Being ghosted is a huge and common problem people have to face nowadays, especially in online dating.
When a person you thought you had a connection with suddenly stops replying, you’ll likely feel the sting of rejection.
It’s horrible and something I would never wish upon someone.
But I’ve known men who do it.
Here’s a run down of the most common reasons why men ghost women.
I hope they help you see that it’s rarely about you and all about them…
1. Men Ghost Women Because They’re Too Scared to Be Upfront About Things
According to a study on ghosting among Millenials carried out by BankMySell the main reason why men ghost women is to avoid confrontation.
Letting someone know that you’re not really into them takes balls.
Some men simply entirely lack those… 😉
They don’t dare disappoint you directly because they’re worried you might say something mean in return.
Like that you’re upset or that god forbid you FEEL THE SAME WAY and you’re not into them either.
Some men’s fragile egos couldn’t possibly take such a horrendous blow.
Ghosting you is his chicken-hearted way of ensuring that he is the one rejecting you and not the other way around.
Don’t waste your time with these kinds of men.
2. Men Ghost Women When They Want to Keep Stringing Them Along as a Plan B
Another big reason why men ghost women is when they want to intentionally end things on a vague note.
Letting you know that he’s not interested would give you a clear message to move on.
Ghosting, on the other hand, leaves an opening for the possibility of him getting back to you later on.
Some men resort to these types of games when they get to know another woman, whom they consider a better catch.
Getting together with her becomes their prime objective but they want to keep things vague just in case it doesn’t work out according to plan.
That’s why they want to keep their first date as a backup.
I’ve seen guys pull this move countless times.
They’ll first ghost a girl for a couple of weeks and then suddenly get back to her with some lame excuse like:
“Oh sorry, things at work have been so stressful, I just completely forgot about everything else…”
Then they’ll continue stinging her along until the next better catch comes along.
Yes, men can be very calculative sometimes and monkey-bar.
When a guy ghosts you, be careful if you decide to give him a second chance.
Keep in mind that if he truly cared about you, he would have found the time to let you know he was busy.
3. Men Ghost Women Because They Don’t Have to Deal With Any Negative Consequences
Ghosting has become such a prevalent practice since the age of the internet and online dating.
According to a study done by an online dating platform, PlentyOfFish, a staggering 78% of participants experienced being ghosted at least once!
The main advantage of online dating is that it provides a much larger pool of potential partners we may have never met otherwise.
This huge benefit comes with ONE BIG DRAWBACK though:
It allows people to be rude and treat each other badly without ever having to face any real-life consequences.
Most of the time, the person you match with on online dating platforms is a COMPLETE STRANGER.
You don’t have any ties or friends in common.
This means that if this guy acts like a jerk or ghosts you, he’ll most likely NEVER have to deal with any consequences.
You don’t know any of his friends.
And there is NO ONE to whom you could complain about his behavior to that would bring this matter back to him.
Regardless of how he acts, he‘ll never be dubbed as “flaky” or lose face in the eyes of the people whose opinion he actually cares about.
Unfortunately, the lack of accountability often brings up the worst in some people.
When it comes to being ghosted, I’ve seen female friends of mine often blame themselves for it and feel like they did something wrong.
That is mostly NOT the case though.
If you’ve been ghosted recently, you might be feeling regretful, like you missed out on something.
The truth is, you just dodged a bullet here!
Men who resort to ghosting are often immature and aren’t really looking for a serious relationship.
Guys who are too scared to be upfront about things, want to string you along or don’t have any standards or manners are NOT good boyfriend material.
You deserve better than that!
Now if you find yourself in a pattern of being ghosted by guys, or are struggling with a related dating or relationship problem that you’re not not sure how to deal with, then maybe our Coaching Calls can be helpful to you.In a session, we’ll teach you what it takes to stop being ghosted and avoid those bad apples all together. You’ll also get a strategy specifically tailored to your needs and we’ll show you the exact next steps you need take to attract men that you can count on and are on the same wave length as you.
Otherwise we’ve also got some further reading for you.
If you still find yourself unsure about whether a guy is a ghoster and if you can trust him, our post 11 Signs He Isn’t Into You might give you some further clarity.
And if you think you’ve had enough and are ready to move on, maybe it’s time to shift your focus on finally finding the right guy instead.
Got any questions or are unsure about any of these points? Leave me a comment and I’ll get back to you.
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