Your Boyfriend Fights With You on Every Small Issue? Here Is What to Do!

Your Boyfriend Fights With You on Every Small Issue? Here Is What to Do!

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It’s normal for couples to fight every now and then. However, arguing on a daily basis is absolutely exhausting, and it’s not something anyone can endure over a long period of time.

When your boyfriend fights with you on every small issue, you need to do everything in your power to stop the cycle to prevent it from escalating and seriously damaging you or your relationship.

Dealing with someone who is constantly picking fights with you can be very tricky though.

On one hand, it’s likely extremely frustrating and maybe even infuriating, and on the other hand, it might also make you doubt yourself and feel like maybe you are doing something wrong the whole time.

When it comes to relationship arguments, most people have been conditioned to respond to them in a way that often only makes things worse.

However, just by slightly changing your attitude, you can immediately deescalate the situation and deflect your boyfriend’s attacks.

Here is how to do it:

1. Make It About Him Not About You

If your boyfriend is acting overly defensive or even controlling about your behavior, chances are this has little or nothing to do with you.

Everyone brings their own, unique emotional baggage into a romantic relationship. This baggage is often the source of friction between a couple. It can make people act in unreasonable ways and cause huge arguments to erupt seemingly out of nowhere.

If your boyfriend keeps on picking fights with you about every little thing you do, try not to take it personally and get to the bottom of what he is actually upset about instead.

Stop yourself from responding to his accusations. He is likely just being a bit of a drama king…

The best way to get him to calm down and quit his little tantrum is by making an effort to listen to him and understand him.

Why is he acting the way he is? What is he hoping to achieve? What is he worried about?

In my experience reflective listening will work best for you!

Asking him questions and reflecting his answers back to him will immediately remove the friction, cut the argument short and can even prevent it from happening in the future.

2. Set Firm Boundaries with Him to Stop Him From Picking Fights

Everybody has their limits. No one can be infinitely caring, understanding, patient or attentive. If you feel like your boyfriend has been expecting the impossible from you, then it’s definitely time to start setting boundaries with him.

You have to communicate to him that it’s not ok for him to continuously fight with you on every small issue.

He can’t expect you to do everything exactly the way he wants things done.

That’s just UNREALISTIC.

Let him know that you have reached your limit and won’t tolerate or engage his behavior anymore.

Don’t let him provoke or overrun you. Be firm, calm, and assertive.

Setting boundaries is a skill everybody needs in a relationship. They’re a healthy protective measure that can allow you to regain power and control over any situation.

3. Demand Space From Him When You Feel Too Exhausted or Overrun by Him

Asking for space is generally a move men tend to pull a lot. Whenever they’re grumpy, depressed or just tired they often ask for ‘some space’ so that they don’t have to deal with all the unpleasant things right away.

Well… women deserve to have the SAME privileges in a relationship!

Whenever you feel like you just can’t deal with your boyfriend anymore. That him fighting with you is just too much and you can’t take any more of it, tell him that you need a time out.

Be firm and decisive. Don’t let him drag you back into an argument.

You deserve to have a break.

Besides, taking breaks during an argument is actually healthy and can be extremely beneficial when it comes to finding resolution.

People tend to get lost in their emotions. When two people get emotional, things just tend to escalate.

Just spending some time apart is often enough to gain a new and more accurate perspective on the matters. It can help both of you to snap out of your patterns and see your fight with a clearer head.

Additionally, asking your boyfriend for space is a power move.

By doing it you’re communicating to him that you’re in charge of the situation just as much as he is. It can actually make him respect and trust you more.

Once you feel like you both cooled off, get back to him and let him know that you’re now ready to start resolving the problem again.

4. Combine All Three of These Techniques to Get Him to Completely Stop His Attacks

When your boyfriend fights with you on every small issue it’s a sign that he is actually very scared of you having your own independence.

By listening to him you can help him overcome his doubts and fears, so that he won’t need to control you as much. In most cases, just listening and being understanding is not enough to deal with a situation like this.

That’s where setting boundaries and demanding space come into play.

You’ll need to apply all three of these strategies to teach your boyfriend that it’s NOT necessary and NOT ok to fight with you on every small issue.

If you’d like to learn more about all three of these techniques, it’s something we cover in detail in our online course Rebuild Your Relationship.

course image to rebuild your relationshipHere you’ll learn what to say to him and how to say it, to stop him from constantly fighting you. We’ll also guide you step by step on how you can influence his behavior so that you get him to support you and love you the way you need instead!

