She’s not afraid of conflict or being disliked and places more value on people respecting her than liking her.
How Do I Know If I’m a Sigma Female?
If 8 or more of the 12 sigma personality traits listed above fit for you, then you’re a sigma female.
And to summarize the most important points again:
A sigma female is an independent, loyal, straight-shooter, who is often ambitiously driven and operates outside of the standard social hierarchy. She takes risks, can be intimidating and sets hard boundaries when she needs to.
Do you recognize yourself in this description? Or have others described you this way?
If yes, you’re a sigma female.
And if you’re wondering whether it’s good to be a sigma, the answer is there is no good or bad here. It’s a matter of preference.
There are multiple female personality types, some traits of which you’ll identify with and others not so much.
The real question is who do you WANT to be?
And based on that, you can chart your own course in life to become that wonderful version of yourself.
Do Sigmas Have Friends?
Sigmas absolutely have friends.
But sigmas are more introverted in the sense that they don’t care to participate in the power games and gossip that comes with social groups.
Therefore they might also prioritize the pursuit of their goals over their community. This can lead to periods of isolation as they move between social circles.
Due to their loyalty, they will however maintain the friendships that mean a lot to them.
What Are the Six Female Personalities?
These are the six female personalities in order of their theoretical social hierarchy:
Alpha ↔️ 2. Sigma
The Sigma sits on the same level as the Alpha, except that a sigma chooses to operate outside of social hierarchy by their own choice.
What’s important to keep in mind is that these social hierarchies are concepts to help you better understand social constructs you live in.
They are not a hard science.
(The term ‘alpha’ found its way into mainstream culture, through the idea of an ‘alpha’ wolf. A term that has long been rejected by David Mech himself, who studies wolves and originally introduced the idea.)
Having said that, all female personality types have strengths and weaknesses, so although there is a perceived hierarchy, one is not better than the other.
They are simply different with their own unique characteristics.
With that said, here are short descriptions of the six female personalities:
1. Alpha – The Leader
An alpha female is someone who leads a group and emanates strong will and confidence.
When you’re an alpha, you are often intimidating to others by how direct you can be with your opinions and domineering nature.
You’ll likely also feel exhausted with the endless responsibilities and decisions you have to make for your ‘pack’.
2. Sigma – The Rogue Alpha
The difference between alpha and sigma female is that as a sigma you’ll have strong alpha qualities while being more in touch with your inner thoughts and feelings.
You choose independence over leadership and pursue your own goals relentlessly.
Some perceive the sigma as ranking higher than alphas because of their autonomy and freedom.
3. Beta – The Right-Hand Woman
A beta female is often the right-hand woman to their alpha, she is loyal and trusting.
If you identify with this type you’re likely to be more introverted and quiet, but will be vocal to back a person you believe in.
But when your kindness and loyalty are trifled with or put into question, the person doing so is guaranteed to regret it.
4. Delta – The Planner
A delta female tends to be shy and needs her time to warm up to people.
But once people have won your trust, you’ll form incredibly deep and strong relationships for the long-run.
You’ll also be incredibly kind and patient and will honestly speak your opinion.
Being well organized and planning ahead comes as easy as breathing to you.
5. Gamma – The All-Rounder
A gamma female is someone who excels in all aspects equally. But this is admittedly at the expense of not feeling like she truly masters one thing.
Nonetheless, as a gamma you’ll lead a very balanced life and pursue your goals with a solid planning framework.
You’ll likely be family-focused and engaged with your community.
6. Omega – The Scholar
An omega female personality is knowledgeable and educated.
If you identify with her, you’ll often find yourself buried neck deep in books or pouring over piles of data trying to decipher the patterns.
You’ll be very logical and thoughtful in your approach to life, always seeking to understand the underlying principles that govern things.
How do you tell if a guy is slowly falling for you?
Dating can be extremely confusing at times. Men are rarely transparent about their feelings.
What’s more, they can do and say really sweet things only to then back out of it and pull away!
This inevitably leaves you wondering “Is he really catching feelings for me or am I just imagining it?”
In this blog post, I will list all the most important signs that he is slowly falling for you in chronological order.
