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I grew up dreaming of finding my one and only TRUE LOVE and living happily ever after.

Unfortunately, my reality had very little in common with the fairy tales.

It took a lot more than just finding “The One” to build a strong and happy relationship.

Gabriel and I had gone through a LOT of trial and error before we figured out what was working and what wasn’t.

In doing so, we realized that some habits we built contributed significantly to our happiness.

This article covers, the top 5 habits that can help you find your happiness too!

Habit #1 | Talking to Each Other a Lot Improves Communication in Relationships

Communication is an extremely important factor for happy couples.

It’s a skill that we think all couples should prioritize.

I know from my own experience that learning to get through to each other can be very tricky.

But when it comes to communication in relationships (much like with many other skills) practice makes perfect.

And the good news is…

The best and most straightforward way to practice communicating is to simply keep talking to each other.

When this is a consistent habit, you will spend LESS TIME fighting and more being happy together!

Habit #2 | Treating Each Other as a Priority Makes People Feel Closer

A big part of feeling loved is feeling important.

Nobody likes to be dismissed and treated like they’re secondary.

That’s why happy couples make an effort to consider each other and the relationship a PRIORITY.

This means putting each other’s needs FIRST.

And seeing obligations related to work, friends or even family as SECONDARY.

Having this habit will make you feel more connected and stable in your relationship.

Habit #3 | Making an Effort Prevents Taking Each Other for Granted

In the early stages of dating, people often make a continuous effort to impress their new partner.

They dress up, work out, cook elaborate meals, etc.

However, as the relationship progresses, a lot of couples tend to slack.

When people have been together for longer they often make more effort to look good for work than to dress up for a date night.

This is partially because they now trust each other and can relax more about their appearance. (Which is a GREAT thing!)

But it can also simply be pure laziness.

I’m as guilty of this as anybody else.

I spend most of my weekends wearing yoga pants and baggy sweaters…

But I’m also sure to make an effort AT LEAST every once in a while that I know will make Gabriel happy.

The habit of making efforts (even if they’re little) will let him know, you appreciate him.

In turn, it encourages him to return the gesture.

Habit #4 | Keep the Chemistry in Your Relationship by Flirting With Your Man

I think we can all agree, flirting is FUN.

Gabriel often rolls his eyes at me and says “Oh you flirt..”

It’s true, I am constantly flirting and teasing him.

And I know he LOVES it.

This kind of fun shouldn’t be limited to the early stages of relationships only.

It’s such a great and easy way to reignite the spark and reawaken attraction between people.

Happy couples never stop flirting.

So keep up the good habit. 😉

Habit #5 | Constantly Getting to Know Each Other Better Can Make Your Relationship Grow

When people have been together for a long time they often assume that they now know everything there is to know about each other.

But the reality is, there is always more to find out about a person.

Gabriel and I have been together for over 8 years now and I’m still learning new things about him almost EVERY DAY.

It’s stuff like events from his past as well as some surprising likes and preferences.

Showing an interest in your man’s world and making space for him to express his real thoughts and desires will make him grow more ATTACHED to you.

If you’re in need of some inspiration, here are: helpful questions you can ask him, to get to know him better.

Leaving room for both of you to be your real selves with each other will deepen your emotional connection and make your relationship grow.

So keep up the habit of staying curious about getting to know him on a deeper level.

You’ll be surprised to discover how many interesting layers he has.


So to summarize, here are the 5 habits again:

  • Habit #1 | Talking to each other a lot
  • Habit #2 | Prioritizing each other
  • Habit #3 | Making continuous efforts
  • Habit #4 | Keep the spark with flirting
  • Habit #5 | Stay curious about each other

We credit them for making us much happier and stable as a couple.

Even if you only get 2-3 of these down, you’ll notice great improvements in your relationship!

If you have any questions or would like to add something, let me know in the comments section.


Karolina Bartnik