Click here to check out Rebuild Your Relationship.

If you have any questions about the approaches described in this post, or about our online course, leave me a comment and I’ll get back to you!


How I Got Him Back - 4 Ways to Make Your Ex Want You Again

How I Got Him Back - 4 Ways to Make Your Ex Want You Again

Breakups are always tough. But going through a breakup that feels like a bad mistake is one of the worst feelings in the world.

I would know.

Me and my other half (and also the co-author of this blog – Gabriel) broke up THREE times. Each one of those three breakups was absolutely devastating to me.

The idea of separating from a person I cared about so deeply felt straight-up wrong.

From the very moment we broke up, I wanted to get him back already.

And I managed to do it, three times.

It’s now been over 7 years since our last breakup and we’ve been happily together ever since.

Our breakups were a mistake I managed to fix.

There is a lot of stigma around getting back together with an ex. Your friends might frown at you, family members might judge you for it.

But the reality of the matter is: approximately 50% of couples who break up, get back together again.

In this article, I will share with you the strategies I used to make my ex want me back so that you too can get your man to miss you and chase you again.

1. Heal Your Ego So That You Feel More Attractive Again

Even though breakups can be ‘mutual’ they’re generally initiated by one person only.

Being on the receiving end of this kind of rejection inevitably takes a toll on one’s self-esteem.

When Gabriel and I broke up, it was he who initiated it and because of this, it immediately made me doubt myself. I started wondering about things like:

‘Was it my fault?!’

‘Am I not good enough?!’

‘Did I do something wrong?’

The biggest problem with these kinds of thoughts is that they are a HUGE BARRIER that will actually stand in the way of you getting your ex to want to come back to you.

They will make you doubt your own value and act in ways that can undermine your success.

That’s why it’s really important, that before jumping straight into getting your ex back, you let your wounded ego heal a bit first.

There are many ways to go about this.

The first time Gabriel and I broke up, I just partied for a week straight (I was still at university back then…). The second time I went on a relaxing vacation. The third time I decided to join an NGO and helped planning a primary school in a developing country.

The point of this step is to take your mind off those self-defeating thoughts so that you can feel good in your own skin again.

Once you feel more like your old self, you can then proceed to step two:

2. Get a Grip On Your Desperation

Breakups can completely change the power dynamic between a couple.

The person who initiated the breakup tends to suddenly gain a lot more control over the situation.

While the other side is often left feeling like they’ve just completely lost a handle on things.

Losing all sense of control over a relationship tends to make people act DESPERATE.

When Gabriel broke up with me I was as desperate as it gets.

Desperate to get back together…

Desperate to feel like he loves me again…

Desperate to put it all behind us and pretend like it never happened…

Back then I had this really strong urge to just let go, allow all my desperation to roam free, and dictate all my actions.

Luckily, I didn’t let that happen…

The biggest problem with acting desperate is that it will make your ex feel like he has got full control over you.

He won’t need to worry about losing you.

He’ll feel secure and confident that you’ll always be there if he ever decides to take you back.

Obviously, this is not a position anyone EVER wants to be in.

There is a simple way in which you can avoid falling into this dangerous pitfall:

By taking charge of the situation.

Don’t let your emotions control what you say and do, act strategically instead.

There is no way around it. If you want to make him want you back, you have to take control and make it happen yourself.

3. Realize That He Still Wants You

This is something that the old me would have really needed to hear back in the day when Gabriel and I were broken up…

The thing about attraction in relationships is that IT NEVER REALLY GOES AWAY.

The fact that your ex WAS into you, means that he most likely still IS into you.

That’s because, firstly, chemistry is not really something we have control over. It’s either there between two people, or it’s not.

Secondly, people get ATTACHED to their partners.

They do, no matter whether they deny it or not. It’s just human nature to get attached to other people…

Gabriel was the kind of guy to really play down his feelings and attachment towards me.

He pretended that the breakups didn’t affect him much.

And that he didn’t care whether we were together or not.

But you know what, it was just an ACT that was supposed to keep me hooked and make me endlessly chase after him.

This is something he actually now (not proudly) confirms.

So even if your ex is acting all cold and distant, don’t get fooled by that.

It’s kind of like a power move that is supposed to ensure that he can stay in control of you and the relationship.

Everybody gets attached.

People can’t just stop caring about someone from one day onto the next. It’s impossible…

So if your ex wanted you back then, he most likely still wants you now.

Fully realizing this truth can be absolutely groundbreaking when it comes to getting him to come back.

