’ve had the pleasure of witnessing, one too many times…

#1 Men That Expect You to Fawn Over Them Without Lifting a Finger

These types of guys are GREAT.

They’ll meet you at your set dating spot (On time, if you’re lucky) and make next to NO EFFORT to help the date go smoothly!

In this scenario, it’s all on YOU to ask questions, break awkward silences, keep the conversation afloat and anything else he just can’t be bothered with at the moment.

It’s like an involuntary piggy bag.

Now, I’m no woman, but the number of times I’ve seen female friends of mine have to awkwardly accommodate some guy that is LITERALLY just standing there is more than I care to mention…

How do you do it??

Even when we’re a-holes, you women are just mostly so goddamned NICE TO US!

#2 Men Can Be Utterly Oblivious to Where You’re At

Continuing on the same note…

The same guy that won’t make any effort on your date, is often TOTALLY OBLIVIOUS to how YOU are feeling.

I remember sitting at a bar once waiting for a friend and couldn’t help being in earshot of an awkward date that was unfolding on the table next to me…

Her: <Breaking an awkward silence> “So you’re into computers ‘n stuff?

Him:Yeah, you know the newest qualcomm snapdragon 835 sets itself apart from its competitors with an advanced 10-nanometer compact design, requires less juice and can power some pretty high-end mobile devices that…

And on he went FOR 15 WHOLE MINUTES WITHOUT STOPPING TO CATCH A BREATH.

Now, had she been into tech and computers too, that would be awesome!

They would have had a common interest and could’ve geeked out about it all night long.

But it was clear just how utterly oblivious he was to whether she was following or even INTERESTED in what he was rambling on about!

Nobody was home.

How he landed that date is beyond me, but needless to say I think it was their last.

#3 Men That Love to Talk About Themselves at All Times

Yes, men love to tell the epic tales of how we slew the mighty dragon, rescued the damsel in distress and freed good people of the valley from oppressive tyranny with nothing but one sweep of our mighty sword.

I kid you not, some guys really see themselves this way.

You may have had the pleasure of happening upon one such fellow yourself.

I’ll admit that in my dating days, I too was guilty of trumpeting my tales to woo the ladies (who were likely bored of their skulls)

If you happen to be one such woman…

On behalf of men, do accept my most sincere apologies. We know not, what we say when our brains swell to such disproportionate dimensions.

Having said all of that.

I’ve observed women secretly amused and entertained as they egg boasting men on to ever greater exaggerations of their lies tales.

So I guess it can be funny.

#4 Men Try so Hard to Impress You, It Can Be Embarrassing

I think it’s perfectly normal to flex.

Both women and men will show off their strengths to attract and impress someone they like.

But there are limits right?

Like when I guy goes WAAAY out of his way to impress you, that it becomes silly or even worse, uncomfortable.

There are countless hilarious and embarrassing videos on YouTube of men going a little too far to impress a woman.

They say love is blind.

It seems to me, it can sometimes render a man utterly blind to the inefficiencies of his silly mating rituals.

So much so, that he sends the woman he hoped to impress scurrying for cover.

#5 Some Men Believe You Can Be Bought With Drinks or Dinner

Can I get you a drink?” – The all-time classic opener.

There’s almost nothing less charming or flattering.

If you interviewed all the women that were approached by men during an evening at a bar or club.

What percentage of women do you think would tell you that the first thing they were asked was whether he could “Get you a drink?

I bet it’s embarrassingly higher than we’d like to think.

If you happen to be a man and you’re reading this: there are far more EFFECTIVE ways to approach women.

Care to share your most hilarious or awkward dating moments with men with us?

Let us know in the comments section. And of course, if you have any questions as always feel free to ask.

Gabriel

How to Get Him to Ask You Out

How to Get Him to Ask You Out

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Having a crush on a guy and wishing for him to ask you out can be very exciting and extremely frustrating at the same time.

Gabriel and I first got to know each other at a birthday party of a mutual friend of ours.

After that first party, we texted occasionally and continued bumping into each other at a few other social events.

