Do Guys Notice When You Stop Texting Them? Yes, They Do!

Do Guys Notice When You Stop Texting Them? Yes, They Do!

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Do guys even notice when you stop texting them?

If you’re asking yourself this very question, chances are a man you like hasn’t been giving you much attention lately…

Maybe things were going well initially. You guys had a good rapport, and he was giving you all the right signals.

But then he suddenly became more distant, started taking forever to reply or giving you one word answers.

Maybe things became so bad, it made you wonder: will he even care if I don’t text him anymore?

Guys’ can be so tiresome!

They love playing hard to get, by acting distant and unavailable.

But at the same time, in some cases, their silence and resistance are subtle ways of communicating that they’re not really into you.

In this post, I will help you make sense of men’s strange texting behaviors. I will also give you some tips on how to respond in a way that will make him more interested in you.

But before getting into any more details, let me first give you a one clear answer to your first burning question:

Yes, guys absolutely notice when you stop texting them.

You see, when a man receives a lot of texts from a woman, he knows it’s a sign that she is interested in him.

Deep down, everybody enjoys receiving attention, it’s flattering and makes him feel better about himself.

So when the source of all that validation suddenly vanishes because you stopped chasing him, he will notice it.

Whether he will really care about it or not, that’s a whole different story…

Do Guys Care if You Stop Talking To Them

The answer to this question is pretty straightforward:

A guy who is genuinely interested in you will care if you stop texting him.

Even if you’ve been overtexting him so much so, he was getting slightly annoyed with everything you’ve been needing from him lately.

Still, if he really likes you, he will become at least a little unsettled when you’re suddenly not talking to him anymore.

That’s because deep down he was enjoying it and liked the feeling of having you crush on him so hard.

At the same time, a guy who isn’t interested in you will not really care if you stop talking to him.

Maybe he is just a player and was never serious about you to begin with.

Or maybe he has a hard time saying ‘no’ and was just being polite until now.

Either way, a guy who isn’t into you might even feel relieved when you stop chasing him.

Should I Stop Texting Him to Get His Attention?

Now you know that guys do notice when you stop texting them. You also know that them caring about it fully depends on whether they like you or not.

This is where we can start discussing how to play this out strategically, so that you can get him to respond and pay attention to you.

So does not texting a guy back make him want you more?

You can probably guess the answer to this one already.

A guy who just isn’t into you is not going to want you more when you don’t text him back.

He doesn’t really care and isn’t seriously interested, so you not replying isn’t going to change this and suddenly get his attention.

It’s a lost cause and a waste of time. Best just move on.

A guy who is interested in you, on the other hand, he will definitely feel unsettled when you don’t text him back.

After all, he was enjoying having you around and giving him all the validation.

So when the source of all those good feelings vanishes out of the blue because you stopped texting him, that will get his attention.

He will start worrying if you changed your mind about him and is going to try to do something to get you hooked again.

There is one exception to this rule, though.

Things might work a little different if the guy you’re dating is emotionally unavailable.

These kinds of men have an extra hard time showing their true feelings and risking getting hurt.

They might take you not texting them as a rejection, and only pull away more as a result of it. They will feel insecure, believe you don’t really care and that you are anyway better off without them.

An emotionally unavailable man will start sending you subtle signals that he misses you, though.

How Do You Know When to Stop Texting a Guy?

If a guy you’ve been texting with…

  • Started taking forever to answer
  • Is giving you one word replies
  • Or isn’t responding at all

Then know, that these are all signs that you should stop texting him.

No response is a response, but it can mean many things.

You need to stop chasing him, in order to see where he truly stands. If he cares about you, he will miss you and reach out.

If he doesn’t, you won’t hear from him for a while.

Beware, he might get back in touch with you a few weeks or even months further down the line and pretend as though the falling out never happened. Ghosters do have the tendency to come back.

But there is no point for you to waste your time on someone who isn’t serious and wants to just drop in and out of your life, no strings attached and no explanation.

You deserve so much more than this! Plus, your time will be better spend finding the right guy instead.

I Stopped Texting Him and Haven’t Heard From Him

I know that being so clear and decisive is much easier said than done.

Maybe things felt really special between you and this guy, so much so, you even wonder:

“But what if he is the one?!”

The thing is, a man who truly loves you will show it to you. He will also make the effort to keep you hooked even when you stop chasing him.

So if you stopped texting a guy, and you haven’t heard from him, that’s most likely a sign that he isn’t really serious about you.

It takes a certain degree of maturity to really commit and build a happy relationship.

A lot of people out there just aren’t there yet.

Maybe he did like you, but isn’t mature enough to really let you in and put in the work…

But if you really want to make sure you gave this relationship all you’ve got, you can always wait a little, then get back in touch with him to see if he is more responsive or not.

Sometimes, just giving him space isn’t enough to get a guy to make more effort. You have to drag him out of his hole afterwards, too!

But if you try again and still he either takes forever to reply, gives you one word answers or doesn’t respond at all, that’s a definite sign for you to just move on onto something better.

If after reading all this, you still feel unsure about your situation, this is something I could help you figure out in a coaching call.

Here you could tell me more about what happened between the two of you and how it came to this. Then together we would come up with other things you can do to get his attention and make him want you more.

This way, you can be absolutely certain that you did all you could to save your relationship.

If this sounds helpful to you, click here to check out our coaching calls.

In case you want to learn more about why guys act this way, read my other post on: Why Men Pull Away and How to Get Them to Stop Doing It.

And if you’re wondering how to really recognize it if the guy likes you or not, be sure to check out: 14 Signs He Just Isn’t Into You.

Thank you for reading!

And if you have any questions about how guys react when you stop texting them, leave me a comment, and I’ll get back to you!


How to Stop Caring About Someone Who Doesn’t Care About You

How to Stop Caring About Someone Who Doesn’t Care About You

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If you’re wondering how to stop caring about someone, I won’t lie, your situation is a difficult one.

Because chances are, you love them and care about them, but they don’t love and care about you the same way.

They may literally have said some of these words to you:

  • “I just don’t feel that way about you.”
  • “I think of you as a friend.”
  • “You should totally go out with him/her.”