You don’t need to make your ex want you again, he already does. All you gotta do now is get him to admit it and want to follow that feeling again.

This brings me to the last step of your journey…

4. Remove the Barriers to Get Him to Chase You Again

In reality, getting your ex to want you back is much simpler than we’re lead to believe.

Chances are that in this very moment he is secretly pining after you and longing to feel close to you again.


…. if this is really the case, then why doesn’t he just text you and try to get you back yourself?

That’s a very good question.

Fully understanding the answer to this one is going to play a major role in you successfully getting him to want you back.

You see, people always break up for a reason.

So even though your ex most likely wants you right now, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he wants to get back together with you.

Whatever it was that made him want to break up in the first place is likely still acting as a barrier that prevents him from wanting to invest in a relationship with you at this very moment.

There were multiple reasons why Gabriel and I broke up those three times.

Some of them were purely his issues. Others, on the other hand, had to do with some things I’d say and do (or not do).

The secret in making him want you back has nothing to do with doing things to attract him again (because he feels attracted to you already!).

It’s all about removing the barriers that are preventing him from wanting to be together with you.

Fixing just one of those issues on my end that caused Gabriel to want to break up, was enough for us to, not only to get back together but also to NEVER break up ever again!

If you’re interested in learning how to remove these kinds of barriers so that he wants you back, you might want to check out our online course Rebuild your Relationship.

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In it, we’ll teach you how you can influence your man so that he goes from being hesitant and distant to dying to please you and chasing you around for love and attention.

You’ll learn a foolproof step by step technique to get everything you ever wanted from him and more…

Click here to check out Rebuild Your Relationship.

In case you’re looking for some extra information on how to get your man back permanently, check out our article: 4 Steps to Get Your Ex Back For Good!

If you have any questions or would like some more specific advice, let me know in the comments section and I’ll get back to you!


What to Do When Your Husband Doesn’t Want You Sexually

What to Do When Your Husband Doesn’t Want You Sexually

When your husband keeps conveying that he doesn’t want you sexually it can really sting.

If it’s been happening over a longer period, it might even lead to you doubting yourself and wondering WHY he’s no longer attracted to you and doesn’t want you.

And since sex is a way of intimately connecting with your partner in a marriage or any romantic relationship for that matter…

…the absence of it can make you feel alone.

In short, it can be a really disheartening situation that leads to you feeling increasingly DISCONNECTED from your man.

So let’s talk about what we can do to CHANGE your situation!

Remove Any Self Blame and Guilt That You Feel

The step I recommend first, is to reduce the critical voices in your head.

Unfortunately when things don’t go our way in relationships, our first instinct is often to simply blame ourselves:

  • “Clearly I’m just flawed.”
  • “Of course nobody wants me, I’m inherently broken.”
  • “No wonder he doesn’t feel attracted to me.”

But these kinds of voices are unhelpful and also utterly inaccurate!

Things are NEVER that simple.

Sure your actions affect your relationship, but to say it’s all on you and that your husband not wanting you sexually is somehow ALL your fault is just total nonsense.

So the first step in changing your situation is to understand that your man has reasons of his own for not wanting sex that exist separately from you!

It’s best to try and think of it this way because you’ll feel better and it’ll put you in a good position to actually create the change you want.

So try not to get caught up in doubt and uncertainty which only fuel the problem.

The Real Reasons Your Husband Doesn’t Want to Have Sex

Before we talk about what to do about the problem, it’s helpful to first explore the likely reasons why he doesn’t desire you sexually:

#1. There Are External Factors Affecting Your Relationship

Karolina and I have faced many hardships that put our relationship to the test and many of them were caused by EXTERNAL factors.

Sometimes it was the stress at our jobs, other times holiday events or even our own families.

Nobody is immune to these things and that includes your husband and your relationship…

Too many stressful external factors can kill your mans sex drive.

#2. He’s Intimidated by You and Is Afraid of Intimacy

I can confirm that men feel an incredible pressure to have it all ‘figured out’ in the bedroom.

So much so, it MOSTLY backfires.

Your husband might get so caught up in wanting to prove his sexual prowess that to him it’s either total control in bed or no sex at all!

This means he’s easily intimidated by you and will not risk showing you anything that is potentially VULNERABLE.

So to be on the safe side, he withdraws and doesn’t want you sexually.

#3. The Attraction in Your Relationship Has Faded

If you are months or years into your marriage, you may have noticed the chemistry with your husband fading…

This is very common and true of long-term relationships in general.