I’ll start off with how to recognize when he is starting to develop feelings, all the way to how to know when he is falling deeply in love with you.
This way, you can know for sure where his heart is truly at in all stages of dating and a relationship.
1. He Initiates Contact
One of the earliest signs that a guy is catching feelings for you is when he initiates contact with you on a regular basis.
This means that he writes to you first, at least as much as you do.
He might do it over text, dms, snap chat or by calling you. The platform doesn’t matter here, it’s all about him regularly taking the initiative and making the first move.
A guy who initiates contact with you clearly enjoys interacting with you and will most likely want to take things further soon, because he is catching feelings for you.
2. He Asks You Personal Questions
A guy who is slowly falling for you will make an effort to get to know you better.
He will ask you personal questions about your passions, hobbies, plans for the future, likes, dislikes etc.
And he’ll do it because he longs to understand you and feel closer to you.
He will also want to make sure you guys are a good match and could be happy together.
It’s a definite sign he is catching feelings that you can look out for even in the early dating stages.
3. He Arranges to See you
On top of initiating contact and making an effort to get to know you, another early sign that he is slowly falling for you is him arranging to see you.
He might do it by asking you out or by finding reasons for you guys to hang out together.
And if you’re in a long distance relationship, he will either come visit you, suggest that you visit each other in turns or plan for you guys to meet halfway.
If he keeps on arranging to spend time with you, he clearly deeply enjoys it and is definitely catching feelings for you.
4. He Tries to Impress You
Men like to impress everybody around them. However, when a guy is trying EXTRA HARD to make an impression on you, consider it one of these weird things guys do when they’re catching feelings for someone.
He might do it by showing off his knowledge, his gadgets, taking you out to a fancy place, getting expensive tickets etc.
Think about it, someone who is trying this hard to make you consider him a good catch is definitely slowly falling for you!
5. He Is Eager to Help You Out
Men like to feel needed and like they’re good providers. Some guys will express their feelings for you through being helpful with pragmatics.
They will offer to carry things for you, fix your computer or other things at your house, help you study, pick a phone for you, take care of your car etc.
So you’re wondering what chemistry feels like for a man.
Whether you’re a woman who’s curious to know, or a guy who needs to understand his feelings for someone, I’ll help you get to the bottom of it.
And what better way to know what chemistry feels like for men, than hearing it FROM MEN themselves?
On the Subreddit AskMen (sources: 2,3,4) people were wondering the same as you were and asked the following questions about chemistry for men:
“What Does Chemistry Mean to You?”
And here’s what men answered:
1. You Feel Comfortable Being Vulnerable
“Chemistry is that feeling you get when you’re with your closest friend. You can be your true self, they can be their true self, and even in that vulnerable state, both parties are completely comfortable. If you can find a significant other that you connect with in that way, and they’re physically attractive, do whatever you can to hold on to them. Finding someone like that is rare.”
2. Chemistry Is a Dance
“Chemistry is about having a natural flow where the conversation just comes easily with someone. Chemistry is about connecting on a bunch of the little things and sharing the same quirks. Chemistry is a dance partner who can read your signals and either can follow your most complicated leads or can lead you to dance turns you didn’t even know existed.”
3. I Can Be Playful With Her
“I’ve met women where we’ll get along well, we each know where the other stands without having to explicitly say it, and the relationship just works. She can playfully give me crap and vice versa, but at the end of the day it’s all part of our flirting game. We enjoy getting a rise out of each other almost any way possible.”
4. Chemistry Is a Bond That Isn’t Easy to Break
“Chemistry with another person can come in a variety of ways. From sexual to romantic, chemistry occurs when two people just mesh well. They create a bond with each other that’s not easy to break. They work well with each other. You have good chemistry with someone when it takes very little effort to have a great night with each other and things just fall into place, almost as if they were meant to be.”
5. It Feels Like Comfort
“Have you ever had that warm feeling inside of you whenever you’re around your significant other? It feels like comfort. Or ever have that sensation where you hear a car pulling up, or someone climbing the stairs leading to your apartment, or hearing someone coming up to the door to your place, and you just know it’s your significant other? Yeah, that.”
The next question somebody asked was:
“How Do You Know When You and a Girl Have Chemistry?”