So it makes sense that you’re wondering whether you can get over someone you love.

Because it HURTS to love someone who doesn’t love you back.

And every interaction with them is a painful reminder of that!

When you finally reach a point when it hurts too much to continue loving them, then you understandably want to try to forget them.

And that’s what I’m going to help you with in this post.

How Do You Stop Caring About Someone Who Doesn’t Love You?

It’s a heart-wrenching experience.

On the one hand, you care about them, but you know it’s probably time to let go.

But the idea of letting go can feel disrespectful towards the love you feel for them and ultimately yourself. (since these are YOUR valid feelings after all!)

So just to reassure you before we talk about how you can unlove someone.

Doing this process DOES NOT invalidate you or your feelings.

It just means you’ve reached a point where it’s hurting you more than it’s fulfilling you.

So you understandably want to try a different approach.

This is the 7-Step journey to stop caring about someone when you’re in love.

1. Acknowledge That It’s Hurting You

When you’re overwhelmed with how good it feels to be in love or infatuated with someone, it can be incredibly mesmerizing.

It’s like a perfect place that you could stay in FOREVER.

The fantasy alone of being with this person can make you feel safe and like you belong.

So it only makes sense that you’d want it to be real.

But the fact of the matter is, you’re here now, because they’re hurting you more than they’re giving you.

And if you haven’t yet, it’s important to acknowledge that sooner than later.

Because as wonderful as the fantasy may be…

When you’re stuck in a position of endlessly caring about them, and their love is repeatedly denied, it takes its toll on you.

It hurts you and can chip away at your self-worth.

So, if you’ve been pining after them and caring for over a few months and nothing has come of it…

Then know it’s likely hurting you more and it’s time to stop and move on.

2. Don’t Let Them Rule You

The next step is to understand that when you’re stuck in a PATTERN of loving and caring for them, and they repeatedly ignore, dismiss or reject your advances…

You’re giving them A LOT of POWER.

Now, they may or may not abuse your love and care, but either way it’s not a balanced or healthy dynamic to be in.

It’s all well and good to pine after someone you love as both sides figure things out in a month or so.

But when it doesn’t stop and drags out for weeks and months, it’s time to accept the signs that they don’t feel the same way.

And that endlessly caring about them is only going to make you feel worse and ‘not good enough’.

When they’ve taken this long they’re NOT going to change their mind, so don’t let them do this to you.

3. Stop Talking to Them

I know this one is likely to be difficult.

But at this point, you really need to protect and reduce the emotional strain on yourself.

And it’s an important step to get someone out of your mind and heart.

When you’ve acknowledged that caring about someone is hurting you and you need to take the power back, you’ll be ready to stop talking to them.

Now, this DOESN’T need to be a sudden switch.

If it feels right to you, give yourself a week or two to let things slowly fizzle out and stop talking or meeting them.

The reason you need to create this boundary is that it’s what will give you the time and space to focus on and care for yourself.

4. Spend Time With People, to Stop Thinking About the ‘What Ifs’

It’s only natural that you won’t be able to put them off your mind immediately.

And don’t worry, there’s no pressure or rush.

But once you’ve stopped talking to them, it’s important to fill that gap with other people.

And there is seriously NO BETTER distraction, than company.

Go see friends, family, pick up a new hobby and meet new people.

I personally loved learning partner dancing.

My mind and body were busy trying to figure out the moves, while simultaneously trying to coordinate with music AND another person!

It’s honestly one of the best ways to stop caring about the ‘what might have been’ thoughts.

And talking to all these people will fill out your social life, keeping you busy.

Now, I wish this was the end, but as you likely know, it’s unfortunately not so simple.

Next, you’ll need to…

5. Give Yourself Time to Grieve

While you’re doing all of the above, you’re likely going to experience a couple of emotional rollercoasters.

One moment you feel totally fine and you’re sure that you’ve moved on from someone you cared about, but can’t be with.

And the next, it all comes crashing down and you’re doubtful whether your life could ever feel fulfilling without them in it.

But don’t worry, it’s OKAY!

It’s just part of the process. This is you acknowledging and respecting your feelings.

There’s no need to stop these feelings.

Yes, you cared and loved someone. No, they did not reciprocate your love. And yes, it did (and does still) hurt.

But you’re going to be okay.

The fact that you managed without them before, proves that you can manage without them now!

6. Consider Dating to Build Your Self-Worth

Alongside your social life and new hobbies (that possibly involve dancing ;)) you’ll be meeting plenty of people.

And once you’re working through the steps above, one of the best ways to unlove and forget someone, is through casual dating.

No, it doesn’t need to be anything serious. Just an easy-going but enjoyable first date.

Nothing that makes you feel pressured.

But if you put yourself out there on dating apps, or even do some fun speed dating just because…

You’ll soon come to realize that there are PLENTY of people that DO care and have the hots for you!

Which will put a stop to any negative thoughts.

And that is a very important experience to have and realization to come to.

Because you’ll be getting acknowledgement, approval, and interest from others, which will rebuild your confidence and sense of self-worth.

But, if you’re saying it’s too soon for you, I totally understand.

Sometimes you need some time to reconnect with yourself and also enjoy the often underrated benefits of being single.

7. Realize You Deserve Better

Now, no disrespect to that (previously?) special someone in your life.

But you deserve better than a one-sided love.

And realizing this is important.

You’re a fully fledged human being, with your very own unique presence, talents, and are clearly someone who is caring and willing to put a lot of effort into making love work.

And that shouldn’t be wasted on someone who is too blind to see the wonderful person that stands before them!

Again. You deserve better.


So can you forget someone you love?

Yes, you absolutely can forget someone you love and even should if they’re not reciprocating your love.

And if you’re wondering, how do you move on when you still love someone?

The answer is, when you work through the 7 steps we mentioned above, you will gradually fall out of love with them and in love with a new person.

Because there are truly plenty of fish in the sea.

And if you’re feeling a little lost right now, don’t worry, it will get better with time.

As to how long it takes to get over someone.