It’s not something that happens from one day onto the next. It generally creeps up on you so slowly, you don’t see it at first.

Then one day you realize that the attraction in your relationship is just not what it used to be.

This is often a big contributor to his reduced desire for sexual intimacy.

#4. He Has Secret Fantasies He Doesn’t Know How to Share

All men have secret fantasies that they don’t share with their wives.

They’re often ashamed of them and don’t dare talk about them.

Whatever your man’s kinks may be, if he doesn’t dare express and experience them with you, it can make him reluctant and result in him not wanting you sexually.

#5. He Might Be Having an Affair

I know this is a tough one to talk about, but I can’t spare you from it, since it is sometimes an unfortunate reality of relationships.

When a man becomes sexually reclusive and disinterested, it MIGHT be an indicator that he’s channeling his drives elsewhere.

This is certainly the most painful potential reason he doesn’t want you sexually, but it too, can be addressed.

I’ve known men who cheated and can assure you, this behavior doesn’t come out of nowhere, it stems from serious underlying issues of his own.

What to Do to Get Through to Your Husband Sexually

So now that you’ve got a better understanding about the possible reasons he’s no longer craving you sexually…

Let’s talk about what you can do about it!

#1. Don’t Chase Him For Sex

Chasing your husband for sex is likely going to make him even more resistant to it.

The reason is simple: Whatever is keeping him from wanting to be sexual will not go away until it is figured out.

What’s more, if you’re making a lot of effort to seduce him and he still keeps rejecting you, it can further hurt your self esteem.

So DON’T let him do that to you.

#2. You Definitely Need to Talk About It

This is the best and safest way to get through to him.

Talking about sex with your husband is something you’ve either done before, or maybe it’s totally new territory for you.

Either way, communicating how you feel about the current situation of your sex life is the crucial first-step to resolving it.

You can tell him how him not wanting you sexually is making you feel.

At the same time, do what you can to uncover where HIS RELUCTANCE stems from.

#3. Do Not Make the Mistake of Believing It’s About Technique

I can’t tell you how many women Karolina and I have spoken to who’ve fallen into the trap of believing they need to master ‘That secret sexual technique’ to seduce and secure their man.

Yes, technique and skill will arouse men.

But if it’s his sexual desire and loyalty you’re after, then you need to toss all of that out the window for now and be able to actually CONNECT with him.

Because the best way to truly conquer a man’s heart is… yup, through his HEART!

#4. Get Through to Him Emotionally to Get Through to Him Sexually

So the real reason your husband is closed off towards you sexually is a matter of the heart – not the dick.

Although the latter might seem like the obvious thing to address to fix the sex problem, it is unfortunately unlikely to work.

Because what truly CONTROLS HIS DESIRES is his HEART.

And if you conquer his heart, you’ve conquered his body.

If you to think about the best sex you ever had with your husband for a moment…

No matter what it might have looked like on the outside (slow and sensual or wild and passionate). I bet the BEST sex you ever had with him was when you felt the most CONNECTED to him and his heart.

That’s what makes intimacy in relationships special, it’s when we feel close and safe…

If you feel like you could do with a little help with getting through to your husband and deeply connecting with him again, have a look at our Rebuild Your Relationship course.

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In it you’ll learn all the real reasons why men withdraw and isolate themselves and also the step by step guides needed for you to tear down his seemingly impenetrable brick wall and finally reignite the spark between the two of you.

So that he’ll finally desperately crave to connect with you sexually again.

You can click here to check out Rebuild Your Relationship.

If I’ve missed something and you still have any questions, drop them down in the comments section and I’ll get back to you!

I’ll see you next time.



How Long Should a Break In a Relationship Last

How Long Should a Break In a Relationship Last

Taking a break in a relationship is almost always unsettling. That’s why most people’s instinct is to try to get it over and done with as soon as possible.

However, getting back in touch with your significant other TOO SOON might lead to problems and actually force you to take more or longer breaks from each other.

In the course of my over 9-year long relationship with my boyfriend, Gabriel, we’ve been through countless breaks. Some lasted only an hour, while others took up to a MONTH.

Spending time apart from each other was always very tough for me. I never really enjoyed giving Gabriel space but I was forced to do it on multiple occasions.

From my own personal experience, I’ve learned that the point of taking a break in a relationship is to resolve a problem that you’ve failed to deal with otherwise.

That’s why, how long a relationship break should last, very strongly depends on the kind of issue that you’re currently dealing with.

