Some weird soulmate signs are that they are not quite what you were expecting, as well as how they make you feel incredibly vulnerable.
But there’s a lot more to it when trying to determine all the unusual soulmate signs, and that’s what I’m here to help you with today.
What Are Some Soulmate Signs
There are those classic soulmate moments…
And then there are the weird ones.
The ones that leave you wondering whether there’s something strange at play here.
With a lot of them, they will seem odd at first, but as you get to know your soulmate, they make sense in retrospect and can feel normal and familiar very quickly.
Here are the weird soulmate signs to look out for:
1. Things Can Be Awkward at First
When you initially meet your soulmate, things might not be quite as you expected.
Instead of the seamless romance and instant chemistry, you might have a rather awkward situation.
You’re clearly drawn to each other, but one of you might be mumbling incoherently while the other can barely get a word out.
Things become increasingly awkward and peculiar, so you both decide better not risk saying too much.
Which brings us to…
2. You’re Not Sure if You Like Each Other
So not only are things weird and awkward at first, you’re also not sure how you feel about each other.
Yet there seems to be something that pulls you together, counteracting all the strangeness.
There is generally a period of evaluating each other carefully.
Overtime, you and your soulmate become fonder of each other, though, as your understanding and appreciation of each other deepens.
3. Your Soulmate Is Not What You Were Expecting
At some point in your life, you might have had a very clear picture of what your soulmate looked like and who they were going to be as a person.
But another weird soulmate sign is exactly that, they might even be everything BUT what you expected. And yet somehow you still feel inexplicably DRAWN and attracted to them.
4. You Have Opposing Tastes on Some Things
You may also have opposing tastes on things you are rather clear about.
You love chocolate ice cream, they despise it
They swear on modern art, and you’d rather go to a cemetery
You devour death metal, while they sing along to the top charts
It will all seem rather weird and maybe not what you thought it’d be.
But it doesn’t seem to matter because you feel that your differences are actually something that adds excitement to your life in a way that connects you more!
And sometimes…
5. Things Don’t Magically Fall Into Place
Another weird soulmate sign is that the way things unfold between the two of you is not quite like in the movies
You don’t just magically click and have everything fall into place.
No, a weird sign with soulmates can be that you actually have to figure out what you mean to each other and how you will fit in the other’s life.
It may not be what you thought it would be, but for some reason, this journey with your soulmate feels more personal and intimate.
So much so, it could be BETTER than what you previously dreamed of.
6. They Look Different Than You Imagined
Much like how they may not be what you were expecting in regard to their character, the same might be true of their appearance.
Whether it’s the way they wear their hair, their style, or the color of their eyes – it might catch you off guard.
But that DOESN’T mean you don’t like it.
On the contrary, you will likely instantly find them attractive and want to get to know them more.
7. You Trust Each Other Without Reason
Another odd soulmate sign is that you will feel inherent trust towards them, while hardly knowing them.
With other people, you might normally need to overcome trust issues and they would require serious social media background checks to verify that they aren’t a weirdo.
But with your soulmate things are… different.
You may not be able to put your finger on it, but something about their behavior and mannerisms tells you can trust them and that they deeply trust you too.
8. They Make You Feel Incredibly Vulnerable
Despite all the things you do not share, a weird soulmate sign is that they will be able to make you feel incredibly vulnerable…
Often without even trying.
It’s like they can pierce your soul and render you defenseless, seeing past any façades or deflections you might throw up…and right into the core of your being.
It’s vulnerable, but you feel seen.
9. They Make You Realize How Invisible You Previously Felt
Sometimes you go through life being so busy and getting caught up with things, that you entirely forget yourself.
But with your soulmate, you will have the peculiar (and sometimes shocking) experience of waking up to the fact that you were far more invisible and hidden than you realized.
But they will help you reconnect with those precious parts of yourself, which will make you shine brighter in your day-to-day life.
10. Things Can Feel Eerily Calm With Them
What may have previously started as awkward silences, is now extensive periods of mutual calm.
Peaceful silence, that stretches like a serene lake between the two of you.
You may not say a word to each other for many hours and yet, you are connected.
People may think it’s weird, but you know that you can have this silence, because your trust and understanding of each other runs so deep.
11. Being Separate Feels Plain Wrong
Once you’re over the weird soulmate signs, being apart will feel unnatural.
It will be strange and feel like something you need to RECTIFY as soon as possible.
But thanks to modern technology, you’re only an instant message or video call away and can look forward to reconnecting soon again!
12. Being Mad at Them for Longer Than Five Minutes Is Hard
They are way too good at charming you and making you laugh, which means trying to stay mad at them is fighting back a smile while attempting to keep a mean face.
