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As a man, I will tell you that the answer to the question “How do you make a man want you?” is surprisingly simple:

To make a man want you, you have to make him FEEL GOOD.

In other words, men like to be around what makes them feel better about themselves.

So the question becomes:

WHAT are the things you can do that would make him feel good?

Here are the efforts you can make that will ultimately make him WANT YOU as a result of that.

1. Why Putting an Effort Into Your Appearance Will Get His Attention

Before men talk to you, they SEE you.

And men are visual. They want to feel visually attracted to a potential partner.

When you put an effort into your appearance, it tells him that:

  • You respect yourself
  • You appreciate the importance of presentation
  • You have your unique style/look
  • You take care of yourself physically

He’s likely not going to be aware that it may have taken you an hour to do your hair and match a great outfit.

But all of your subtle efforts ADD UP and they communicate VOLUMES about your sense of self-worth and value.

He’ll want to be around you because it will make him feel good and if the moment feels right to you, get him ask you out at this point already.

2. How Getting His World Will Make Him Interested in Yours

This may come as a surprise, but we men LOVE to talk about ourselves. 😜

Blowing our own horns about how we’ve got it all figured out and are going to change the world for the better.

Now when I say ‘Get his world’, I’m not saying you should pamper his ego.

What I’m saying is, men love to feel acknowledged and received by women.

So it’s a great way to make a guy want you!

Next time you’re at a party or social event and he’s expressing his opinion on matters…

Him: “I think that if governments banned single-use plastics, there could be a huge decrease in negative environmental impact!

You: “So you’re saying the government should take more action and restrict single-use plastics. That, that would really change a lot for the better.

Him: “Exactly!

Men LOVE it when a woman gets and acknowledges their point of view.

And get this, he’ll credit YOU for making him feel good.

If you’re not sure where to start with getting to know him, use a couple of these interesting questions that will make him even more curious about you.

3. Complimenting Him Will Make Him Remember You

Much like women, men enjoy compliments as well.

It’s, of course, important to not lay it on too thick, as that might seem disingenuous.

But since you’re reading this article, and want him to want you…

There are clearly things you already like about the guy, so it won’t be difficult to find something to compliment him about.

Whether it’s his sense of fashion, his interests or his taste in music, etc.

Pick something and let him know you appreciate that about him.

Nice blazer, it really goes well with your tie.” or “That song you put on earlier, was awesome, what was it?

Your genuine compliment will validate him and make him feel good about himself.

Once again, he’ll associate the feeling and moment with YOU.

Also, if you happen to be in the early stages of getting to know him, a casual compliment can be a great ice-breaker.

4. How Enjoying Your Own Life Will Make Him Want to Be Part of It

You know that feeling when you see a guy doing something super interesting (say he’s kite surfing) and being fascinated and curious about his life?

Well, guys are the same about women!

When he sees you enjoying your days and living your awesome life, it’ll make him CURIOUS.

  • He’ll wonder about how you spend your time
  • He’ll be curious about your interests
  • It might even FRUSTRATE him that he’s not in on your life yet!

From a guy’s perspective, I’ll tell you: women who pursued their own goals and lived awesome lives had a HUGE magnetic pull on me.

It’s almost irresistible to men.

Because they WANT IN on the action of your life and to share the good feelings with you.

And while we’re on the topic of men wanting to be a part of your life, do always keep an eye out for the warning signs of a potential player.

5. Men Love to Be Teased and Flirted With

When the moment feels right, you can signal your interest through teases and flirts.

Being playful is FUN for men!

And it lets him feel and know that you’re interested in him, which makes him feel DESIRED (good).

He’ll like that feeling and your attention.

An important benefit to note here is that when you’ve applied all the above-mentioned strategies and are THEN flirting with him…

It separates you from the pack and puts you ahead of potential competition.

Because you’re not some potential fling at that point or someone he’ll think of potentially ghosting.

No, by now you’re a PERSON of INTEREST to him, because you have demonstrated interest in HIM and have built an emotional CONNECTION.

This will make you different and special to him.

6. When You’re Relaxed, You’ll Sooth Him

Another key ingredient in how to make a man want you is to relax.

Because men will feed off your energy.

To illustrate this: if you’re in a highly stressful state and are spending time with a guy you like, the way you make eye contact, smile, say things and laugh will communicate your underlying stress…

…The guy you want to want you, will then start feeling stressed too.

And as we mentioned, men like being around women that make them feel good.

So if you stay in a stressful or negative state too long and don’t ease out of it, he’ll likely distance himself and be less interested because he won’t want to feel those feelings.

To be clear, it’s not about perfection.

But pick the time you spend with him when you’re feeling relaxed, your chill vibe and confidence; will totally sooth him and make him want you more.

7. Make a Man Want You Bad through Intimacy

If you’re still wondering, ‘But how do I make him want me?’ there’s another tool in your arsenal that you can use:


We covered flirting earlier, and if you two are hitting it off, and you’re really into this guy and want to feel even closer to him, you absolutely can.

(With all necessary precautions of course)

Because being intimate is how we bond and get to know each other on a deeper level as human beings…

And it’s certainly a sure way to make him want you bad.


These are the 7 sneaky things you can do that will make a guy WANT YOU.

When you do them similar to the above-mentioned sequence, you’ll stand out from the crowd.

You’ll be able to make him feel GOOD and he’ll be associating YOU with good feelings.

This, in turn, will make him WANT YOU.

If you’re interested in gaining an even better understanding of this topic, be sure to check out the 5 important things men want from women.

Now, whether you’ve known your crush for a long time, or you’re in the early stages of secretly courting him…

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Got any further questions or thoughts you’d like to share? Let me know in the comments section and I’ll get back to you.


Gabriel Brenner
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