It may not seem like it when you’re in the midst of it all. But give yourself a few months and you’ll have stopped caring about them and will feel great again.

Yes, they may have been amazing and all, but you know who’s more amazing?

Yeah, that’s right, the strong person reading this post right now.

Give yourself enough time and company, and you’ll be surprised at your own strength and how many people DO actually value care for what you have to offer.

And if you want help processing any of this, you might find our one-on-one coaching calls helpful.In a call we’ll be able to get into the details of how exactly to stop caring about someone who doesn’t care about you. And give the you right tools and mindset to attract people who will return your love. 

You can click here to find out more about our coaching calls.

Otherwise, if you find yourself stuck in a cycle of choosing the wrong person, you might want to read Karolinas’ post How to Finally Find the Right Guy.

For now, if you have any questions, please drop them down below and I’ll get back to you!



50 Flirty Texts to Make Him Think About You All Day Long

50 Flirty Texts to Make Him Think About You All Day Long

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So you want some good texts to know how to make him think about you all day?

Well, fear not, you have come to the right place!

You’ll only find the best of the best texts here, that have style, substance or are so outrageously effective, they ought to be against some law.

What’s more, I just also happen to be a guy.

Which means each one of these texts has been guy-screened-and-verified before making it onto the list.

So rest assured, you can’t make a misstep with these texts.

And after texting him, don’t be surprised if he’s at your door within the next hour, begging to be let in.

(I suggest you make any necessary preparations -just in case)

Because these are the FINEST ways to text a guy to make him want to see you! Even if he’s fighting his feelings for you.

Now, I’ve ordered them in an escalating sequence.

What this means is that the texts start with the lighter, more neutral ones and move all the way up to the rather scandalous texts that will drive him crazy with desire for you.

Then, the final texts are to make him fall in love with you.

They will be in this order:

  • Flirty Texts to Make Him Think About You
  • Cute Texts to Make Him Miss You
  • Tantalizing Texts to Make Him Chase You
  • Seductive Texts to Make Him Obsess Over You
  • Heartfelt Texts to Make Him Fall in Love With You

So my recommendation is, that depending on where you’re at with him at the moment, slowly work your way towards the texts at the bottom of this post.

But DON’T start at the end.

Tease him a little! Guys like that too!

Flirty Texts to Make Him Think About You

So first, you want to start with low-key texts that will first get him to think about you.

These texts will be more general, easy going, and also safer for you to start with.

And if done right, you’ll manage to make him think about you all day!

So be sure to pace yourself and leave moments to breathe between your back and forth with him.

If he’s not responding, don’t send the next text! Wait instead.

This way you can organically and gradually build a good tension with him.

And only send the texts that feel true to you:

1. Just wanted to say good morning and hope you have a great day!

2. Hey, how’s your day going?

3. Sending you a heartfelt hug.

4. I was dreaming about you all day; it really distracted me at work.

5. What would you say, if I told you I was contemplating finishing up early?

6. Want to go out and forget the world’s problems for a night?

7. There’s a spider at my house. You better come help.

8. I’m thinking it’s a burgers and beer kind of night… You in?

9. I’m sorry you’re having a crappy day. Anything I can do to help?

10. Let’s go on an adventure together. Want to try a new hike this weekend?

Cute Texts to Make Him Miss You

Now that you’re on his mind, it’s time for the next stage.

Using texts to make him MISS YOU.

These texts will make him smile for hours and remind him of how nice it is to have you around.

Also, he’ll stop pulling away and start to feel a growing desire to be with you instead:

11. I can’t believe I actually found a guy who’s smart, funny AND insanely hot.

12. So I was thinking of a foursome… you, me, Netflix & chill

13. You know sometimes when I feel down, I just think about you and feel a bit better already.

14. I have a serious question and you can’t cheat with your distracting eyes this time!

15. You and my love of wine are running neck-and-neck.

16. Your considered use of emojis and appreciation for punctuation gets me so wild.

17. I think I’ve fallen ill with omghowareyousohot-itis.

18. You’ve disrupted my plans to keep my heart under lock and key.

19. Can we just call in sick tomorrow and spend the whole day together?

20. Sometimes when I think of you, I feel so… (let him hang for a moment, but then give him a treat!) … secure / happy / alive, etc.

Tantalizing Texts to Make Him Chase You

So you’ve succeeded in making him think about you and miss you. Now, this is where the fun REALLY begins, where you get him to chase you.

These texts will help him wake up to the fact that you’re not by his side at this very moment, and that he doesn’t like that at all.

Not one bit.

He’ll come chasing you down like a leopard comes after a gazelle. (Only that he falls in love with the gazelle instead, of course.)

These texts will likely get him to chase you wildly, so use them carefully.

21. I can’t stop thinking about last night…

22. Such a stressful day. Want to blow off some steam tonight?

23. Sometimes when I think of you, I’m doing it without clothes on.

24. Come over. Now. Nobody is here except me.

25. You’re going to love the outfit I wear tonight.

26. I’m in bed and it feels very empty without you here.

27. I am sooo hungry right now…thing is…I don’t want food.

28. If you want to drive by mine tonight I promise I’ll make it worth it

29. Any outlandish desires you’d like me to cater to tonight?

30. I’ve been good right? When do I get my reward?

Seductive Texts to Make Him Obsess Over You

Excellent, he’s on the move now.

And he’s probably burning the rubber off his car tires, just so he can get to you sooner!

(I sure hope he remembers to pull the handbrake for flowers on the way though.)

These text messages will make him obsess over you, in the best of ways:

31. Buy one, get-me-free drinks at mine tonight

32. Just saw my doctor and was prescribed kisses from a sexy guy. Do you know where I could fill my prescription?

33. I had a dream about you last night. Now I want to make it reality.

34. I would invite you to come over this weekend, but I’m not sure I can keep my hands to myself.

35. My thoughts are especially X-rated today. I think it’s your fault…

36. I love it when my roommate’s gone because I never have to wear clothes.

37. Come over. No one is home except me.

38. If you come over now, I promise to pamper you and massage your ego amongst other things…

39. I just took some sexy pics, but they’re too inappropriate to post on Instagram. Want to see?

40. I know I don’t have a treadmill, but wanna workout in bed together?

Maybe at this point he’s already giving you some of the signs of true love from a man.