Whatever it is that they did to make you upset is often quickly forgotten and replaced with laughter and hugs.
You get along too well to be mad at each other for too long.
13. You Make Up After a Fight in the Weirdest of Ways
Some couples have the classic fights and of bickering and endless back-and-forth power struggles.
But with your soulmate things can once again be different…
When you guys fight, you will make up afterwards by
Having a conversation with nothing but your eyes
Having kinky make up sex
Immediately going on a spontaneous date, as though nothing occurred
How can you know if a guy likes you but is hiding it?
For you to feel this way, he must have been giving you all sorts of subtle signs lately!
Maybe it all left you wondering: “Does he really have feelings for me or am I just imagining it? Maybe he is just being friendly…”
My husband and I met at a party and he asked me out for a coffee shortly afterwards. But our conversation was so easy going and neutral, I was also unsure if he was really interested or wanted to just be friends.
Guys can be really sneaky and vague when it comes to showing their interest.
Also, sometimes they’re just shy or afraid of rejection and need encouragement in order to keep pursuing you.
This is why it’s so important that you can tell when a man secretly likes you.
In this blog post I will list all the most important signs to look out for, so that you can know for sure if he has feelings for you but is hiding it.
But before jumping into this, I first want to explain why men act this way.
Can a Guy Like You but Not Show It?
Yes, a guy can absolutely like you but not show it!
What’s more, it’s actually extremely common for relationships to develop this way, when you start off by meeting in person.
When you get to know him, you might feel an instant spark of attraction, but more often than not neither of you will know for sure if it’s mutual or not.
Especially if you meet up in a neutral setting like at school, at work, at a volunteering event, dance class etc.
These aren’t places people specifically go to to find a date.
When a guy is unsure if you feel the same way he does, he’ll often hide his feelings to protect himself from painful rejection.
Another possibility is that he already likes you as a friend and is afraid that by making the move, he’ll ruin what you currently have and lose you for good.
Guys who like you but are hiding it generally need more encouragement, for them to dare to show you how they truly feel.
This is why it’s so crucial that you can read their covert messages correctly.
11 Signs He Likes You but Is Hiding It
These signs will help you know for sure if a man secretly likes you.
When it comes to these kinds of situations, men can really be very vague and subtle.
This is why us women often overthink and overanalyze all the strange things guys say and do.
But there is no point in breaking your head over this too much.
You can trust your gut on this one!
I’ll start off this list with some general signs applicable to all situations, but I’ll also list typical things to watch out for at school or at work, as well as over text and on social media.
Let’s get to it!
1. You Keep On Catching Him Looking at You
This is an all time classic.
You feel somebody’s gaze, so you lift your eyes only to catch him staring at you.
This happens over and over again.
It can be at a work meeting, social events, in class or at a party.
Wherever it just so happens that you two are in close proximity to one another.
Maybe upon discovering this, you tend to smile at him, to make the situation a bit less awkward.
And he smiles back but says nothing.
If you keep on catching a guy looking at you, that’s a definite sign he’s interested in you but is hiding it.
Maybe he is playing it cool, waiting to see what you’ll do.
Or he just doesn’t dare to make a move.
The only thing you can know for sure, is that he definitely likes you!
2. You Keep On Bumping Into Him
Has the guy in question been magically popping up at all the same places that you’ve been at lately?
Maybe you just keep on bumping into him at parties, events or even at the grocery store or during your lunch break.
So you’re inevitably asking yourself: “What are the odds?!” and “What does it mean!?”
Coincidence does happen, but it generally happens ONCE.
If the two of you KEEP on accidentally meeting each other at random places, you can safely assume it’s intentional.
He’s been most likely making sure he’s at the right place and time to maximize the odds of “bumping into you” because he likes you but is hiding it.
He is playing it cool, pretending that it’s a coincidence, while secretly scheming to make sure he gets to see you.
This is another classic sign that a guy likes you but is hiding it:
He just can’t stop himself from offering to help you out every chance he gets.
He is eager to help you carry things and wants to fix things at your place. Maybe he tells you where to get your car checked.
Or, if you two are at school together, he offers to help you out with assignments, or study with you.
Men do this because they want you to need them.
Being useful to you is their way of securing a debt of gratitude of sorts. So that you value them but also so that you don’t move on.
It’s a definite indicator that he has feelings for you but is hiding it.
Think about it, why else would he be making so much effort!?
4. He Finds Excuses to Talk to You
This is a similar scenario, just that instead of offering you help, he might be asking things from you.
