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There are many things in this world, I can live without.

But cuddling is NOT one of them.

Karolina and I are waaay to attached to cuddling.

And that’s no surprise, given all the amazing BENEFITS of cuddling!

It’s all thanks to oxytocin, a hormone that creates all sorts of positive feelings for the two of you when you cuddle.

Here are the 7 ways that cuddling couples win!

1. Cuddling Builds Trust Between Couples

There are many great ways you can build trust in your relationship.

And Karolina and I stand behind everything we teach.

But the simple act of cuddling with your partner is a great additional HACK for trust-building.

How crazy is that?

You can literally lie there and “Do nothing.” and the magic between the two of you just happens.

2. It Improves Your Moods & Reduces Depression

Depression and mood swings are not as uncommon as you might think.

Sure we put on a brave face for the world.

But behind closed doors, an estimated 16.2 million adults (6.7%) in the United States have AT LEAST one major depressive episode in a year.

And honestly, judging by our circle of friends and work colleagues, we believe the number to be higher.

Not everybody knows they have depression and many that do don’t seek help!

But in the past when we were down or feeling depressed, we would just cuddle and it always made us feel BETTER afterward.

3. It Can Help You Sleep Better

Are any insomniacs reading this?

Well, there’s good news for you here too.

Oxytocin can help you relax and let your mind turn off more. Just cuddle up and let the hormones do the work.

A little tip: You can try resting your head against your partners. It can intensify the feelings of connection and safety and help you relax better.

4. Cuddling Decreases Your Fear

Wait, there’s more??

You betcha, it’s like a miracle drug isn’t it?

Since the hormone increases feelings of bonding, it also makes you feel safe.

Thereby reducing your sense of fear and danger.

So cuddle up close, sink your claws in and don’t ever let each other go. 😉

5. You Might Feel More Generous

You know when you’re having a really good day and it’s finally all going your way?

Chances are, in those moments you’re in a much better mood.

So much so, you might be feeling more kind and generous.

Well, guess what?

Cuddling up with your loved one can create the same experience.

So don’t be surprised to find yourself feeling charitable or eager to help out.

6. It Can Help You Recover After Negative Experiences

We see children do it all the time.

When they’ve hurt themselves or something bad happens to them, they run back to their parents crying.

Because they need to be consoled and hugged at that moment.

So that they can FEEL SAFE again.

As adults, our behavior matures, but our NEEDS remain the same.

So don’t feel bad about wanting to run back into your partners safe and warm arms when things go badly.

You can tell them you need to cuddle to recover again and replenish your batteries.

7. Cuddling Intensifies Feelings Of Attachment

It might seem strange to say, given that Karolina and I are running this blog together now.

But like a lot of men, there was a time I was caught up in being distant and detached for secret reasons.

Over the years (with lots of cuddling) things have changed.

Now I’M the one chasing Karolina for opportunities to snuggle because I like the way it makes me feel…


So in summary, cuddle and cuddle A LOT with your partner because it benefits you in so many ways:

  1. It builds trust between you
  2. It improves your moods & reduces depression
  3. It can help you sleep better
  4. It decreases your fear
  5. It can make you more generous
  6. It can help you recover after negative experiences
  7. It intensifies feelings of attachment

If you’d like to share your thoughts or experiences about cuddling, let us know in the comments section and we’ll get back to you!


Gabriel Brenner