Some of the men’s answers were rather romantic:
6. You Feel Magnetically Drawn Together
“It feels like static electricity, the air is just alive and there is this tension that you can feel like magnetism drawing you to them.”
7. Conversation Flows Effortlessly
“I think it really depends on each person, but chemistry is one of those things that’s so hard to exactly define. It’s just a feeling you get where conversation flows continuously without effort, you have physical attraction towards each other, and communication on all levels seem to be on par.”
8. You Want to Hold Her Tight and Never Let Go
“Oh man, it’s so incredible. It’s like the two of us are one unit and whenever we’re not together we wish we were. Not in the “I should see here later.” sense, but in the “I want to hold her tight and never let go.” And the best part is that I know she feels the same way about me.”
9. Good Chemistry Is Not Just Sexual
“I found out I’m more attracted to their personality, and when that happens, I’m really attracted to them in other ways, especially in bed. Good chemistry is not just sexual, but it’s also when it’s easy to love them, and vice versa.”
“What Does Having ‘Chemistry’ With Someone Mean to You?”
Here’s what the guys had to say:
10. It’s When You Just Click
“I think it’s a combination of compatibility and attraction. When you’re naturally on the same page in both areas, and you just click. It’s such an intangible thing, though, it’s so hard to explain. It’s there, or it isn’t, and when it is, you just know.”
11. Chemistry Means Feeling Comfortable Around Someone
“It means I’m comfortable around them. It means my adrenaline rises around them. Conversation is easy, more importantly, I’m comfortable being in silence around them”
12. Being Able to Laugh Together
“Having the same sense of humor and enjoying the same types of conversations. My girlfriend and I have laughed at so many unfunny things together. My best friends and I always feel like we can have deep philosophical conversations that generally just aren’t sustained when attempted with other people.”
13. It’s More Than Sex
“Chemistry is when you wanna sleep with someone, and you also want to hang out with them when you’re not sleeping with them.”
14. Your Social Interactions Are Mutual
“It means the social interactions with that person are persistently mutual and intended; you are both provided the social interactions that are expected from each other. It is inherently recognizable from both people, as well as from others who know each person’s social cues well.”
15. They Show You Genuine Interest
“They say your name. They are nice to you. They speak with a friendly tone. They want to hear your opinion. If they see you in public, they will say hi and maybe spark up a conversation. They are never “busy” when you have something to talk to them about. They listen intently.”
The final question was:
“What Does It Feel Like to Have Undeniable Chemistry and Sexual Tension With Someone?”
And the men concluded with…
16. I Get Butterflies in My Stomach
“It does not happen that often, unfortunately. But when I meet someone with whom I immediately click, I get excited, like these butterfly in my stomach feeling (but it’s not necessarily love or sexual tension). This feeling emerges when our conversation gains a certain dynamic and feels enriching and exciting.”
17. You Will Never Forget Them
“I’ve experienced this ‘undeniable chemistry’ thing a few times. In one of said instances, I fell for her in a way that hasn’t been matched since – even with my marriage of 15yrs. With the others, it was either distance or age that got in the way .. but holy hell, these girls were amazing and will forever hold a special place in my cold-ass heart.”
And a final answer that brings it all to the point was:
“You know you have chemistry when you’re not questioning whether or not you have chemistry”
So you’ll definitely know it when you feel it. 😉
Now, there was a final additional question directly from you guys that I’d like to answer myself, which is…
What Causes Chemistry Between a Man and a Woman?
You can think of chemistry between a man and a woman as a reflection of compatibility.
Which means, the more compatible you are, the MORE INTENSE your chemistry will be.
And these are the most crucial areas of compatibility:
This is commonly the first area, since we SEE people first. It is also the most obvious one and means that the more physically attracted you are to each other, the more intense the chemistry.
This will be more important to some than others, but a lot of people love and appreciate an intellectual mind. Because they want to be with a person they can talk to for hours on whose company they can enjoy.
You may have had the experience of initially finding someone incredibly attractive, but when they start to speak, their emotional immaturity becomes apparent, and it’s an instant turn-off for you. So emotional attraction also plays a big role in chemistry.