At school he might inquire about an upcoming test:
“Do you know, what’s going to be on it?” (even though you both went to the test prep lesson).
At work the same sign might look slightly different.
A guy who likes you but is hiding it might ask you about an upcoming meeting, despite him surely getting the email memo. Or he’ll ask you about the schedule for the next deadline (even if it’s in the shared calendar).
Point being, he’ll look for plausible reasons to start a conversation with you.
It’s a sure sign that he enjoys talking to you because he likes you but is hiding it.
7. He’s Ready to Go Out of His Way to Make You Happy or See You
Another classic confusing male behavior: making a lot of effort just to make you happy and then playing it down as though it was nothing!
One of my clients just shared a story about this the other day.
Her guy drove out for an HOUR just to get her a birthday present. But then he insisted it didn’t mean anything and that they were just good friends.
When a guy puts in this amount of effort to make you happy or even just to see you, it’s a definite sign he has feelings for you but isn’t willing to show it.
He might also not be willing to openly admit it.
Maybe he likes you, but he is an avoidant and that’s why he is playing things down.
He might struggle with opening up and trusting. But he clearly cares a lot, to be willing to go to these kinds of lengths for you!
When a guy remembers things about you, like when your birthday is, your favorite foods, your music preferences or other interests, take it as a definite sign that he secretly likes you a lot.
You clearly must have made quite an impression on him and he probably longs to get to know you even better.
Maybe he even keeps on asking you personal questions or wants to participate in your hobbies.
If this is the case, this could not only mean that he has feelings for you that he is not showing, it’s even a sign of true love from a man!
9. He Keeps on Teasing You or Challenging You
Another way you can know if a guy has feelings for you but is hiding it, is if he keeps on teasing you or challenging you in some way shape or form.
Maybe he keeps on competing with you and always needs to end up being on top and in control.
Or he keeps on making snarky comments that leave you puzzled and confused.
Does he end conversations saying things like: “Is that really so?”, “That’s what you think.” etc.?
Or answers your texts with a single question mark or the raised eyebrow emoji 🤨?
When a guy is acting this way, know that he is playing power games with you.
He is doing it to stay in control of you and of his own feelings for you.
It’s a definite sign that he likes you but is hiding it.
Best way to get him to show his true colors is by playing his game.
You too can answer with a “?” or the raised eyebrow emoji. Another great way to do this is by not texting him first.
10. He Instantly Views Your Stories or Likes Your Posts
This one is pretty self explanatory. When a guy instantly reacts to all your posts and stories, it means ke is keeping his eyes peeled for all your online activity.
He is checking what you’re up to and if you’re dating anyone else.
At the same time, he is also taking an active interest in what you’re doing and expressing his support.
By interacting with you like this, he is keeping tabs on you and showing you that he cares.
It’s a definite sign that he likes you but doesn’t dare to openly say it or show it.
11. He’s Asks You Out “As a Friend”
If you two not only keep on texting but you also meet up every now and then…
That’s a definite sign he likes you a lot, craves your company but he is hiding it and playing it cool.
Maybe he keeps on emphasizing that “you’re just friends” and your heart sinks every time he says it.
You have to read between the lines here!
He is most likely so afraid of spoiling what you guys share by revealing his true feelings for you, he keeps on pretending they don’t exist just to make sure he doesn’t risk losing you.
Flirty conversation starters can make all the difference in how you’re going to be perceived by your crush.
First impressions matter a lot.
This is why it’s a great opportunity to shine by charming them with a creative text or a unique joke.
This way you can be sure, you’ll come across as confident, funny and ultimately very attractive.
Good flirty questions are all about striking the right balance between making your intentions clear and keeping things light and playful.
To help you out with navigating these sometimes tricky waters of ambiguous social interactions, I’ve put together a list of unique teasing icebreakers.
You’ll only find the crème de la crème here.
Using them will inevitably charm your crush and make them want you more.
All the conversation starters from this post can be used as a text message.
However, I’ll have a separate category for the ones suitable to be used in person too.
Here are the types of conversation starters you’ll find in my list:
Funny Flirty Conversation Starters
Deep Flirty Conversation Starters
Flirty Conversation for Her
Flirty Conversation Starters for Him
Flirty Conversation Starters in Person
Funny Flirty Conversation Starters
Ice beakers listed here are bound to make anybody laugh.
These are the funniest one-liners and jokes to charm your crush and make them fall for you.
You can absolutely use them to start a conversation with both a girl or a guy over text.
Some of them, are a series of text messages you can send to playfully flirt and let your crush gradually warm up to you.