Heartfelt Texts to Make Him Fall in Love With You

After he has spent time with you and you both feel closer, it’s time to wrap it up and put a neat bow on it, with texts to make a man fall in love with you.

Because when you’ve had some quality time, it’s only natural for him to open up more.

And it’s a nice moment to express your appreciation of the wonderful time you had together.

He’ll appreciate that and love you all the more for it.

41. I really had a wonderful time with you.

42. Sometimes it feels like time stands still with you and I could just be there forever.

43. You are one of the best things that ever happened to me.

44. You know I’m obsessed with coffee, but you really give it a run for its money.

45. I keep thinking about how good you were at cooking. Mind demonstrating your culinary talents again soon?

46. I was going to wait another day or two to text you, but I can’t wait that long to talk to you.

47. Your arms are so strong, I felt totally safe when you held me.

48. I love how smart you are. I really value that about you.

49. Why does time with you always feel so special to me? What’s your secret?

50. I like how bold you are, you really help me experience things I normally wouldn’t try on my own.

Also, if you’re falling head over heels for this guy, you can tell him with these 50 Heartfelt Ways.

And there you have it.

You’re basically a texting pro at this point, and he should be lying in your arms, smiling and happy for all the love you’ve been showering him with.

Thanks to your texts, he will be thinking about you all day and look forward to seeing you again soon!

If you need some help finding the right thing to text or how to capture his heart and make him truly yours, you might be interested in our 1-1 coaching calls.

In a call, you’ll learn the best ways to say and text things to make him fall head over heels for you and want to spend every minute of the day with you.

You can click here to check out coaching calls.

I hope you found this post helpful.

If you’d like to read more, you might be interested in reading: Make Him Want You With These 7 Sneaky Ways.

Otherwise if you find he isn’t responding the way you’d hoped, check out: No Response Is a Response – 5 Things It Could Mean

I hope you guys have fun!


17 Signs He Is Fighting His Feelings for You

17 Signs He Is Fighting His Feelings for You

Photo by Yan Krukov

Men can be very confusing.

Especially when you’re looking for signs whether he is fighting his feelings for you.

Because the amount of mixed messages he might be giving you, can send you into a spin of confusion, which can make you wonder whether he has emotions for you at all.

So let’s make sense of his behavior and identify the definite signs that will give you the answers you need!

Why Is He Fighting His Feelings for Me?

Let’s start with a question, many of you have asked.

If a guy has feelings for you, why on earth is he fighting them SO hard??

Especially if you’re giving him the signs that you’re anyway interested!

You could just get together already!

So the simple answer is:

He is either in denial or afraid of his own feelings for you.

You see, men tend to frame themselves as being in control of their lives and having it all figured out, so you might find yourself actually starting to believe him.

(Especially when they’re so convincing because they’ve deluded themselves into it too!)

But the truth is, emotionally unavailable men are no rarity and when it comes to his own feelings, it can be especially difficult for him to know where his heart truly lies.

So he fights his feelings instead.

I would know.

Because when Karolina and I started dating, I was saying the typical things men say:

  • “I’m not sure what I’m looking for.“
  • “I don’t know if I want to commit to anything.“
  • “I don’t know if I felt the same way you do.“

But the fact of the matter was, I was fighting my feelings and clearly falling head over heels for her WITHOUT even realizing it!

I would give her signs that I’m not that interested, but would then make sure we met regularly or were attending the same social events.

I would make kind gestures that a man wouldn’t do if you were “just friends”.

You may be in similar circumstances where his words and behavior leave you increasingly CONFUSED.

So let’s get into whether he is hiding his feelings or if he is simply not interested. And talk about how guys express their feelings in hidden ways!

This will finally give you the clarity you need.

Signs He Is Fighting His Feelings for You

So how do you tell if a man is fighting his feelings for you?

The following list will help you notice the signs you’ll need to keep an eye out for.

Not all of them need to fit!

And you’ll likely experience some more than others.

1. He Is Nervous or Awkward Around You

When he’s fighting his feelings for you, his inner conflict is bound to reflect on the OUTSIDE.

Watch him to see if he is unusually out of character when you’re around him.

So much so, he might lose his cool and stumble on a few words.

Or he will say something a little awkward in an effort to bridge the silence and pretend that the delightful tension isn’t building between the two of you.

2. He Secretly Looks at You

Did you just catch him sneaking a peek at you?

Yes, you did.

One of the tell-tale signs of a guy fighting his feelings for you is him repeatedly looking at you.

This may range from an innocent glance in your direction, to a full body seriously-checks-you-out scan.

Manners, please.

3. He Plays Distant and Cool

When you’re hanging out and talking, and he responds to you, with this kind of stuff:

  • “Oh yeah, whatever.”
  • “I don’t really care.”
  • “Suits me fine.”
  • “I’m good either way.”

Don’t buy it.

This game of him being distant and aloof is just another way he tries to stay in control and fight his feelings for you.

Because when he is around you, his emotions are all over the show, and he can’t tell where up or down is anymore.

So, best just play it off like he is happy either way and doesn’t mind what you choose.

When he definitely does care and wants to be around you.

Consider giving him a taste of his own medicine and make him desperately want you in sneaky ways…

Maybe that’ll finally help him admit that he is clearly fighting his feelings for you.

4. He Gives You Mixed Messages

Karolina would often tell me that I used to give her endless mixed messages.

I was all, “Oh, I’m not really interested in anything serious. I just want to have fun and be free to do what I want.”

Followed by “Do you have plans for tomorrow?” “I’ve got an idea for your architecture project, do you need some help?”

In the same way, he will tell you one thing, but do another.

So closely watch what he DOES over what he says to know if he is fighting his feelings for you.

5. He Finds Excuses to Be Around You

Whether it’s a group event or just the two of you, a way to tell if a guy is slowly falling for you, is that he will use any excuse to be around you.