We flirted and danced together, talked, got to know each other better…

(My crush on him continued growing.)

All in all, it took us THREE MONTHS from the time we met until Gabriel asked me out on our real first date!

Getting a guy to become really interested in you is a process.

How fast or slow your relationship will progress depends on a variety of circumstances.

In this article, I’ll guide you through all the most important steps you need to take to get a guy to notice you and ask you out AS FAST AS POSSIBLE.

1. Putting an Extra Effort Into Your Looks Will Increase Your Chances of Success

Yes, we all know guys care about the looks.

But NOT in the way you were most likely taught to believe.

The man you’re interested in doesn’t need you to be super skinny, perfectly fit and have makeup skills that could land you a job as a professional stylist…

Taking care of your looks isn’t about striving for perfection, it’s about communicating SELF-ESTEEM and CONFIDENCE!

Seeing that you care for yourself so well makes a guy think that you’ll take good care of him too.

Because of this, he’ll see you as a more ATTRACTIVE potential partner.

Being able to enhance your looks with makeup can make you more desirable in men’s eyes.

Girls that are good at makeup are always a bit intimidating.

I used to be a total nerd and had little makeup skills, but I managed to catch up on it all thanks to YouTube tutorials.

Following and learning just one simple makeup tutorial can make a HUGE difference in how people relate to you.

It will boost your CONFIDENCE and make men perceive you as more attractive.

2. Make Him Notice You and Try to Become Friends

Now that you know the general tips to make yourself more desirable to men, it’s time to jump into action and start focusing on how to get your crush to NOTICE YOU.

Before you can get a guy to fall in love with you, you first have to give him a chance to just get to know you.

Guys can be extremely distracted sometimes.

They can be so focused on boasting about their egos and trying to impress everyone around, that they might not notice you at all.

That’s why the important first step in making a guy interested in you, is to come up to him when the moment feels right and start a casual conversation.

Let him know you EXIST, and that you’re FRIENDLY.

Be casual and be yourself, that will be enough to get his attention.

Side note here: in my experience, it’s often enough just come into a guy’s field of view for him to immediately jump into action and start talking to you.

3. Let Him Know You’re Interested by Flirting With Him

Just like when it comes to noticing your existence, guys can be EXTREMELY OBLIVIOUS to a girl hitting on them.

Flirting is a great way to make a guy FEEL that you’re attracted to him.

It’s a playful way of expressing your desires without any strings attached.

You can back out of it any time.

Asking him some playful questions can be a great start.

Flirting communicates to a man that you’re open to being more than “just friends” with him.

It lets him know that an opportunity is presenting itself right in front of him

Now he knows you and can feel that you’re into him and it’s his turn to make the move….

4. Don’t Push, Give Him a Challenge Instead

If your crush knows that you’re interested and still hasn’t asked you out it might mean two things:

  • He’s unfortunately looking for something else
  • He isn’t ready to take the next step yet

If he’s looking for something else, you can’t force him to change his mind.

The best thing you can do about it is to learn how to recognize the signs and just move on.

You deserve to be with a man who will VALUE and appreciate you.

But if it’s the case two: he just isn’t ready to ask you out just yet, your best response is to give him space.

Guys like when a girl gives them a bit of a challenge. When she pulls away and isn’t always available.

Your crush wants to feel like HE IS THE ONE conquering your heart, not the other way around.

This dynamic is what makes men feel safe and in control.

That’s why when your guy isn’t making the next move, your best course of action is to withdraw and just go do something else.

Go talk to your friends, live your life, pursue your hobbies.

Focus on figuring out the best ways to make him want you from afar and just wait for him to get back to you.

5. If He Still Can’t Take the Hint, Try Asking Him out Yourself

Some guys are just so oblivious to girls hitting on them, there is no way around it.

Regardless of how hard you try, they’ll think you’re just being friendly and aren’t really interested in them.

Another rare case is guys who are so shy, they just don’t dare to ask anybody out.

No matter what the situation is here…

It is perfectly OKAY for a girl to ask a guy out nowadays!

There is nothing wrong with you taking matters into your own hands.