1. Can I have your picture, so I can show Santa what I want for Christmas?
2. Baby, if you were a fruit, you’d be a fineapple.
3. Are you a keyboard? Because you’re my type!
4. What did the chocolate syrup say to the ice cream? “I’m sweet on you!”
5. I’ve been thinking… If you’re hotter than me, then that means I’m cooler than you.
6. -Knock, knock. -Who’s there? -Wendy. -Wendy who? -Wendy you think we can go on a date?
7. Not even Snape could Severus apart.
8. Would you rather wrestle in a pool of jello or chocolate pudding?
9. Describe yourself in one emoji. I’ll go first: 👑
10. What’s one thing that never fails to make you cringe?
Deep Flirty Conversation Starters
The icebreakers in this category will not only make your crush fall for you more, they’ll also let you two feel closer and more emotionally connected.
They’re great for starting deep conversations. A more serious and meaningful interaction is bound to follow suit!
They’re actually great to use as a text message, as well as in person.
11. What’s hiding behind that sweet smile of yours?
12. Tell me a quality you’ve been looking for in a partner, that I actually possess?
13. Fun question for you: What movie title best describes your life at the moment?
14. I would really love to know what inspires you right now.
15. What are you like when you let go?
16. What small things make your day better?
17. When I look in your eyes, I see a very kind soul.
18. What was the last song you’ve listened to?
19. What is something about you that’s irresistible?
20. What are you looking for in a relationship?
The last question here is a good way to challenge your crush.
How can you tell when a guy likes you but doesn’t want a relationship with you?
Recognizing the signs that he isn’t really serious about you is often easier said than done!
Guys who are afraid of commitment or simply undecided often do everything in their power to keep all of their options open.
This is why they’ll put in just the right amount of effort to ensure that you keep on chasing them.
But at the same time, they’ll make sure to dodge all uncomfortable questions and never give you the stability and security you’re craving from them.
Being stuck chasing someone and endlessly second guessing what their true intentions are, is exhausting!
You deserve to know for sure where he truly stands, so that you can make up your mind and not let him string you along forever.
There are guys out there who will never settle down. Trying to get them to do it a waste of breath.
At the same time, some men actually need their significant other to stand up to them in order to get them to snap out of their own indecision and realize their true feelings for you.
In this article, I’ll explain why a guy might keep you around even if he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
I’ll list the signs that he is not serious about you and give you tips on what to do, to give him one final chance to finally come around and commit.
When a Guy Has Feelings but Doesn’t Want a Relationship
Yes, it sometimes happens that a guy who actually likes you and has genuine feelings for you still doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you!
This makes an already complicated situation all the more confusing.
If this is the case with you two, then you’re likely thinking:
“If he does care for me, why doesn’t he want to be together? Why am I chasing him for something that he himself should want?”
The thing about being in a committed relationship is that it requires a certain degree of maturity.
It can be scary to open up and let another person actually become a part of your life. You also have to be willing to take responsibility and commit to making things work in the long term.
For you, love and commitment likely go hand in hand.
For them, it does not!
This is why a guy might want to keep you around, even if he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
He probably likes you and enjoys spending time with you. But he doesn’t want to let you get closer and will never be able to give you any guarantees.
He is happy with how things are and feels safe and secure enough as it is.
He might keep you waiting FOREVER, because he doesn’t need or even want to move things forward.
9 Signs He Doesn’t Want a Relationship With You
The key to recognizing when a guy doesn’t want a relationship with you is that it has less to do with you and almost everything to do with him.
It’s not you who is doing something wrong here…
He is the one who is stringing you along and giving you false hopes, without ever making you feel safe and secure.
Doesn’t matter how hard you try to come his way, it doesn’t make a difference.
Because he is just either too immature or too emotionally unavailable to be in a long term relationship.
Here are the signs that he is not serious -not just about you, but about commitment in general:
1. He Is Distant and Secretive
The telltale sign of a guy who is emotionally unavailable and might be completely incapable of being in a committed relationship is that he will keep you at arms length at all times.
He might be so afraid of letting someone get close to him, he will avoid sharing any personal information and showing vulnerability altogether.
But, if even after spending a lot of time with him, you feel like you don’t actually know him, consider it a sign that he is just too emotionally unavailable and doesn’t actually want a relationship with you.
2. He Is Very Unreliable
Being in a committed relationship requires both parties to be there for each other.
Of course, nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes and let our significant other down sometimes.
But if a guy you’re dating keeps on arriving hours late, constantly cancels last minute or even ghosts you every now and then, that’s a definite sign he is just too immature to actually be serious about you.
You can’t hope to build a future with someone you can’t rely on.
If he wanted a relationship with you, he would have tried harder.