And at some point you’ll have to face the music and realize that it’s NOT a coincidence, he’s always there, hovering around like a second shadow.

With Karolina, I may have acted as though it just so happened that we kept being at the same social events…

But believe you me, I was always well aware if she was gonna be there or not.

So if you keep “coincidently” bumping into him, know that this is a way in which men often show their love without saying it.

And you can count it as a sign he is fighting his feelings for you.

6. He Plays Power Games With You

When a guy secretly likes a girl, he will often fight you playfully or argue with you over silly things.

Whether he finds creative ways for the two of you to “stumble” into the bushes, and you end up wrestling between the lush ferns.

Or he makes silly remarks to make you blush in front of your friends.

He’ll find (often questionable) ways of establishing he has power over you.

In these moments, feel free to increase the tingling tension between the two of you, by shooting a challenge back at him.

He’ll like that.

7. He Makes Kind and Thoughtful Gestures

Now, it’s not all bad when he is giving you signs of fighting his feelings for you.

There’s also a lot of gentle and kind things he will do or say as well.

Sometimes he might cross the city to bring you the scarf you forgot at last night’s party.

And shrug it off, as though he would do it for anyone. “Ah, don’t mention it.”

Or he will help hook you up with a contact of his to help with that project or job hunt of yours.

Gestures like these (that he will likely try to write off as “What are friends for?”) are clear signs of true love from a man.

8. He Talks About You to His Friends

If you have mutual friends, you’ll likely catch wind of how he mentions you to his friends.

He’ll find excuses to talk about how you know this, you can do that, you said this the other day and hopefully followed by how amazingly intelligent and gorgeous you are.

So much, so they might get annoyed at him for talking about that one girl AGAIN.

“Just ask her out already!”

This is a weird way in which men fight their feelings for their crush and go about telling everybody except the person they should be sharing this with, you!

If you do have a friend on the inside, be sure to ask them about this one sign.

9. He Is Protective of You

If you ever experienced that feeling of somebody strong looking out for you, where you feel protected and safe…

Then you’ll easily catch this sign.

Even though you’re not together yet, he will be giving you these protective vibes.

It’s often unspoken.

But everything about his body language, what he does and what he says will convey that he is looking out for you and your well-being.

At times maybe a little too much, but in a cute way…

Like that dangerous plastic bag threatening to fly into your face? He has already pinned it to the ground.

The other men at the bar flirting with you? He has already evaluated them as unworthy of you.

So if he’s assigned himself your personal bodyguard, count another sign that he is fighting his feelings for you.

10. He Tries to Make You Jealous

If you’ve ever wondered how guys show they care, then jealousy is one of the less elegant ways in which he will demonstrate that to you.

He is too afraid to directly admit that he has feelings for you, so he will find ways to make you wonder whether there is another woman in his life to invoke jealousy.

This is an admittedly rather lousy attempt at trying to get a reaction out of you and feel like he has some control.

Think of it as an ‘adult’ equivalent of boys pushing the girl they like in the sandpit to get her attention.

Either way, not particularly charming, but a sign nonetheless.

11. He Won’t Acknowledge it’s ‘a Date’

No matter how obvious it is, when he is fighting his feelings for you, he will resist acknowledging you’re on a date.

It’s the elephant in the room that he pretends doesn’t exist.

And if you hint that spending time together like this, might mean something more…

He’ll likely play it down as “Just hanging out.” or “Having a good time with a friend.”

Don’t let him bypass you this way.

If it’s the two of you ALONE for more than one occasion, there are more emotions he is feeling that he’s not sharing.

And if you happen to be childhood friends, he will definitely try to write your time off as nothing more than ‘friends’.

12. He Is Genuinely Curious About You

You know those moments when someone just hones in on you and the world around you seems to blur and slow down?

If you’re having these moments with him, then he is definitely REALLY into you.

He’ll ask you genuine and deep questions.

Some might be intellectually stimulating and interesting, while others might cause a nervous but pleasant flutter in your stomach.

Also consider that he might be drawn to you without even realizing it himself.

But when a guy shows this kind of curiosity towards you, definitely take it as a sign that he is fighting his emotions for you.

13. He Tries to Impress You

A cliché as old as time.

Yes, he will try to impress you. Just like the wild, crazy birds you’ve seen in nature documentaries.

He’ll dance and prance, talk and squawk and stare with deep care…

Okay fine. Maybe not in a literal sense, but you get the idea!

Whether he is trying to impress you with his knowledge base in a particular field or a skill he is eager to show off.

This is again something men do when they have feelings for you, but are fighting them.

14. He Engages With You on Social Media

Sometimes it’s easier for men to express their emotions from a safe distance with social media.

Is he proactive and likes or comments on your posts?

Or maybe he’s in fight-or-flight mode and only views them and dares a “LOL” when you share a funny meme with him.

Either way, if he is continuously engaging with you online (social media or text), consider him interested in you!

15. He Avoids Talking About His Feelings for You

We’ve covered many signs already, but this one is likely to be one of the biggest he will fight.

Because a lot of the other signs are indirect, so he risks less!

But him actually acknowledging, let alone talking about his feelings for you, is likely way too vulnerable and risky for him.

So he will avoid it at all costs. Especially at the beginning.

Once you’re over the initial hurdle and are officially together, he will be likelier to admit he had feelings for you all along.

16. Your Shared Chemistry Is Obvious

Now, despite all of his denial, the spark between the two of you will be obvious.

When you guys are together, something is… different.

There’s a slight electricity in the air, and an undercurrent to everything you’re saying.

Almost as though the words don’t matter and the exchange you’re having is an open secret about how you’re both crazy into each other.

If your chemistry feels anything like that, and he is not acknowledging it. Then he is definitely fighting his feelings for you.

17. He Wants You, but Isn’t Committing

This sign is another one that is full of contradictions.

He’ll sabotage your efforts to be with someone else and make sure you guys somehow “randomly” end up spending time together.

He isn’t directly asking you out on a date, or for you to be his girlfriend.

No, he’s keeping things vague, ambiguous and downplaying anything that might give your clearly-special relationship meaning.