A lot of guys actually like and appreciate it.

One big thing to consider when deciding to ask your crush out is that he might say just say ‘No’.

Nobody likes to be rejected, but guys deal with it THE WHOLE TIME!

And if they can to survive it, SO CAN YOU! 😉

Taking charge and asking your guy out will give you a clear answer, he’ll either say “Yes” or “No”.

You won’t have to resort to games and tricks anymore and you won’t have to wonder “Does he like me?” or “Why hasn’t he texted me yet?”.

You’ll know for sure whether he is interested or not.

Conclusion

Getting a guy to ask you out can be a long process.

When Gabriel and I got to know each other I resorted to all sorts of tricks to get his attention and make him interested.

But ultimately it’s just all about putting yourself out there and hoping that he feels attracted to you too…

If it’s meant to be, it will work out.

If it doesn’t, you’ll find someone else.

So don’t worry too much and just go for it!

If you’re still unsure or are afraid that your heart will be beating off the charts when you try to get him to ask you out, maybe you’d like to have a dating-expert in your corner with our Personal Sessions.

Here we’ll create a personalized strategy just for you, to put all the odds in your favor and have him falling over himself to ask you out. You’ll be in an empowered position and will move forward with confidence in your dating life.

Click here to check out Personal Sessions.

If you have any questions or would like to share your story, leave me a comment and I’ll get back to you!

Karolina

11 Signs He Just Isn’t Into You

11 Signs He Just Isn’t Into You

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Knowing how to recognize that a guy just isn’t into you is often harder than it might seem!

There is just something so addictive about fantasizing and chasing after a guy who acts unavailable and hard to get…

I’ve had crushes on guys, who just weren’t really interested in me.

Some of those guys even made the first move, asked for my phone number, arranged for dates, etc.

But something just FELT OFF for me from the beginning.

When a guy you like doesn’t like you back it feels like rejection.

And being rejected is always painful.

That’s why it’s important to catch it as early as possible. BEFORE you get too emotionally involved in the relationship.

Here are some clear signs that the guy you’re dating doesn’t really care about you or isn’t into you.

1. It Takes Ages for Him to Reply to Your Texts

Texting is how we do the majority of our communication nowadays.

That’s how we all talk, flirt, make plans, etc.

If a guy you like takes hours or even days to reply to your texts…

It’s a clear sign that he isn’t really into you but is just too big of a chicken to be upfront about it. 🐥

If he takes this to the extreme, you also might want to consider the possibility that he’s simply a player.

2. You’re Always the One Initiating to See Him

If you find yourself being the one who texts, calls and takes charge to make things happen, then you should know that…

When a guy never makes an effort to arrange to see you it unfortunately means he doesn’t really care to spend time with you.

I know it might be tough to face this, but the truth is, YOU DESERVE BETTER!

Don’t waste your time on a guy who won’t even lift a finger for you (literally) and is giving you another sign that he’s just not that into you

Time to move on girl.

3. He Never Asks You Any Personal Questions

If the man you’re dating is doing ALL THE TALKING.

And never asks you anything, it means he doesn’t really care to get to know you.

When a guy is truly interested, he will make an effort to learn more about you by asking you questions.

And by questions, I don’t mean superficials like:

How was your day?” or “Nice weather, isn’t it?

He needs to ask you more PERSONAL questions, like these.

So in general, next time you’re talking or texting watch out for this sign. You’ll then know how to tell if a guy isn’t into you.

4. He’s Never Tries to Impress You

Dating is all about both sides showcasing their BEST side.

If the guy you’re with never tries to impress you.

Say be demonstrating a skill, flashing a new toy or taking you out to fancy places…

Then it’s a clear sign he doesn’t care about winning you over. And likely isn’t into you.

5. He Often Comes Late or Cancels Last Minute

I hate it when a guy does that!

It’s a clear sign that he has no respect for my time whatsoever.

Emergencies happen.

I get that. But they rarely happen twice in a row…

When a guy repeatedly comes late or cancels his plans with you last minute, then it’s a sign he isn’t into you.