3. He Hardly Ever Initiates
Another typical sign that a man might like you, but doesn’t actually want a relationship with you, is when he hardly ever makes the first move.
You’re the one who starts texting him and you’re the one who arranges to meet, too.
Once you’re together, things might feel great, though!
This is why you suspect that he does actually like you. BUT it’s always up to you to make things happen.
Maybe you even fear that, if you didn’t initiate, you’d never hear from him again.
Even if deep down you believe that he does care and wants you…
If he never initiates, it’s a sign that he just isn’t serious enough and is not boyfriend or husband material.
You deserve better!
4. He Isn’t Willing to Put in Any Effort
No matter how perfect you might be for each other, being in a committed relationship takes work.
Both of you have to be willing to come each other’s way and put in an equal amount of effort.
But there are men out there who will let you do all the work for them without ever returning the gesture!
You might have experienced some of these with him:
Are you the one who has to always come over to his place?
Do you keep on watching movies or shows he is interested in?
When you’re together, you’re only doing things he likes or wants to be doing?
Maybe things didn’t start out this way, but now you’re so tired of begging him for attention, you just give in and do what he wants instead.
If you keep on putting in a lot of effort without him ever coming your way, consider it a warning sign:
He might be too self-important and self-absorbed to be serious boyfriend or husband material.
Even if he likes you, maybe he is just too immature to want to be in a serious relationship with you.
A guy who just goes silent when you’re confronting him about something, likely is not serious about you and doesn’t really want to be in a relationship.
6. He Keeps You Separate From His Friends and Family
Another classic sign that a man you’re into might just be too emotionally unavailable for any serious commitment is if he keeps you separate from his friends or family.
Some people are comfortable introducing their significant other to their loved ones right away. Others might need a few months before they are ready to take this step.
But if you two have been dating for half a year or longer, and you have been kept completely separated from all the other important people in his life…
Consider it a warning sign that he might be too mistrustful or guarded, to actually let you in and want a committed relationship with you.
7. He Blames You for Needing Basic Things From Him
A man who likes you and wants to keep you around but doesn’t want a relationship with you, will try to avoid taking responsibility as much as he can.
When you ask him for basic things, he isn’t willing to give, he will turn things around and try to make you feel guilty for needing anything from him at all.
He’ll make you feel as though you’re being unreasonable, needy or controlling.
When what you’re asking for are just basic things anybody needs like checking in with you, asking you out, reassuring you and showing you that he cares, texting first, trying to be on time etc.
But someone who is serious about you, will make an effort to give you what you want, to whatever degree he can.
But if a guy you’re dating isn’t willing to come your way one little bit and keeps on blaming you for having any needs or demands at all, take it as a sign that he is likely too immature for serious commitment and doesn’t really want a relationship with you.
He is happy just taking and doesn’t want anything about that to change.
8. He Needs So Much Space, You’re Hardly Ever Together
It’s normal and healthy to need space from each other every now and then.
Especially when you’re still a fresh couple and your lives are very separate.
It’s one thing to need space for one week in a month. Or even to spend as much time apart as you do talking to each other.
But if the guy you’re with pulls away so often and for long and you feel like you’re hardly ever together, it’s a sign he is likely very detached and emotionally unavailable.
So much so, he might just be too scared of closeness, to be able to build a stable relationship.
Even if he likes you a lot, he may still not want to be committed to you, because it’s just too much for him.
9. He Wants to Keep Things Undefined for Months on End
People rarely jump into defining their relationship right when they start dating each other.
It’s normal to need a few weeks or even a month or two before you start discussing commitment.
When my husband and I started dating, it took us about a month to become officially exclusive.
And we know from some of our coaching clients that they can need even longer before they’re ready to take this step.
It’s all well and good to take things slow. There should be a limit of how long you’re willing to wait for him to make up his mind, though.
Because a guy who wants to keep you around without being in a relationship with you, can try to drag this on forever.
Several months will pass, and he will continue needing things to be undefined.
If it’s been half a year or more, and you still never had the: “What are we?” conversation, it’s a definite sign that the guy you’re dating isn’t really serious about you.
For all you know, he might even be a player, purposely avoiding explicitly stating he is in a relationship with you, so that he can continue seeing other people behind your back…
How to Know for Sure That He Doesn’t Want a Relationship With You
One way you can know for sure that a guy, who likes you, doesn’t actually want a relationship with you is by putting him to a test.
But for you to be willing to take this step, you have to be ready to face the truth of where his feelings truly lie.
This is the tricky part.
It’s often easier to keep on chasing him and excusing him over and over, then face the fact that maybe this is just not meant to be.