If he is doing this with you, DON’T tolerate it forever.

You don’t want to feel like you’re in a one-sided relationship, after all.

Feel free to call him out and tell him he is clearly fighting his feelings for you and you guys should just finally go on an official date!

Summary of Signs He Is Fighting His Feelings for You

For your convenience, here’s a collection of the indicators we just covered.

So be sure to look out for these signs to know whether he’s fighting his feelings for you:

1. He Is Nervous or Awkward Around You
2. He Secretly Looks at You
3. He Plays Distant and Cool
4. He Gives You Mixed Messages
5. He Finds Excuses to Be Around You
6. He Plays Power Games With You
7. He Makes Kind and Thoughtful Gestures
8. He Talks About You to His Friends
9. He Is Protective of You
10. He Tries to Make You Jealous
11. He Won’t Acknowledge it’s ‘a Date’
12. He Is Genuinely Curious About You
13. He Tries to Impress You
14. He Engages With You on Social Media
15. He Avoids Talking About His Feelings for You
16. Your Shared Chemistry Is Obvious
17. He Wants You, but Isn’t Committing

And that covers it! You’re well-prepared and know which signs to watch out for.

If you’d like any additional help with your dating life and finally getting him to admit his feelings for you, then you might find our 1-1 coaching calls helpful.In a coaching call, we’ll be able to give you tailored advice for your exact circumstances to make sure everything goes according to plan, and you can secure a proper date with Mr. I’m-definitely-not-fighting-my-feelings.

Both Karolina and I have extensive experience in the dating world and helping our clients navigate the often treacherous terrain.

So consider booking a call with us here and you’ll have the ear and eyes of an expert in your corner.

And if you have further questions, maybe this post will give you more answers: How Long Should the Talking Stage Last Before Dating?

And maybe, since it’s probably overdue and equally important: How to Get Him to Finally Ask You Out.

I hope you found this post helpful and as always, if you have any questions, leave them below, and I’ll get back to you.

See you next time.


How Long Should the Talking Stage Last Before Dating

How Long Should the Talking Stage Last Before Dating

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How long a good talking stage should last entirely depends on your character and also on the life circumstances you and your crush are in. There are no universal rules when it comes to falling in love and dating.

Everybody is different.

Some people are ready to move forward with dating just after a short text exchange. While others need weeks or even months to get there.

Life also sometimes comes in the way and can stop a budding relationship from progressing.

At the same time, there are people out there who want to string you along forever.

They might be intentionally staying stuck in the talking stage to keep you as backup, or just for the sake of using you for validation.

In this post, I will outline what factors can make the talking stage longer and how to recognize if it is too long already.

I’ll also talk about what to do to finally move forward and make dating official.

But before jumping into the particulars of this topic, let’s first briefly outline how to even recognize that you are in the talking stage.

How Do You Know You’re in the Talking Stage

You are in the talking stage with someone, if the two of you share a bit of an unspoken connection. You’re crushing on them, but are not entirely sure if they feel the same way.

However, you suspect that it is the case, because there’s undeniable chemistry and tension between the two of you!

You also likely text on regular bases. Alternatively, you keep on ‘bumping into each other’ at work, parties, at the gym etc.

Point being, you’re in regular contact of some kind, but you’re not officially dating yet.

How Long Should the Talking Stage Last

As previously mentioned, how long the talking stage is for a couple, depends on a lot of factors: like your character, preferences and life circumstances.

For example, introverts and people who are shy are more likely to need a longer warm up time before they open up and dare to express their feelings.

Another big factor that can prevent you from moving forward with dating are difficult life circumstances.

Things like health problems, stress at work, family emergencies or moving, can also come in the way and eat up all of your or your crush’s attention.

This was actually the case for my husband and I. We had a relatively long talking stage. It took us two and a half months to go from talking and bumping into each other to officially dating.

This was because Gabriel (my husband and co author of this blog) was moving at the time we met. And it took him a while to find a new place and settle in. So those circumstances prevented us from starting to officially date for about a month.

Ultimately, the talking stage should last as long as you’re comfortable with it lasting.

If you’re ok with you and your crush just talking and keeping things vague for months on end, then everything is fine.

There is no rush and no deadline.

You can stay in the talking stage as long as you want.

However, if you’re frustrated with the situation you’re in and impatient to finally start officially dating, that’s a sign your talking stage is already too long.

It’s time to make some changes and maybe even call out your crush and see where they really stand and what they truly want.

How Long Should the Talking Stage Last, Long Distance

Another big factor that might make the talking stage last longer for you is if you’re in a long distance situation.

Not everybody is willing to put up with the challenges of living far away from the person they are dating. That’s why they might need to ‘just talk’ for a longer period of time before wanting any kind of commitment.

Some people might even need to wait for some concrete prospect that would bring the two of you physically closer before wanting to involve themselves romantically.

This is why you can expect the talking stage to last longer in a long distance situation. Sometimes it can go on for months or even years.

This is not always going to be the case. There are people out there who are more comfortable with having a long distance partner.

And they will have no reservations and will make an effort to move things forward.

Talking Stage Dos and Don’ts

There are no fixed rules of the talking stage.

However, there are certain things you can do that can make the progress faster.

There are also things that can sabotage your chances or keep you stuck in the talking stage forever.

So let’s cover the top 3 do’s and top 3 don’ts to give you the best shot!

Do Go On Dates

Going on dates in the talking stage is going to be far more casual than it is when you’re officially dating. You might spontaneously arrange something, meet up for a coffee, go for lunch together etc.

It is probably the most effective way of shortening the talking stage.

Meeting in person is the best way to get to know each other, check if you have chemistry and if you’re a good match.

It also gives you an opportunity to make a move, start holding hands, kiss etc.

There are many things you can do to make a date feel special.

Plus, holding your crush’s hand or giving them a kiss might be enough to go from being just friends to officially dating.

Do Reach Out and Show Initiative

Being passive and never showing your interest is a big no-go in the talking stage.

(By doing it, you’re basically communicating you’re not into it and are just letting things fizzle out.)

