4 Ways to Build Trust in a Relationship

4 Ways to Build Trust in a Relationship

by | Dec 29, 2019 | Commitment, Relationships

Photo by Andrew Ly

Building trust is very crucial in long term relationships and marriage. Having trust for one another is what gives people that feeling of safety and stability we all crave so much.

Unfortunately, trust is not something you can control or force.

You can’t make your partner trust you. Neither can you make yourself trust your partner.

You either feel it or don’t.

There are certain behaviors, though, that are INCREDIBLY TRUST INDUCING.

Here is my list of the 4 best ways to build trust in your relationship.

1. Being Reliable

This is probably the easiest and most straightforward way to build trust in relationships.

Being reliable is about keeping your word.

When you say you’ll do something, you do it.

When you say you’ll spend time together, you show up and give your partner your full attention.

This way your partner learns that they can rely on you.

It’s extremely important that both of you make an effort to build trust with one another.

It’s not enough for one person to be reliable in a relationship.

Trust in relationships is a two-way street. In order to build it both of you have to learn that you can rely on one another.

Only mutual trust can trigger that sense of safety and stability we all crave so much.

2. Being Supportive Of Each Other

Showing your partner your support in their personal endeavors is bound to make them trust you way more.

And vice versa.

Them supporting you in striving towards your own goals, will make you feel safe and appreciated.

That’s because nothing is more trust inducing than knowing that you have someone in your corner.

Being on the same page and having each other’s backs feels really great for both parties.

Being supportive of one another is a great way to build trust in relationships.

3. Helping Each Other Out

They say a friend in need is a friend indeed.

I had a herniated disk a couple of months ago. I was in constant pain.

And could barely move for a couple of weeks.

Having Gabriel help me out throughout that time, made me trust him SO MUCH MORE.

Experiencing someone being there for you in your moment of need creates a lot of trust.

You don’t need to go through any major health trouble in order to build trust with your partner though.

Everybody feels down from time to time.

We’re all only human after all. We feel sad, get sick, have small injuries, etc.

There are countless opportunities to build trust by being caring and helping each other out on a daily basis:

  • Letting your partner sleep in on the weekend
  • Helping them out with chores
  • Listening to them complain about a stressful day at work, etc.

These kinds of little acts of service will make your partner feel much more relaxed and taken care of.

Moreover, they can learn from you and reciprocate the favor.

This kind of back and forth of endless little ways in which we’re constantly helping each other out, helped us build an immense amount of trust in our relationship.

4. Bringing Up Problems In Your Relationship

You might be thinking: “Whaaat? How is bringing up problems is supposed to build trust?!”

I used to think that talking about relationship issues causes arguments and only complicates things.

But the truth is, it actually can do the opposite.

No relationship is perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect match.

Every couple has issues.

Pretending that everything is great can be very destructive and emotionally draining because it requires both of you to repress all your negative feelings.

This kind of situation can never last very long.

Repressed feelings always eventually come to the surface. Often in a form of hurtful heated arguments.

Or worse sudden unexpected breakups.

That’s why bringing up problems and even fighting about them in a healthy way can be very trust-inducing.

Talking about your relationship issues creates room for both parties to get in touch and share where they’re really at.

In our relationship, we’ve had countless of these kinds of conversations.

Even though it was difficult at times, it definitely brought us closer together and allowed us to trust each other more.

Conclusion

Building trust in relationships is not something you can forcefully make happen.

It takes time to learn to trust one another.

However, being reliable and supportive, helping each other out, as well as making room for relationship problems can speed up this process a lot.

Do you have questions about this post? What are your experiences with building trust in relationships? Let me know in the comments sections!

Karolina

The Astonishing Truth About Relationships

The Astonishing Truth About Relationships

by | Dec 23, 2019 | Commitment, Relationships

Photo by Kyle Bearden

They say that your partner can’t be your everything.

That they can’t possibly be there for all of your needs.

That wanting them to be your partner in life, friend and lover… is simply too much to ask and even unhealthy.

Well, I’m here to claim the opposite.

The seemingly exaggerated romances we see on the big screen are POSSIBLE.