As hard as it might be to let go, holding on forever is going to be even more painful for you.
Because the guy who doesn’t want a relationship with you will never give you a sense of stability and security everybody needs and craves.
And the truth is, you deserve BETTER!
This is why you need to put him through one final test.
It’ll be his last chance to prove to you if he is in fact serious or not.
Tell him once again where you’re at and what you need from him, and then stop all your efforts until he responds.
If he cares about you enough, he will get the message, cave in and give you what you want.
But if he just does nothing, then you’ll have your answer.
If you need more help getting yourself to feel ready, to put him through a test, this is something we can support with in a Coaching Call.
Here we will listen to you and empathize, so that you feel less alone with your situation.
We will then help you see things for what they are. This way you’ll be able to stand up to him, in a way that will have the highest of chances, of actually getting him to come around!
When you can’t stop expecting you from people, you constantly end up disappointed and hurt…
I’ve supported them so much, why can’t they do this simple thing for me!?
I’ve loved them unconditionally, why can’t they return the gesture?
I’ve been upfront and honest, why can’t they do the same!?
Why are they making things so difficult? This could be so easily solved, if they just…
Whether it’s your family, partner, friends, or colleagues. Everybody seems to be making things more difficult than they need to be.
“But” you might say, “Isn’t this all because I need to stop expecting myself from people? And if I didn’t do that, I wouldn’t be disappointed to begin with!”
Yes, that is partially true.
When you stop expecting you from people and are willing to see them for who they are with all of their limitations, you WILL put a stop to the cycle of your disappointment and hurt.
However, as with most things in life, it’s not black and white…
Why Do Expectations Hurt?
The other side to this is that every relationship in your life has unspoken social agreements, expectations.
For example, you might have certain expectations from your parents, because they are, after all, your parents.
And by becoming parents, they signed up for a set of responsibilities towards you, that you expect:
Providing you with essentials to grow and flourish
Protecting you from physical, emotional or psychological harm
Validating and supporting you through hardships
And the same is true of every relationship in your life today, they all have (unspoken) expectations attached to them.
Including your partner, friends or work colleagues.
You might expect them to…
treat you as you treat them
take your side, the way you take theirs
be considerate, as you are towards them, etc
However, in reality, it unfortunately rarely works out this way.
There is no such thing as a perfect friend who returns every gesture, just as little as there are perfect partners or families that give back as much as you put in.
Which leads us to why expectations can HURT.
Expectations can hurt, because when the people in your life don’t meet your expectations, it communicates that they don’t matter.
That you don’t matter.
Which is one of the most hurtful lies you can be told.
7 Areas to Stop Expecting You From People
But there is a BALANCE to be had.
The world and people are complicated, and the expectations in our relationships are a reflection of that.
But we can strike a balance between stopping our expectations from people, whilst holding each other to standards you mutually agree on.
For now, let’s talk about where in your life you should definitely STOP expecting you from people.
So that you can be strong enough to face the reality that the people in your life have LIMITATIONS.
No matter how hard you push them.
And in turn, you will stop feeling disappointed and hurt by them.
Starting with…
1. Stop Expecting People to Agree With You
Even if listening and agreeing with others comes easy to you, expecting the same from others can mean endless disappointment and frustration.
You’ll spend an hour agreeing with someone’s worldview, validating them along the way.
And when it’s finally your turn to express yourself, they might immediately disagree.
You’re left hanging dry, despite all your efforts.
So don’t get TOO invested right away!
Instead, start with a little back and forth to test whether this person even has the CAPACITY to agree with you. (Some don’t!)
If they can’t agree with you on anything, or at the very least consider your point of view, just leave it.
Don’t chase someone that can’t return what you give.
2. Stop Expecting People to Trust You
If you’re one to quickly trust people because you believe that people are inherently good and mean well…
And hope that in return, people will trust you back.
It might be time to stop expecting you from people.
For your own safety, that is.
Because like it or not, the world is full of malicious people.
Many of whom DON’T deserve your trust and will abuse it.
When you instantly trust people, you’re leaving yourself wide open for a world of disappointment and anguish.
But there are certainly many things we can do to improve our communication of our expectations, which will INCREASE our chances of having them met.
As well as seeing people for who they are, rather than what we’d like them to be.
Is It Good to Have No Expectations?
Sure. The fewer expectations you have, the better.
But show me one person who truly does not have expectations, and I’ll treat you to a big bag of cookies.
My father was one to always laugh at me for having expectations of him.
“If you don’t have expectations, you won’t be disappointed.” He would mock me.
Unironically, disappointing was the only thing he was good at.
But I digress…
My point being, people who preach this garbage are hypocrites.