Both men and women require encouragement in order to keep pursuing you.

That’s why one of the biggest dos in this stage of ‘just talking’ is taking action and making things happen.

This might mean many things: being the first one to reach out, sending a flirty text, asking him/her out etc.

And if you’re just too shy to make things happen yourself, you can also just send subtle hints to get your crush to ask you out instead.

Do Flirt With Your Crush

Flirting is one of the best ways to communicate that you want more than being ‘just friends’. That’s why it’s an absolute must in the talking stage.

That’s how you let your crush know you want to take things further. Without flirting, you’ll be stuck in the friend zone forever.

Now for the top 3 don’ts.

Don’t Over-text

Over-texting is one of the biggest no-nos in the talking stage.

When you endlessly spam your crush with funny memes, TikToks, stories etc. you’ll come across as desperate. It’s not only very unattractive, it might even scare them away.

This is why it’s important to try to keep things balanced.

It’s not that you shouldn’t share these kinds of messages with your crush.It’s all well and good to make them laugh or update them on your life now and then.

Just try to gauge their reaction and adapt the number of text you send to that.

And if they stop responding, take a moment and try to figure out what happened.

Don’t Be the Only One to Always Initiate Contact

It takes two people to successfully get past the talking stage and start officially dating. If you feel like you’re the only one who is making things happen, it’s a sign it’s time for you to take the back seat.

This way, you’ll give your crush room to step up their game and reach out to you first for a change.

It’s also a way of finding out if they are serious about you or not.

If they’re interested, they’ll make the move. If they do nothing, you’re probably only wasting your time anyway.

Don’t Ignore the Red Flags

If you’re in the talking stage and your crush says or does things that make you feel a bit uneasy, most people’s reaction is to brush it off and start making excuses:

Oh, they didn’t mean it this way.

It was just a joke.

They’re probably just really busy right now.

Don’t be so sure… if your crush keeps on jumping in and out of your life like this, they might be a ghoster…

The talking stage is the time when you’re getting to know each other and evaluating whether this person is a good match for you.

That’s why it’s important to trust your gut and not diminish or ignore the red flags.

This way, you can protect yourself from wasting your time or even being seriously hurt in the future.

How Do You Get Past the Talking Stage

Now that you know how long the talking stage should be and are also familiar with the most essential rules of this phase, it’s time to finally discuss how to get past it.

In most cases, progressing out of the talking stage is a natural process.

As you get to know each other, you grow closer, only to eventually get to the point when one of you makes the move, and you then start officially dating.

That’s how it was for my husband and me. We met at a party, went out for coffee, went to more parties and eventually made plans to go to the movies together.

The movie we picked was extremely boring, so we went out for drinks afterwards (to make up for it and finally have some fun). That’s when he made the move and reached out for my hand.

(My heart was pounding!)

He kept on calmly talking to me and as the moment built, we finally shared our first kiss and the sparks were flying all evening long…

For us, as well as for many others, getting past the talking stage was an organic and gradual process.

So it’s really not something you need to obsess over too much.

You’re better off focusing on just flirting and getting to know your crush more.

How Do You Know the Talking Stage Is Going Well

The best way to recognize that everything is fine, and your talking stage is gradually progressing, is if you feel like you and your date are getting to know each other better and better.

Another good way to measure that this phase is going well is if the amount of communication between the two of you is steadily increasing.

If you keep on texting and feel increasingly comfortable with each other, then everything is going well!

Don’t worry too much, you’ll get there soon enough.

When to Bring Up the “Where Is This Going?” Question

If the talking stage with your crush has been going well (or at least ok), and you’re ready to start officially dating, a possible way to make it happen is by asking the “Where is this going?” question.

This way, you will confront yourself with the reality of the situation.

If they are genuinely interested in being in a relationship with you, they’ll give you an answer.

Don’t expect them to be one hundred percent clear on what they really want.

Nobody ever is.

But if they give you at least some encouragement, that’s probably good enough.

There is of course also a possibility that they were only stringing you along and never even intended in taking things further.

In this case, they will likely try to dodge answering your question.

If after asking your crush “Where is this going?” you only feel more frustrated and lost, it’s a sign you might be dealing with a player.

What to Do if You Are Stuck in the Talking Stage

If, despite all of your efforts, you continue being stuck in the talking stage, there are a couple of reasons as to why that is.

Emotionally unavailable people have a hard time opening up. If your crush struggles with that, it might take extra effort to gain their trust enough for them to want to take things further.

Another sad possibility is that they just aren’t into you. Or maybe they’re only interested in being friends.

There is no point waiting for something that will most likely never happen.

You deserve to be together with someone who will truly care about you.

Perhaps you just haven’t met this person yet…

Either way, if you feel frustrated and stuck, it’s a sign it’s time to make some changes.

If you could do with some guidance when it comes to your dating life, that’s something I can help you with in a coaching call.

Here, I’ll listen to your story and help you identify patterns that are holding you back and not letting you get what you want.

I’ll also give you tips on what to do, to appear more attractive and mysterious. This way, your crush won’t be able to resist you and will want to commit to you.

If you’re interested, you can click here to find out more about our coaching calls.

In case you’re a woman stuck in the talking stage with a guy, you might want to check out my husband’s post: Make Him Want You With These 7 Sneaky Ways

And if you have any questions, leave me a comment below, and I’ll get back to you.


50 Sad One Sided Relationship Quotes About One Way Love

50 Sad One Sided Relationship Quotes About One Way Love

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If you’re looking for one sided relationship quotes to feel a little less alone and feel understood, then you’re in the right place.

I’ve compiled the best quotes from phrases, sayings, poems and songs that will give you the “Somebody else gets what I’m going through!” feeling.

Because you definitely are not alone with being in a one sided relationship.

One way relationship quotes can help you realize that. They can also give you new perspectives on a love that is not reciprocated, that might be breaking your heart.

To make it easier for you, the one sided love quotes are in the following categories:

  • One sided relationship quotes for when you’re Feeling in Love
  • One sided relationship quotes for when you’re Feeling Hurt & Alone
  • One sided relationship quotes for when you’re Feeling it’s Time to Move On

They’re ordered in a way that reflects the ways you’ll experience one sided relationships.