Three Most Common Reasons Why People Take Relationship Breaks

This is something I’ve learned from my own personal experience, as well as observed from countless other couples,

there are three main reasons why people in a relationship decide to take a break from each other:

  • Break caused by an argument
  • Break caused by external factors
  • Break caused by serious relationship problems

A break caused by an argument is a situation where two people get into a fight.

This might happen in a form of a heated exchange, as well as a totally cold, reserved interaction followed by holding grudges or silent treatment.

Regardless of how the relationship fight looks like exactly, at the end of it, both sides fail to get through to each other, so they’re left with no other option than to just take a break to cool off and get some distance from it all.

A break caused by external factors is another really common situation when either one or both partners need space from each other.

Everybody struggles in life every now and then. It might be due to being overwhelmed at work, family problems, health or mental health, etc.

When going through a tough time, people often fear being judged or don’t want to be perceived as a burden, so they request space or suggest taking a relationship break.

A break caused by serious relationship problems is a situation where a lot of negative factors come together:

If a couple is constantly fighting, one or both sides feel unhappy and the relationship is just not working anymore, taking a break from each other is the last resort to try to restore peace and try to figure a way out.

How Long Should a Relationship Break Caused by an Argument Last

When it comes to dealing with a break caused by a relationship fight this is the easiest and also the shortest one!

The main purpose of taking this kind of time out is to give both of you room to cool off and let your emotions calm down so that you can both gain some distance from the fight and reevaluate the situation with a clearer head.

Whenever Gabriel and I get stuck in an argument it generally takes us anywhere from an hour up to a day to calm down enough so that we can start communicating again.

When it comes to relationship breaks caused by an argument, if the break is cut too soon, it’s bound to cause yet another argument…

On the other hand, if the break lasts too long it might turn into mutual silent treatment, which only tends to make matters worse…

Keep in mind, these rules aren’t set in stone.

Ultimately, the length of the break you and your partner need depends on your personalities and also on the magnitude of the fight.

How Long Should a Relationship Break Caused by External Factors Last

Relationship breaks caused by external factors are always more tricky to deal with, that’s why they tend to last longer.

These types of breaks can generally last between one day to up to a week.

Of course, how much time apart you need from each other, depends on what kind of problems you’re dealing with.

E.g.: When dealing with an overall bad mood one day can be enough to clear it out.

But when it comes to serious family emergencies, they might require your significant other to dedicate much more of their time and attention.

Gabriel and I went through multiple breaks due to all sorts of external factors.

At the beginning of our relationship, he would sometimes say he needs space out of the blue. Even though he never communicated it back then, I could sense that he was simply feeling down but wasn’t ready to show me that part of himself yet.

However, as we grew closer and built trust with each other, our breaks caused by the problems outside of our relationship became shorter and shorter.

The big thing about this kind of relationship break is that when a person is struggling with something, what they often really need is not space but SUPPORT.

The tricky part here is that you might not always be able or willing to give your significant other the support they crave.

Or that your partner might not be able or willing to ACCEPT the support you’re offering…

That’s why taking a break from each other is often a helpful compromise.

How Long Should a Relationship Break Caused by Serious Relationship Problems Last

Last but not least, let’s finally get to the longest and most difficult type of relationship breaks: the ones caused by serious relationship problems.

All couples have problems. It’s normal to have disagreements, feel misunderstood at times, or not always get what you want from your partner.

However, there might come a time in a relationship when NOTHING seems to be working anymore.

This happened to Gabriel and me.

We’ve reached a point where we could not see eye to eye on things, we fought all the time, and both felt misunderstood and alone.

It was as though we were continuously hitting an invisible wall that just kept on tearing us apart.

So we decided to take a break.

In fact, this happened THREE times.

Gabriel and I have been through THREE breaks caused by serious relationship problems (they were basically breakups just that we always decided to keep in touch with each other).

Even though it was Gabriel who initiated all three of our ‘breakups’, I have been the one who insisted on making them last longer.

I did it because I thought that by extending our time apart we’d be more likely to come to some groundbreaking conclusions that would magically fix our relationship.

Unfortunately, that’s just not how things work. Relationship problems don’t vanish by themselves…

All three of our relationship breaks lasted about a month and looking back at it, I consider all three of them to have been UNNECESSARILY LONG.

Too long of a break doesn’t contribute anything towards gaining any new perspective on things.

In reality, making a break last a very long time only makes it more likely for it to turn into an actual breakup.

That’s why I recommend that a relationship break caused by serious relationship problems should last from about one week up to about a month.