Sure, stop having expectations that aren’t helping you.
But as mentioned, it’s more about stopping to chase people that continuously let you down.
How Do I Stop Expecting a Lot From Others?
In order to stop expecting a lot from others, you need to dig a little deeper and understand why you’re chasing people that will never give you what you want.
To answer that, ask yourself:
What am I afraid would happen, if I stopped chasing the people in my life who never meet my expectations?
The answer will help you get in touch with what is driving you to chase said people with your expectations.
And once you can let go of that expectation, you’ll be free to….
accept what they can give you
accept what they cannot give you
You’ll finally take them at face value.
You’ll see people for who they ARE, rather than who you want them to be.
And once you see that, you will have no expectations from them, because you know they cannot give you what you need to begin with.
Do Expectations Ruin Relationships?
When pushed too far, expectations can hurt and even ruin relationships.
Both Karolina and I had to learn that we had certain limits.
Things that were easy for her were not easy for me and vice versa.
And what happened when we expected too much, (because in our individual minds we weren’t asking for much since to us, it came easy), was that it put a lot of strain on our relationship.
This is why it’s important to acknowledge and accept each other’s limitations in a relationship.
While slowly encouraging each other to grow out of them.
If you’re having a hard time stopping your expectations from people, have a look at our one-on-one Coaching Calls.
In a call, we’ll help you understand what’s driving your expectations and show you how to break the cycle of repeated disappointment in others.
We’ll also teach you how to communicate your needs in a way that will actually get what you want from people.
You can also use your bio for a quote you like or something that you feel expresses who you are.
Your imagination is the limit, so you can get as creative as you like with your bio!
What Are Matching Bios?
Matching bios are when the text in yours and your partner’s social media profiles only make sense when you put your bios together.
A couple of examples to illustrate:
Your bio: You’re the part of me…
Their bio: …I’ll always need
And when you read your bio and then their bio, you get: You’re the part of me I’ll always need
Another example could be:
Your bio: You are the 🗝…
Their bio: …to my ❤️
And when you put them together, you get: You are the 🗝 to my ❤️
When you talk to your partner about which matching bio you want to use, consider asking them a few of these 101 Cute Questions to make them feel extra special.
So matching bios are a cute or romantic way of declaring your love for each other from the modern equivalent of shouting from a rooftop: social media!
They don’t have to be, but are often short bios.
I’ll run you through how to exactly write a match profile at the end of this post, but for now, let’s get inspired!
Matching Instagram Bios for Couples
It makes sense that you might be wondering what to say about you guys as a couple.
Since there are countless choices for matching bios!
But we’ve created and compiled good captions for couples, as well as the best quote bios for couples.
They’re divided into the following categories, so that you find the one that speaks to you and your partner most:
Cute Matching Bios
Romantic Matching Bios
Song Matching Bios
Pop Culture Matching Bios
Funny Matching Bios
Poetic Matching Bios
Check out the list of 74 matching bios for couples to take your love to cloud nine…
Cute Matching Bios for Couples
1. You are my moon 🌙…
…You are my sun ☀️
2. You’re the part of me…
…I’ll always need
3. When I look at you…
…I’m home
4. You are my love @name tag…
…as you are my love @name tag
5. You, me, forever…
…always
6. Half 1…
…half 2 🫶
7. I’m happiest when I’m being myself…
…and I’m myself when I’m with you
8. Being in love with you…
…makes every morning worth getting up for
9. My other…
…half
10. You are the 🗝
…to my ❤️
11. You are mine…
…and I am yours
12. I am the happiest…
…when I’m right next to you
Romantic Matching Bios for Couples
13. A million times over…
…I will always choose you 💞
14. Love is a risk…
…always worth taking
15. Ride with you…
…die for you
16. I belong to you…
…and you belong to me too
17. He stole my heart @NAMETAG…
…and She stole my name
18. Hold me like you mean it…
…and never let me go
19. It’s you, you’re the person…
…I love most in the world ❤️
20. You & me…
…always forever
21. You are my…
…greatest adventure (The Incredibles)
22. If I did anything right in my life…
…it was when I gave my heart to you 💗 (Iona Mink)
23. You call it madness…
…but I call it love (Don Byas)
24. Everybody has an addiction…
…mine just happens to be you (Gilda Lilly)
25. You are the last thought in my mind before I drift off to sleep…
…and the first thought when I wake up each morning
26. No matter where you go…
…know you’re not alone (Charlie Puth)
Song Matching Bios for Couples
27. Is this burning…
…an eternal flame 🔥 (The Bangles)
28. I want you to know…
…with everything I won’t let this go (Sum 41)
29. I feel like I belong…
…it’s a better place, since you came along (Rachel Platten)
30. Hell was the journey…
…but it brought me heaven (Taylor Swift)
31. Viva forever, I’ll be waiting…
Everlasting, like the sun 🌅 (Spice Girls)
32. If you will promise me your heart…
…and love me for eternity (HTTYD)
33. I know I belong…
…when I sing this song (The Book of Life)
34. ‘Thought I couldn’t want you, more than I did before…
…But everyday I love you a little bit more (JLS)
35. I never had a dream come true…
…’til the day that I found you (S Club 7)
36. I don’t care…
…when I’m with my baby yeah 💗 (Ed Sheeran & Justin Bieber)
37. Don’t you give up, nah-nah-nah…
I won’t give up, nah-nah-nah, let me love you (Justin Bieber)
38. We come back every time…
…’cause we never go out of style (Taylor Swift)
39. You are my dream come true…
…my one and only you (The Platters)
40. So before the light, hold me again…
…with all of your might, in the still of the night (The Five Satins)
41. You’re walking meadows in my mind…
…making waves across my time (Electric Light Orchestra)
42. You are the best thing…
…that’s ever been mine (Taylor Swift)
43. You are my fire…
…the one desire (Backstreet Boys)
And if you’re a softy for love songs, you won’t be able to resist our selection of the 50 greatest love songs.