Which generally starts with:

One Sided Relationship Quotes | Feeling in Love

If you have a crush, and they’re just not responding the way you’d hoped, then these quotes will undoubtedly speak to you.

They’re about people in situations that are before the dating stages.

Where you’re likely admiring them for a distance, maybe even secretly wish that they’d finally take notice of you and your affections!

One Sided Relationship Quotes | Feeling Hurt & Alone

Another way in which you can experience a one way relationship is when either your crush has not reciprocated your love for too long.

Or when you are in a relationship with someone, but are doing all the heavy lifting and feel like there’s nothing coming back in return.

Your partner is just taking you for granted and doesn’t worry about losing you.

One Sided Relationship Quotes | Time to Move On

This final category of quotes is all about how you might feel when you’ve reached your limit and just can’t take it anymore.

You’ve given so much already, you feel like if you continue, your heart might just run dry.

So in order to protect it and nurture it again, you may have to set some boundaries and in the worst case, decide that it’s time to move on.

I hope these quotes help you feel better afterwards!

One Sided Relationship Quotes | Feeling in Love

1. One word from you would make my whole day bright, dear crush.

2. I cannot fathom congratulating you on finding love when I’m not the giver of that love.

3. Hundreds of glances I give him each day, but not one I get in return.

4. I wonder what it’s like to be loved by you. – Wonder, Shawn Mendes

5. It’s hard to wait around for something that you know might never happen. But it’s even harder to give up when you know it’s everything you want.

6. I love you, and it kills me each day to see that you do not feel the same way too.

7. If only life was fair, but I understand it’s not, that’s why you cannot love me.

8. Cupid is nothing without harmony, and you made me understand why.

9. Sometimes I wanna wake up not remembering anything about you.

10. Nobody’s home but me, I’m the only one hangin’ on one-sided love. – Brooke Hogan

11. All of a sudden, my dreams seem to be better than my reality, because at least you loved me in my sleep.

12. People do incredible things for love, particularly for unrequited love.

13. My life has been a continuum of unanswered prayers and you bear the largest portion of that.

14. I find myself wishing every time, if only you knew you are the reason.

15. I’m tired of loving you and hoping you’ll do the same.

One Sided Relationship Quotes | Feeling Hurt & Alone

16. My heart is hollow and only you can fill it, yet it remains empty.

17. There’s nothing quite as sad as a one-sided love. When one doesn’t care at all and the other cares too much. – Dolly Parton

18. A relationship is nothing if all the feelings, sacrifices, contributions and hard work are only coming from one end. – Kisstopher

19. Relationships are worth fighting for, but sometimes you can’t be the only one fighting. – Emily Christine

20. I lost my mind trying to understand yours.

21. I’m not mad. I’m hurt. There’s a difference.

22. You have so much power over me to make me happy or sad. Yet the only thing you’ve ever done has been the latter by saying no.

23. Loving someone who will never love you back is like going to war and standing in the line of fire with your arms wide open.

24. I feel like I’m waiting for something that isn’t going to happen.

25. A long time ago, I thought I met the one. But all I did was meet my suffering, because you’ve innocently been my suffering.

26. Seeing you with someone else is the definition of hell.

27. Well you know that I love you more than anyone can but a one-sided love I just don’t understand. – The Beatles

28. A person doesn’t know true hurt and suffering until they’ve felt the pain of falling in love with someone whose affections lie elsewhere. – Rose Gordon

29. It hurts when you have someone in your heart but you can’t have them in your arms.

30. I’m happy for you, while feeling unhappy that I’m not the author of your happiness.

One Sided Relationship Quotes | Time to Move On

31. Relationships are worth fighting for. But you can’t be the only one fighting.

32. One-sided love is not even love. It’s a bad investment that puts your emotional well-being in debt.

33. If you don’t receive love from the ones who are meant to love you, you will never stop looking for it. – Robert Goolrick

34. No person should be taught that love is how much shit you can tolerate from someone.

35. What you allow is what will continue.

36. There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who won’t even jump a puddle for you.

37. Sometimes you have to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve.

38. You deserve the same level of effort you put out. Anything beneath that is not worth waiting for.

39. No relationship in this world ever remains warm and close unless good effort is made on both sides to keep it so. – Eleanor Roosevelt

40. In the end, we all just want someone that chooses us, over everyone else, under any circumstances.

41. If you wanna be hugged. Well, you’ve gotta hug me, too. Yeah, ‘cause I ain’t for no one-sided love affair. – Aldo

42. Somehow, I don’t know how you can miss seeing how much I love you.

43. If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance & in the negative! Know when to close the account. – Christie Williams

44. One of the most courageous decisions you’ll ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soul. – Brigitte Nicole

45. If one day I disappear, know that I’ve tried to say goodbye a thousand times.

46. If you want me falling for you, then you have to give me something worth tripping over.

47. There comes a time in your life when you have to choose to turn the page, write another book or simply close it. – Shannon L. Alder

48. For so long, I’ve only had one-sided feelings for other people. I’ve completely forgotten how good it feels to be loved. – Hinako Takanaga

49. My heart is broken, you hold the pieces but cannot mend them.

50. If they don’t make an effort to keep you, why should you?

That concludes the top 50 One Sided Relationship Quotes.

I hope you’ve found some of what you’re looking for!

For those of you, who are secretly crushing on a guy, but still have questions, you’ll likely find some answers in either of these two posts:

9 Signs of True Love From a Man – for if you think he’s fighting his feelings for you or is guarded and doesn’t know how to express himself.

14 Signs He Just Isn’t Into You – for if you’re feeling brave and think that deep down he likely doesn’t feel the same as you, but you just don’t know it yet.

And for those of you in a one sided relationship that have been giving everything, but feel totally alone and abandoned by your partner, you might find this helpful:

Tired of Begging for Attention In Your Relationship? Here’s What to Do!

Thanks for reading, and if you have any quotes that you love, let us know your favorite in the comments!