These types of men are usually also the ones that are likely to ghost you for no fault of your own. 

So better steer clear of him.

You are not a priority to him, he is most likely just STRINGING YOU ALONG.

6. He Is Distant and Secretive

It’s normal to be a bit distant from each other when you’ve just started dating.

It takes time to really open up and build trust in a new relationship.

But if you feel like your relationship isn’t progressing and he just isn’t letting you in AT ALL.

It’s a sign that he just isn’t open for any serious commitment and will most likely never let you in.

7. He Keeps You a Secret From His Friends

Being introduced to each other’s friends and family is an important step for any new relationship.

It’s normal that it might take weeks or even a few months for a person to feel ready for it.

Especially when it comes to family, they can be very critical sometimes…

When it comes to friends though, it’s usually much less of a problem.

So if a guy you’ve been seeing keeps finding excuses to not introduce you to any of his friends…

It’s a sign he doesn’t really want you to become a part of his life and probably isn’t into you.

8. Dates With Him Are Boring

There are honestly so many ways to make a first date lip-smacking good!

But I’ve been on SO MANY boring dates in my life, it’s crazy.

Usually, I blamed myself for it and tried to make an effort to make things less awkward and more interesting.

But the truth is, it’s not your fault when a date is boring.

It’s often just a sign that the chemistry is simply NOT there between you two. And that it’s just another one of those hilariously silly dates you inevitably have with men.

And that’s okay.

There are plenty of fish in the sea.

But you’re better off, taking this is as yet another sign of him not being into you.

9. He Says He Wants to “Keep Things Casual”

Deciding to become exclusive with each other is a big deal, and it doesn’t always happen right away.

Gabriel and I only became ‘officially exclusive’ about one and a half months after we started dating.

It’s not that we were seeing other people at the time, we were just both wary of commitment and we wanted to take things slow.

(Yes, I’m a girl and I used to be afraid of commitment, cases like me exist! 😆)

But if you’ve been going out with someone for MONTHS and he repeatedly says that he wants to

“Keep things casual.”

DO BELIEVE HIM.

He clearly isn’t really in love with you and wants to keep looking.

10. He Makes up a Pet Name for You Right Away

This is more of a sign that a guy is into you physically….

BUT he is NOT SERIOUS about you.

It’s a phenomenon I’ve actually repeatedly observed while hanging out with some SERIAL PLAYERS.

(I used to sail a lot in my twenties and met some really deceitful guys those circles…)

When a guy gives you a cute pet name, like sweety, honey, etc right after the FIRST DATE.

It’s NOT a sign of endearment.

He is just in it to get LAID and can’t even be BOTHERED trying to remember your name.

Outrageous, I know…

I once happened to sail on the boat with a guy who slept with THREE different girls in ONE week!

He called each one of them “My Kit Kat”…

So take it as a clear sign that a guy ISN’T into you…

11. You Feel That He Doesn’t Really Care About You

When it comes to matters of heart, our intuition is often our best compass.

Even if a guy says and does ALL THE RIGHT THINGS, but something still FEELS OFF for you, trust your gut on this one.

Maybe you’re just a trophy to him…

(Yes, guys can be gold diggers too!)

A man who is with you for your looks or money only, won’t stay true to you in the long run.

You deserve to be with someone who truly cares about YOU.

Conclusion

I hope you are now feeling clearer on how to tell when a guy just isn’t into you.

Realizing that your crush doesn’t really care about you is always tough but it will protect you from future heartbreak!

And if you find yourself falling for guys that are either not into you, give you mixed messages or require you to make all of the effort which leave you feeling drained and unfulfilled, then maybe you’ll be interested in our Personal Sessions.

In them we’ll explain to you the specific things you need to do, to turn the guys from not taking you seriously, to seriously crushing on you. And you’ll also learn how to safeguard yourself from future disappointment by detecting the signs early and know how to spot suitable and worthy candidates instead.

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And if you find it helpful, you can also learn more about how to finally find the right guy instead.

If you still feeling unsure about this topic and would like some advice, let me know in the comments section and I’ll get back to you.

Karolina