From Fights & Breakups to a Fulfilling Marriage
Hi there! We’re Karolina and Gabriel. The creators of SimplyTogether.co blog dedicated to helping YOU find the love and support in your relationship!
Our work has been featured in major publications such as AskMen, Cosmopolitan, Mashable and many others. We are also the authors of multiple online courses, which are dedicated to helping you receive the love you want in your relationship.
So why are we eager to help you out in your love life?
Because the knowledge we want to share with you completely changed our lives – that’s why!
Let’s take a quick trip down the memory lane and show you how this whole thing started.
How We Met
In November 2011, Gabriel and I happened to bump into each other at a birthday party of a mutual friend of ours in Vienna.
Gabriel had just moved back to Austria after finishing his studies in England (he’s Austrian). I’m Polish, but I was finishing my studies in Vienna at the time.
We immediately hit it off, exchanged phone numbers, and arranged to meet for a coffee in a couple of days.
Fast-forward a couple more social events and dates later, and we were officially together!
In the beginning, our relationship was like a dream come true.
I felt like Gabriel really got me and that we were absolutely perfect for one another. We could never have enough of each other, and every moment spent together was pure fun.
Our relationship felt extremely special and I was thrilled that I had finally found the one!
Our Honeymoon Phase Didn’t Last
Even though things have started off so perfectly, sooner rather than later, we ran into our first troubles with our attachment styles.
Gabriel had an avoidant attachment style, and I was anxiously attached.
Which resulted in us having our first serious arguments 6 months into our relationship.
When we started to disagree about things, Gabriel would deactivate and pull away, while I anxiously chased and tried to fix things.
Where we previously got along effortlessly, we now weren’t on the same page anymore.
To make matters worse, our spark started fading!
Things got so bad at some point, that after 8 months of being together, we broke up.
I was absolutely devastated…
I couldn’t believe that that was supposed to be it!
Luckily, Gabriel (despite being a stubborn avoidant) couldn’t stand being apart either, so about a month after our first breakup we got back together again.
The Vicious Cycle of Love and Heartbreak
Yeah, that’s right.
This ISN’T the part where everything magically falls into place, and we live happily ever after. Not just yet…
In fact, this was the MOST hurtful and damaging phase of our relationship.
After we got back together the first time, things temporarily got back to how they were in the very beginning.
Once again, we were thrilled to have each other in our lives. We were texting constantly and couldn’t wait to see each other every time.
But our second honeymoon phase didn’t last very long either…
Soon all our old attachment style problems came back!
We started disagreeing about things again and kept on arguing about them. My anxiety would get the better of me and Gabriel would deactivate, becoming cold and unresponsive.
It just didn’t seem like we were perfect for one another anymore. I became afraid that maybe we were just too different.
So we broke up again….
…and a month later, we got back together.
It didn’t stop there!
All in all, we broke up THREE TIMES before we managed to stop this hurtful cycle of short-lived honeymoon phases followed by the inevitable heartbreak.
We finally figured it out!
All the time throughout our vicious cycle of hurtful breakups both of us were TIRELESSLY trying to figure out this situation.
We read countless books and articles, we learned about love languages, attachment styles, communication and deepened our understanding of ourselves and each other.
Which all accumulated to one day when we finally figured out something that worked!
One sunny winter afternoon we were sitting on Gabriel’s bed and having the same argument, we would always have…
When suddenly I REALLY GOT what he was actually needing from me!
I managed to make him feel heard and understood, and that CHANGED EVERYTHING.
And it was only a matter of a short time until we could use the same approach, to get him to make me feel heard and understood, too!
We finally got through to each other!
This was a HUGE DEAL and from that point onwards, our relationship turned around!
Learning this lesson was a big deal and is why we help others reverse their hurtful breakups too.
The spark was back for good this time!
All thanks to our new understanding and mindset, it felt like the fog was finally lifting!
I could now clearly see WHY our relationship initially struggled and what I needed to do so that we could finally be happy together.
I learned WHAT makes men tick and WHY they can be so difficult.
I now knew how to approach Gabriel to get what I needed from him. And the same was also true of him towards me.
We started doing exciting and romantic things again!
He was getting me flowers for no reason, leaving me cute notes when he went to work, and planned little surprises for me.
He was eager to show me his love and appreciation again!
We were no longer growing apart anymore, we started growing CLOSER instead.
Our relationship became FUN again!
We were spending less time arguing and more time enjoying each other’s company.
We went on multiple awesome road trips and decided to move in together.
There is so much more enjoyment in our lives today, but the truth is that the learning process never stopped for us.
We keep on discovering new aspects of our attachment styles and how we can improve every day.
Because that’s the reality of how relationships work.
They are very layered and beautifully complex, since there are so many feelings and thoughts going through each of us all the time.
But through this journey, we built a strong connection and solid trust. And most importantly, had far fewer fights and, instead, more love and joy in our relationship.
Eventually, the idea of living without each other just felt impossible.
So, we finally got married!
How we came to create this blog
We’ve been together for over a decade now, but our chemistry is stronger than ever.
So much so, people are often shocked when they find out we’re not a fresh couple.
My friends started coming to us for advice and wanted to know what our ‘secret sauce’ was.
Seeing so many people all struggling with the exact same problems we once had, made us want to help…
That’s why we decided to start this blog.
We want to use this website as a platform to share our experiences and what we’ve learned to help people in similar situations with their relationship struggles.
It started off as a little side hustle.
When we launched our website, Gabriel had a job as a user-experience designer, while I worked as an architect.
In March 2020 the lockdown happened and both of us suddenly found ourselves with more free time at our hands.
We decided to use it to help our readers with our first course: Rebuild Your Relationship.
We put together all the most important lessons and tools so that we could teach women how they too could turn their relationships around!
Click Here to Check Out Rebuild Your Relationship.
But for some of you that wasn’t enough, so we launched one-on-one Coaching.
We continue to help our clients succeed in many areas of their life with our coaching. And in case you’ve gone through a breakup and are trying to get your ex back, you can read how our clients successfully reunited with their love in the link below:
Click Here to Learn About Coaching.
It has been many years since then, and we’ve created more online programs to continue doing our best to support you guys, with our Get Your Ex Back and Attach an Avoidant programs.
We hope some of our story resonated with you and gave you some hope. In case you want to share your thoughts or have any questions, please contact us here and we’ll get back to you as soon as possible.
Don’t wait for your relationship to fix itself, take control today, and let’s create the relationship you want, together.
Karolina & Gabriel