How to Make a Relationship Break Work

As I outlined in the beginning of this article, couples decide to take a break from each other when they face a relationship problem that they aren’t able to fix.

This might be something relatively small, like a fight. Something slightly bigger, like personal issues or struggles. Or it can be multiple serious relationship problems.

Generally speaking, the bigger the problem, the longer the relationship break needs to last.

However, it’s important to keep in mind that on their own, breaks actually DON’T FIX ANYTHING.

They can only provide emotional distance and a fresh perspective that can be crucial in solving relationship problems.

But in order to truly make a relationship break work, both you and your partner need to use what you’ve learned from the break and do the fixing the problem part yourselves.

This brings me back to my story.

You see, all three of our relationship breaks have been caused by THE SAME ONE relationship problem.

We didn’t manage to fix it the first time round.

That’s why we eventually ended up taking yet another long and painful break from each other.

We didn’t manage to fix it the second time round either…

This is the sad reality of relationship breaks.

If you don’t SOLVE the problem that is causing you and your partner to need a break from each other, eventually the same situation is bound to repeat.

You’ll need to take another, maybe an even longer relationship break.

That’s what kept on happening to us.

Even though we were perfect for each other, if we hadn’t managed to solve that ONE recurring relationship problem, we would have been broken up for good by now…

The Ultimate Solution to Prevent or Shorten Relationship Breaks

So you might be wondering, what was THE ONE PROBLEM that kept on causing us to take multiple long breaks from each other?

We didn’t know how to ACKNOWLEDGE each other’s feelings!

And what we discovered while working with countless other couples is that this ONE BIG BLOCK is what prevented them from successfully getting through to each other as well.

Acknowledgment works like a magical spell that can make relationship problems vanish within seconds!

It’s the ultimate solution to dramatically shorten or prevent all relationship breaks.

If you want to find out more about this tool and its incredible effects in a relationship, do check out our Rebuild Your Relationship course.

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In it we guide you step by step on how to use acknowledgment to make your relationship break work and fix the problems that caused it. This way you won’t need to worry about having too much space from each other ever again.

Click here to check out Rebuild Your Relationship

If you have any questions about relationship breaks or about our solution to this problem, leave me a comment and I’ll get back to you!


10 Undeniable Signs Your Relationship Is Really Over

10 Undeniable Signs Your Relationship Is Really Over

Relationships are often insane emotional rollercoasters!

One moment you’re on cloud nine feeling super close to your guy…

…And the next you’re fighting about the same thing for the hundredth time and it seems like your relationship is simply doomed to fail!

These kinds of ups and downs are something my girlfriend Karolina (who runs this blog with me) and I often experienced too.

And for us, sometimes things got even WORSE…

What if you’re having negative experiences MOST of the time? And you’re not sure whether you’re even happy in your relationship anymore?

What if you’re in so much pain, you’re not even sure you want to continue anymore…

Where do you draw the line and at what point can you say and know for sure if your relationship is really over?

I’ve put together a list of 10 SIGNS that will help you get the answer you need.

If you can relate to 7 or more of these, then unfortunately it may be time to call it quits…

#1. You’ve Lost Your Special Spark and Connection with Him

When Karolina and I have felt too disconnected it could seem like it was all going to end soon.

Like “Okay, that’s it, packing my bags this isn’t going to work.

Because relationships are defined by- and NEED CONNECTION.

Additionally romantic relationships require a spark of attraction with your man mixed in with some flirtatious tension.

So if you feel like your spark and connection have long been consigned to your relationship history museum, then count one sign for yourself.

#2. You Often Feel Alone and Misunderstood

Secondly, if a prevalent feeling you have in your relationship with him is feeling alone and misunderstood, this is a sign your relationship might soon be over.

We’ve seen and heard it from so many couples, that one (or both) of them feels alone EVEN when they’re sitting right next to their partner and talking to them.

This often goes hand in hand with feeling misunderstood.

That no matter what or how you try and express your needs, he simply doesn’t get it and often turns it into something it’s not and you end up fighting instead!

#3. You Don’t Believe You Can Trust Him

Anybody that has had their trust broken knows just how BADLY it can hurt.

If your man has betrayed you in some way and you’ve been through a painful experience like this…

Then it certainly adds to the signs that your relationship might really be over.

The same counts for you, if you just have a general mistrust towards him and think that he might not share important things with you or that he’s KEEPING SECRETS.

Trust is a true cornerstone in a relationship that needs to be built, respected and maintained.

#4. You Just Can’t Take the Fighting Anymore

Ugh! I hate fighting.