Pop Culture Matching Bios for Couples
44. Missing my beauty…
Thinking of my beast
45. My…
…precious!
46. Over, under and sideways…
…on a magic carpet ride 🎵
47. I like you very much…
…just like you are (Bridget Jones’s Diary)
48. Now I’ve had the time of my life…
…No, I’ve never felt this way before (Dirty Dancing)
49. They see us rollin’…
…they hatin’
50. You had me…
…at ‘Hello’ (Jerry Maguire)
51. At last the light…
…and it’s like the fog has lifted (Tangled)
Funny Matching Bios for Couples
52. Partners…
…in crime
53. Double…
…trouble
54. When life throws you rocks…
…throw back some boulders
55. You are the butter…
…to my toast
56. All you need is love…
…but a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt (Charles Schulz)
57. The introvert
The extrovert
58. Boss Queen 👸
Boss King 🤴
59. Big Spoon
Little Spoon
60. Like Peanut butter…
…and Jelly
61. Your love is…
…better than ice cream
Poetic Matching Bios for Couples
62. I never want to stop…
…making memories with you – Pierre Jeanty
63. And till the end…
…you are my very best friend
64. Dream…
…come true
65. If you ever feel alone…
…don’t
66. Every day I discover that I love you even more…
…and in this infinite universe I will love you till the ends (Alicia Green)
67. For every question why…
…you were my because
68. My favorite place…
…is inside your arms 🥰
69. If I had to choose between breathing and loving you…
…I would use my last breath to tell you I love you (DeAnna Anderson)
70. Poetry…
…in motion
71. If the whole world was watching…
…I’d still dance with you💃🕺
72. A hundred hearts would be too few…
…to carry all my love for you (Henry Wadsworth)
73. For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart…
…It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul (Judy Garland)
74. My love for you has no depth…
…its boundaries are ever-expanding (Christina White)
How to Make Your Own Matching Bio
If you’re not one for copy/pasting and want to come up with your own personal matching bio, then know that It’s easier than you’d think!
Come up with a phrase, quote or song lyric that you and your partner like, say for example: You are my life, you are my world.
Then split the sentence in two: You are my life…..you are my world.
Add one half in your bio:You are my life…
Your partner adds the second half to their bio: …you are my world.
There, you now have your own matching bio!
And if you’d like to, you can also tag your partner in your bio, with a link to their profile.
In the next point, we’ll cover how to do exactly that!
How Do I Put My Boyfriend/Girlfriend in My Instagram Bio
If you want to put your boyfriend or girlfriend in your instagram bio because you love them so much, I’ve got you covered.
With this quick and easy step-by-step walkthrough:
Go to your phones Instagram app
Tap your profile picture in the bottom right corner
Once in your profile page, tap Edit Profile
Then tap anywhere in your Bio section to edit it
Type the @ symbol, followed by your partner’s profile name
Once you see their instagram profile suggested, tap it and it will be added to your bio (in my example it’s Karolina, my wife)
Tap ‘Done’ on the top right corner, to save and then tap ‘Done’ again on the Edit Profile page
You’ll be taken back to your profile page, and now your partner should appear in your bio as a clickable @TheirProfileName link
And that’s how you put your boyfriend/girlfriend in your instagram bio!
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