As the old adage goes: opposites attract. Though it’s not a hard rule, it does help create tension and excitement! And complimentary characters mean that both woman and man will bring something to the table that the other deeply craves and is drawn to.
Shared Values & Desires
Finally, chemistry between two people can be made (or killed) depending on how compatible their values and desires are. This means having the same priorities and expectations from life, because if you don’t, it’s hard to work towards a common goal.
So what causes chemistry between a man and a woman is the degree of compatibility they share in the five areas mentioned above.
The more compatible, the brighter the flame of chemistry and attraction.
Whether you’re new or old here, I appreciate you reading and hope you found the answers from men about chemistry insightful.
If you’re sitting around, thinking to yourself, “Should I call him or not?” chances are a guy you like intentionally left things open or vague between the two of you.
Maybe you’ve just started dating, and you’re tired of waiting. So you’re eager to make the first move, but you’re not sure if you should.
Or perhaps you and him have some history already, he might even be your ex, and you’re torn: on one hand, you don’t want to be the one who is always chasing him.
But at the same time, you also don’t want to wait forever or let it go without knowing for sure where he truly stands.
Regardless of how long you two have known each other and what the circumstances are exactly, there are times when you absolutely should call him first and others when it’s better for you to back off and wait.
In this post, I’ll help you recognize the best course of action for your particular case. But before going into these details, let’s first answer a few burning questions so many women have.
Should I Call Him or Text Him
I’m going to give you guys a few pointers here so that you can understand what the difference is between calling a man and texting him and when to do which.
Generally speaking, calling is more direct than texting.
It’s more of a power move. Because of this, it can be intimidating to some guys.
This is why a lot of people text first and only start calling each other, later on in the dating phase.
But again, some men don’t have patience for beating around the bush and will appreciate you calling over texting, even early on.
It’s also easier to communicate complicated things via phone call than it is over text.
By talking to each other, you can explain things right away and avoid misunderstandings.
However, some people have an easier time expressing vulnerable things over text than on the phone.
Texting gives you time to think things through and carefully formulate what you’re trying to say.
Point being, there are really no hard rules when it comes to this.
It entirely depends on your preferences. If you’re someone who is more comfortable calling than texting, that’s perfectly ok.
The same way, if you’re more on the shy side, and you have a really hard time picking up your phone, you don’t need to push yourself out of your comfort zone.
You can also stick with just texting.
Taking your partner or crush into consideration can also be helpful to make up your mind. What do you think he would prefer?
Either way, it doesn’t matter so much how you reach him, what’s more important is knowing when to do it.
Should You Ever Call a Guy First
A lot of our female coaching clients struggle making the first move when it comes to dating. They worry it’ll make the guy perceive them as desperate or controlling.
This fear of theirs is not entirely wrong. Some men can get intimidated or defensive when they feel like they’re not in charge.
Others will really appreciate your effort, though!
We live in the 21st century now, it’s perfectly ok for the woman to make the move, when she feels like it.
So yes, you can or even should call him first.
There is really nothing wrong with you doing it! Many guys will feel flattered or relieved when you take the pressure off of them.
And if a man ends up judging you for it, then maybe he’s just too insecure and not a good match anyway.
This is the general rule when it comes to the early stages of dating. Things look a little bit different when you’ve been going out for a while.
Should I Call Him if I Miss Him
If you miss a guy you’re dating or even together with, then you most likely haven’t seen or heard from him in a while. Maybe it’s only been a few days, and you don’t know why he is silent all of a sudden.
Or perhaps it’s been a week or more, and he still hasn’t called you.
However, if you’ve been the only one who is making this relationship work, then it’s a completely different situation.
Being stuck always initiating, likely makes you worry that, if you didn’t do it, you might never hear from this guy again. So in a way, you might feel like you have to call him or text him first, if you want to keep him in your life.
How can you know if a guy likes you but is hiding it?
For you to feel this way, he must have been giving you all sorts of subtle signs lately!
Maybe it all left you wondering: “Does he really have feelings for me or am I just imagining it? Maybe he is just being friendly…”
My husband and I met at a party and he asked me out for a coffee shortly afterwards. But our conversation was so easy going and neutral, I was also unsure if he was really interested or wanted to just be friends.