There’s nothing more disheartening, frustrating and exhausting than fights.

Unfortunately for better or worse, they’re often a constant companion in relationships.

Having said that, there is a BALANCE to be had.

Your fight to fun ratio with your man should be at about 30/70 at most!

That’s 30% fighting time and 70% fun time.

If the time you fight goes BEYOND the 30% limit, this too is a bad sign for your relationship.

#5. The Thought of Leaving Him Is Liberating

It’s normal to wonder what might have been, had you gotten together with that other guy instead.

There’s no harm in daydreaming from time to time.

But it’s a different matter if you feel viscerally RELIEVED at the thought of leaving your boyfriend or husband.

This indicates that there is something fundamental in your relationship that is really NOT WORKING for you.

And it’s something you cannot simply brush off.

Rather it’s another sign indicating your relationship may be over soon.

#6. You Don’t Feel Important or Valued

Mutual appreciation is a healthy and vital component of your relationship.

If it is lacking and you feel unimportant or not even valued by him, add another sign to your count.

Because it’s not okay for you to be putting your time and energy into your relationship with him, only to feel taken FOR GRANTED.

This kinda stuff chips away at your self esteem and will leave you utterly depleted in time.

I’m telling you from personal experience with an ex.

#7. You’re Secretly Thinking About Other Guys

From what you guys tell us, fantasizing about another doesn’t seem to be uncommon.

So again, if you’re doing this from time to time it’s no biggie.

If however, your thoughts wander to other men frequently and you’re seriously considering jumping ship…

That tells me that TOO MANY of your needs are simply not being met in your relationship with your man.

Which brings us to…

#8. He’s Not Meeting Your Needs

Whether you crave emotional closeness, exciting conversation or sexual pleasure with your man, it’s important that your needs are being met to a degree that you’re moderately happy with.

In our relationship Karolina’s need for security and commitment was unfortunately NOT MET for a long time.

And it was really tough for her..

But as we grew closer over the months and years, I built more trust towards her and my commitment and loyalty became unwavering.

So although it’s normal for certain needs to take time to be met, you shouldn’t be left hanging forever.

#9. You Just Don’t Talk Anymore

If one or both of you are not talking to each other anymore, it’s a sign of something being really off in your relationship.

Ideally, no matter how bad things might be you should always keep an open channel of communication.

It’s better to express things than let them BOIL INSIDE until they explode out like a volcano.

So if you’re not talking anymore, it’s a clear sign that things are not working and that your relationship might be nearing its end.

#10. You’re Not Sure You Love Him…

Sometimes we get so caught up with ‘being with someone’ that we lose track of how we FEEL about that person.

How you felt towards your man on day one is not how you felt 6 months or years later.

People and relationships change, they’re not static.

So It can be hard to realize or admit that you might feel like “… I’m not sure I love him anymore.”

We KNOW how tough and disheartening relationships can be because we had YEARS worth of it OURSELVES.

So I get that this post might be a difficult read.

But you’re here and are actually trying to figure out your relationship.

And in case you’re new to these parts and don’t know our story yet, we actually broke up 3 times before we finally uncovered the secrets to making a relationship truly work.

So you should know that both Karolina and I are actually BIG BELIEVERS in happy endings.

We fought really hard for our relationship and ultimately figured things out!

So if despite everything, you feel like your relationship with your man is too important to give up on just yet and you want to give it another shot.

You can check out our Rebuild Your Relationship course.

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In it we teach you how to avoid all the common pitfalls that lead relationships to being over and how to revive your relationship with your man so that you have the love and connection with him that you so deeply crave.

Click here to check out Rebuild Your Relationship.

And if you’re unsure about something or have any questions, drop me a comment below and I’ll do my best to help you out!

I’ll see you next time,



4 Steps to Get Your Ex Back For Good!

4 Steps to Get Your Ex Back For Good!

So you were with a guy and unfortunately, things didn’t work out the way you hoped…

Hurtful things were said and done, one thing escalated into the other and one or both of you decided it was finally time to break up…

But days, months or even years passed and you feel that the connection you had with him was really intimate and special to you and that it’s not something you want to give up on just yet.

You’ve decided you want to get your ex back.

And that’s exactly what we’re going to help you do here.

I’m going to show you how you can finally get your ex back and do so in a way that guarantees he will stay so that you feel stable with him and NEVER have to fear losing him again!

And this approach is foolproof and will work via texting or in person and also whether you’ve been out of touch for months or if the breakup only happened yesterday.

Let’s dive in.

