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Building trust is very crucial in long term relationships and marriage. Having trust for one another is what gives people that feeling of safety and stability we all crave so much.

Unfortunately, trust is not something you can control or force.

You can’t make your partner trust you. Neither can you make yourself trust your partner.

You either feel it or don’t.

There are certain behaviors, though, that are INCREDIBLY TRUST INDUCING.

Here is my list of the 4 best ways to build trust in your relationship.

1. Being Reliable

This is probably the easiest and most straightforward way to build trust in relationships.

Being reliable is about keeping your word.

When you say you’ll do something, you do it.

When you say you’ll spend time together, you show up and give your partner your full attention.

This way your partner learns that they can rely on you.

It’s extremely important that both of you make an effort to build trust with one another.

It’s not enough for one person to be reliable in a relationship.

Trust in relationships is a two-way street. In order to build it both of you have to learn that you can rely on one another.

Only mutual trust can trigger that sense of safety and stability we all crave so much.

2. Being Supportive Of Each Other

Showing your partner your support in their personal endeavors is bound to make them trust you way more.

And vice versa.

Them supporting you in striving towards your own goals, will make you feel safe and appreciated.

That’s because nothing is more trust inducing than knowing that you have someone in your corner.

Being on the same page and having each other’s backs feels really great for both parties.

Being supportive of one another is a great way to build trust in relationships.

3. Helping Each Other Out

They say a friend in need is a friend indeed.

I had a herniated disk a couple of months ago. I was in constant pain.

And could barely move for a couple of weeks.

Having Gabriel help me out throughout that time, made me trust him SO MUCH MORE.

Experiencing someone being there for you in your moment of need creates a lot of trust.

You don’t need to go through any major health trouble in order to build trust with your partner though.

Everybody feels down from time to time.

We’re all only human after all. We feel sad, get sick, have small injuries, etc.

There are countless opportunities to build trust by being caring and helping each other out on a daily basis:

  • Letting your partner sleep in on the weekend
  • Helping them out with chores
  • Listening to them complain about a stressful day at work, etc.

These kinds of little acts of service will make your partner feel much more relaxed and taken care of.

Moreover, they can learn from you and reciprocate the favor.

This kind of back and forth of endless little ways in which we’re constantly helping each other out, helped us build an immense amount of trust in our relationship.

4. Bringing Up Problems In Your Relationship

You might be thinking: “Whaaat? How is bringing up problems is supposed to build trust?!”

I used to think that talking about relationship issues causes arguments and only complicates things.

But the truth is, it actually can do the opposite.

No relationship is perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect match.

Every couple has issues.

Pretending that everything is great can be very destructive and emotionally draining because it requires both of you to repress all your negative feelings.

This kind of situation can never last very long.

Repressed feelings always eventually come to the surface. Often in a form of hurtful heated arguments.

Or worse sudden unexpected breakups.

That’s why bringing up problems and even fighting about them in a healthy way can be very trust-inducing.

Talking about your relationship issues creates room for both parties to get in touch and share where they’re really at.

In our relationship, we’ve had countless of these kinds of conversations.

Even though it was difficult at times, it definitely brought us closer together and allowed us to trust each other more.


Building trust in relationships is not something you can forcefully make happen.

It takes time to learn to trust one another.

However, being reliable and supportive, helping each other out, as well as making room for relationship problems can speed up this process a lot.

Do you have questions about this post? What are your experiences with building trust in relationships? Let me know in the comments sections!


Karolina Bartnik