Guys can be really sneaky and vague when it comes to showing their interest.
Also, sometimes they’re just shy or afraid of rejection and need encouragement in order to keep pursuing you.
This is why it’s so important that you can tell when a man secretly likes you.
In this blog post I will list all the most important signs to look out for, so that you can know for sure if he has feelings for you but is hiding it.
But before jumping into this, I first want to explain why men act this way.
Can a Guy Like You but Not Show It?
Yes, a guy can absolutely like you but not show it!
What’s more, it’s actually extremely common for relationships to develop this way, when you start off by meeting in person.
When you get to know him, you might feel an instant spark of attraction, but more often than not neither of you will know for sure if it’s mutual or not.
Especially if you meet up in a neutral setting like at school, at work, at a volunteering event, dance class etc.
These aren’t places people specifically go to to find a date.
When a guy is unsure if you feel the same way he does, he’ll often hide his feelings to protect himself from painful rejection.
Another possibility is that he already likes you as a friend and is afraid that by making the move, he’ll ruin what you currently have and lose you for good.
Guys who like you but are hiding it generally need more encouragement, for them to dare to show you how they truly feel.
This is why it’s so crucial that you can read their covert messages correctly.
11 Signs He Likes You but Is Hiding It
These signs will help you know for sure if a man secretly likes you.
When it comes to these kinds of situations, men can really be very vague and subtle.
This is why us women often overthink and overanalyze all the strange things guys say and do.
But there is no point in breaking your head over this too much.
You can trust your gut on this one!
I’ll start off this list with some general signs applicable to all situations, but I’ll also list typical things to watch out for at school or at work, as well as over text and on social media.
Let’s get to it!
1. You Keep On Catching Him Looking at You
This is an all time classic.
You feel somebody’s gaze, so you lift your eyes only to catch him staring at you.
This happens over and over again.
It can be at a work meeting, social events, in class or at a party.
Wherever it just so happens that you two are in close proximity to one another.
Maybe upon discovering this, you tend to smile at him, to make the situation a bit less awkward.
And he smiles back but says nothing.
If you keep on catching a guy looking at you, that’s a definite sign he’s interested in you but is hiding it.
Maybe he is playing it cool, waiting to see what you’ll do.
Or he just doesn’t dare to make a move.
The only thing you can know for sure, is that he definitely likes you!
2. You Keep On Bumping Into Him
Has the guy in question been magically popping up at all the same places that you’ve been at lately?
Maybe you just keep on bumping into him at parties, events or even at the grocery store or during your lunch break.
So you’re inevitably asking yourself: “What are the odds?!” and “What does it mean!?”
Coincidence does happen, but it generally happens ONCE.
If the two of you KEEP on accidentally meeting each other at random places, you can safely assume it’s intentional.
He’s been most likely making sure he’s at the right place and time to maximize the odds of “bumping into you” because he likes you but is hiding it.
He is playing it cool, pretending that it’s a coincidence, while secretly scheming to make sure he gets to see you.
This is another classic sign that a guy likes you but is hiding it:
He just can’t stop himself from offering to help you out every chance he gets.
He is eager to help you carry things and wants to fix things at your place. Maybe he tells you where to get your car checked.
Or, if you two are at school together, he offers to help you out with assignments, or study with you.
Men do this because they want you to need them.
Being useful to you is their way of securing a debt of gratitude of sorts. So that you value them but also so that you don’t move on.
It’s a definite indicator that he has feelings for you but is hiding it.
Think about it, why else would he be making so much effort!?
4. He Finds Excuses to Talk to You
This is a similar scenario, just that instead of offering you help, he might be asking things from you.
At school he might inquire about an upcoming test:
“Do you know, what’s going to be on it?” (even though you both went to the test prep lesson).
At work the same sign might look slightly different.
A guy who likes you but is hiding it might ask you about an upcoming meeting, despite him surely getting the email memo. Or he’ll ask you about the schedule for the next deadline (even if it’s in the shared calendar).
Point being, he’ll look for plausible reasons to start a conversation with you.
It’s a sure sign that he enjoys talking to you because he likes you but is hiding it.
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