  • He can be your most reliable companion
  • He can definitely be your ultimate lover
  • Your partner can be your closest friend
  • And even your primary shoulder to cry on

And the truth is, getting there in your relationship can happen naturally.

You Shouldn’t Feel Like You Have To Be Their Everything

To clarify, you should never feel like it’s “your job” to be fulfilling certain roles in your relationship.

If you feel internal or external pressure to be their one and only and meet every single need they have, with thoughts like:

  • “I have to be ready to sacrifice what I want”
  • “I always have to say “yes” to sex, even if I’m not in the mood”
  • “I have to let him feel like he’s intellectually superior”
  • “I have to put his needs above mine”

Then we’re not coming from the right place.


You can’t endlessly give. You’ll burn out and either blame yourself or come to resent your partner.

Sure, relationships are work.

But it’s important to not relate to them as checklists that need completing.

Instead…

When You Deeply Care About Each Other, It’ll Happen Naturally

What this means, is it’ll happen ON IT’S OWN.

You DON’T NEED to force yourself to do anything.

Karolina and I always did our level best to NEVER PUSH ourselves in our relationship.

If something felt off, we didn’t do it!

And we’ve become big advocates of this.

When we’re asked, we tell other couples that they can TRUST THEMSELVES to want to care. It doesn’t need to be forced or related to a task to fulfill.

It can take time to think this way about it.

But the more room you make for it, the easier it’ll come.

You’ll find yourself WANTING to be their shoulder to cry on, their lover and most trusted friend.

And your actions will follow suit.

Love And Trust Compound In Relationships

The wonderful thing about this process is that as your relationship develops, you begin to grow closer in ALL AREAS!

And it COMPOUNDS.

Because as you prove yourselves to each other as trustworthy and loving, you’ll allow for access to other, more vulnerable areas of yourselves.

For example, men can often be distant for secret reasons.

I was always afraid of trusting Karolina and remained unavailable because I had been taught that needing love is a weakness.

But as my trust towards her grew, I found myself relating to her not just as a lover and companion.

But as a true friend.

These kinds of developments change the game in your relationship.

Externally imposed roles and rules on how you should think about- or relate to each other go out the window!

Once that happens, you’re both free to define your relationship and its rules AS YOU SEE FIT.

In our relationship, this leads to an increased bond of trust, friendship, romance and stability.

You might find that you’re suddenly prioritizing each other and talking for hours on end every day as though you had just started dating again.

Your love life can snap out of routines and become spontaneous and exciting!

You’ll be able to take your relationship to the next level and can feel even more valued, connected and safe.

If you have any thoughts or questions about this process, share them with us in the comments section and we’ll get back to you!

Gabriel

One Powerful Principle for Couples to Improve Your Relationship

One Powerful Principle for Couples to Improve Your Relationship

by | Dec 22, 2019 | Commitment, Relationships

Photo by Colin Maynard

If there was ONE THING couples should do to improve their relationship …

In fact, if you had to choose ONLY ONE thing to maximize the quality of your relationship.

What do you think it might be?

It’s learning to work WITH EACH OTHER.

What does this mean exactly?

It means you need to:

  • DEPRIORITIZE maintaining control over each other or winning arguments
  • PRIORITIZE working and finding solutions together

These are two sides of the same coin. Let’s start with the behaviors you’d need to deprioritize.

Deprioritizing Behaviors That Create Conflict Will Dramatically Reduce Your Stress

It is commonly accepted that conflict is an inherent component of any relationship.

So much so, that it’s not only portrayed as a major aspect of romantic relationships in movies.

But it’s even suggested that it’s a necessary component to improve relationships.

I couldn’t disagree more.

Imagine coming to terms with that!

It means you just have to accept that your relationship comes with a lifelong inclusive package of endless drama, fights, conflict!

How is that supposed to make you feel loved, stable and safe in your relationship?

It obviously cannot.

So first off, I’d like to dispel that myth.

If you’ve fallen victim to this misconception, know this:

Fighting, conflict and domination games cannot contribute to improving your relationship.