#1. Scope Out Your Ex’s Situation and Feelings

When my girlfriend Karolina (who runs this blog with me today) and I first broke up, it was heartbreaking for both of us.

But I was -regretfully- the one who instigated it.

And I want to tell you right away, that men can be very tricky to handle when you want to get back together with them.

We can be extremely sensitive drama queens! -or should I say, drama kings?-

Your ex-boyfriend might be playing cool, distant and uncaring as to whether or not you get back together…

…but DON’T FALL for it!

Because men are only PRETENDING to have zero emotional stakes in the game when in reality they have as much skin in it as you do.

And they’re also easily frightened off!

So it’s important to take the right approach to avoid potentially screwing up your chances.

I hate to say it, but you may need to handle your ex with kid gloves at times and be very careful and tactful!

Like I said, drama kings.

This is why I don’t recommend diving right in and trying to get back together with him.

Ideally, you’ll first carefully scope out his situation:

  • Is he still clearly into you?
  • Does he let it show?
  • Do you know or suspect he’s dating other women?
  • Are there other things that might be getting in the way of getting him back?

Doing your crafty research first will ensure you get a full picture of what’s up on his end and how he feels about you.

And this will set you up in maximizing your chances of getting your ex back!

#2. Get His Side So That He Craves You Again

There was obviously a reason for the two of you to have initially broken up.

Whether it was due to constant fights and hurt, cheating or you both simply wanted different things from your relationship…

Whatever your reasons may have been and whoever’s fault it was, something between you broke enough for it to have led to you separating.

Now in order for you to get him back, that broken thing needs to be addressed.

I’m not saying fixed but addressed to at least SOME degree.

The reason to do this is to gain his interest and trust again.

Because when you get his side of the story, you are reestablishing your shared connection with him. (again, regardless of who’s fault the breakup really was)

And that’s a very POWERFUL thing!

You see, you are taking down the wall that caused him to go from “your partner”, to “your ex”.

You’re making him FEEL things towards you again.

And by that, he’s reminded of all the good things about you that he’s missing out on.

This is the FASTEST way back to a man’s heart. Despite what you might have heard about it being between his legs.

What sparked my interest in getting back with Karolina after our breakup was NOT the sex.

Sure, sex is a part of it.

But it really was because she understood me and got my side in a way no other woman did.

This made me trust her and I instantly wanted to get back with her again!

So use your shared experiences and history to your advantage.

#3. Send Your Ex Sexy Signals So He Doesn’t Miss Your Intentions

You don’t need to say anything outright to him about wanting to get back together yet.

But men can be ridiculously oblivious to women being interested in them.

Yes, even when it’s their own ex!

So don’t make the mistake of going all cold and distant on his ass. (This can push him even further away from you!)

Instead, let him know what’s up.

That you would like to meet for a coffee and talk a little or that you miss him and the way his voice sounds.

Don’t go overboard, but do signal your interest and feel free to flirt!

It’s an exciting time after all and I can assure you, that the anticipation of potential hot-get-back-together-sex is mutual!

#4. Secure Your Relationship With Him For Good

A lot of what we’ve covered so far, are things you might do over your phone.

But once you’re actually meeting face to face, it’s a different game.

Things are suddenly more real.

You’ll have a lot of feelings, as will your ex. (Especially if you haven’t seen each other in a while)

The air might feel electrified and even brushing elbows will send a tingle down your spine.

It’s almost like you’re dating all over again…

Now, rediscovering the spark with your ex and getting back together is great, but it’s only the first step.

If you’re serious about things working out this time and actually KEEPING him and ensuring your special connection it’s best to firmly secure your ties with him NOW.

(and I’m not talking about getting engaged here.)

I mean something far more potent: securing a deep unbreakable bond with your man.

Karolina and I made the mistake of not doing so and it resulted in multiple horrible breakups.

We just didn’t know how to prevent the pattern of going from feeling super close and intimate to being so tired of each other that we broke up!

But through a lot of trial and error, we figured out what was causing the constant fights and breakups and finally DID put a stop to it.

And that is exactly what we teach in our Rebuild Your Relationship course.

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In it, we show you where things go wrong in relationships so that you can prevent breakups AHEAD of time.

And also the best possible tools to deal with and resolve the most common reasons couples break up!

So if you feel like you could do with a little help with developing that deep unbreakable bond with your man, so that you never break up or lose him again, you can click here to check out Rebuild Your Relationship.

If you have questions or thoughts you’d like to share, let me know in the comments section and I’ll get back to you.