On the contrary, you need to do whatever you can to reduce any of the following behaviors:

  • Trying to establish superiority or dominance over each other
  • Insisting on being right all the time
  • Playing the blame game
  • Bending the truth (aka lying)
  • Picking fights or seeking conflict
  • Looking for faults or wrong-doing in each other

This is important.

Because doing this will FREE UP mental and emotional ROOM for what comes next.

Prioritizing Working Together Will Increase Stability & Safety

We’ve said this before and we’ll say it again.

You need to try and work TOGETHER as a couple.

Think of each other as a team. You work as a unit and put your well being and your relationship FIRST.

Over time, you’ll get better and better at it.

Karolina and I used to have PLENTY of conflicts and fights in the past.

But overall we kept the majority of our focus and attention on seeking to cooperate and work together on the problems we had in our relationship.

This is what allowed for steady and continuous improvement.

If you don’t do this, you’re leaving your relationship to continue at random.

And who knows where it might end up.

It’s tough to see couples argue about the same topics time and time again without putting their heads together to solve the issue.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

Relationships don’t have to wander aimlessly and be centered around conflict and control.

They can IMPROVE and be FUN!

So working together means the following:

  • When you have a conflict, actively work together to solve it
  • Be as honest as possible with each other
  • Work on building trust together
  • Seek to cooperate and encourage
  • Build real trust over time

In other words, work on BUILDING your relationship together.

Much like you would a castle. It’s stone by stone to build the walls.

Even if it doesn’t look like much at the beginning, you’re setting SOLID foundations, that will be able to withstand the curve balls life will throw at you as a couple.

Things will never be perfect overnight and you’ll still fight about things.

So you’ve removed a stone or two. Big deal.

You can put them and more back up tomorrow.

When you can count on gradual and steady improvement, it will give you an ever-increasing feeling of stability and safety in your relationship.

So keep working on reducing behaviors that lead to conflict.

And investing in ones that increase your team spirit and the sky will be your only limit.

If you have any questions about working together or having difficulty doing so, let us know in the comments and we’ll get back to you.

We’d love to help out.

Gabriel

15 Best Valentines Gift Ideas for Him

15 Best Valentines Gift Ideas for Him

by | Dec 21, 2019 | Date & Gift Ideas, Relationships

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I’ve selected these Valentine’s Day gifts with men in mind.

Since -as a man- I think to have some understanding of what men would appreciate from their significant other 😉.

So there’s bound to be a gift here to make your boyfriend or husband happy!

For easy browsing, I’ve ordered the items on the list according to their price, starting with the higher-priced items.

#1 Amazon Kindle Oasis


If your man is a reader, he will love the new Kindle Oasis. It has the highest e-reader resolution of 300 pixels per inch and remains incredibly light. He can enjoy his favorite books on the generous 7-inch display which supports warm light (Is easy on the eyes). The kindle is also waterproof so he can use it by the pool or in the bathtub.
What’s more, is the Kindle Oasis can store thousands of books and when combined with Kindle Unlimited he can choose from Amazon’s vast library.

#2 Ray-Ban Metal Sunglasses


These high-quality Ray-Ban sunglasses come in two stylish colors: matte gunmetal/green or matte gold. They have metal frames and lenses which are polarized for better contrast. His eyes will also be protected with a 100% surface area UV protective coating. With this pair of sunglasses, he’ll look like his fashionable and trendy self.

#3 Romantic Dinner for Two Gift Box


If you’re not much of a decorator or don’t have enough time on your hands, this romantic dinner for two gift box will be sure to put a smile on his face this Valentine’s Day.
This gift box curates everything you’ll need for a perfect dinner for two. It includes a stainless steel champagne ice bucket, two sleek champagne flutes, two glass candlesticks with candles, an elegant baroque flatware set for two with accompanying knives and forks.
Additionally, it has decorative items such as the two red satin napkins with beautiful napkin rings and the 150 dark fragrant red silk rose petals to set the romantic mood.

#4 Retro-Bit Twin Video Game System


If your man is an 80’s kid and grew up with video games, this gift is bound to be fondly nostalgic to him. The old-school console package includes two retro wired controllers. It has two game cartridge slots that are compatible with the original (Super) Nintendo Entertainment System.
So with this: 142 games in 1 cartridge, for example, he can simply slot it in and is bound to find all of his favorite childhood games that he can relive and enjoy.

#5 Vintage Leather Canvas Messenger Bag


This high-quality messenger bag is handcrafted with top-grain leather and canvas fabric for a stylish look. He’ll be able to make use of the expandable storage compartments and can count on his laptop being safe in the bag, thanks to it’s additional cushioning.
Whether he likes carrying it by the handle or with the strap is up to him since the strap can be quickly detached.
The bag is 0.7 inches high and 14 inches wide, so it can fit both his paperwork and laptop, the many compartments will allow him to fit keys, phone and other smaller items with him.

#6 The Man Can Gift Basket


He’ll feel taken care of with this special gift basket. It contains 100% all-natural skincare items that are created by soap-making specialists of the Plum Island Soap Company in Massachusetts.
In this feel-good gift basket, he’ll find a licorice scented soap with anise oil and black poppy seeds to exfoliate his skin, spicy shave gel, a bay rum scented moisturizing body oil for after a shave or shower, a natural heavy-duty hand butter and last but not least a texture body sponge on a rope for gentle scrubbing.

#7 Mr. and Mrs. Aprons


You’ll be partners in crime the kitchen with these fun Mr. and Mrs. aprons sporting a mustache and a pair of red lips. They have waist ties to secure and are made of 35% cotton twill and 65% polyester. It’s bound to put smiles on your faces when you’re both cooking together.

#8 Gourmet Chocolate Biscotti Gift Basket


This classy gourmet sampler box contains 12 handcrafted biscotti topped in six distinctive flavors. The toppings include candied almonds, caramel chip, craisins, peppermint, cookie and coconut crunch. The biscotti are made from premium and natural ingredients and arrive baked fresh from the bakeshop. It’s a delicious and elegant gift your man will definitely appreciate and enjoy.

#9 Luck & Love – A Romantic Game for Couples


In Luck and Love, two players compete against each other by rolling dice in order to win and act out romantic challenges. It’s basically Yahtzee, with a fun twist and some extra rules. This game contains a total of 666 different dares. It’s a perfect way to try out new stuff and spice up your love life. Your man is bound to appreciate this one.

#10 Urban Map Glass


This is a truly unique gift idea for if your man is a whiskey lover. These glasses feature a hand-drawn street grid with map coordinates. There are 12 different cities to choose from, so you can pick his favorite place. The pattern on these glasses has been sand etched, which ensures that it will not wash off or get distorted in the dishwasher. This set comes in an elegant gift box.

#11 Six Pack Greeting Card Box


This sturdy, heart covered six-pack is bound to make your man smile. You can choose six bottled beverages you know he loves and present them in this classy carrier. It comes with a little hidden card on which you can write him a personal note too.

#12 Metal Bucket List

We all have our own goals and dreams that we’re working towards. This stylish metal bucket is a perfect container for your man’s personal bucket list. It contains little cards that start with “One day I will” and end with a box to tick, once this particular goal is complete. This is a great way to show your man your support and provide space for him to express his own ambitions and desires.

#13 I Love You Card With Bamboo Wood


This eye-catching bamboo wood greeting card is a great way to show your man just how much you care about him. The card features a beautiful laser cut “classic hearts design” on the outside and vibrant “heart of hearts” design on the inside, with a blank space for your handwritten message. The cards come with a premium envelope.

#14 Sex Checks: For The Bedroom


These checks are filled with witty and playful ideas of sexual as well as romantic trade-offs. They are divided into two types: IOU (I owe you) and UOME (you owe me). This set is designed to look somewhat like an actual old school checkbook. In addition to the love act trade-offs, the checks are full of other playful notes like “Nothing you say may be held against you in a court of love”. No other gift will make your boyfriend or husband happier, than a creative way of promising him some intimate quality time 😉

#15 The 5 Love Languages for Men


The 5 Love Languages is an international bestseller that covers the different ways in which we want to be loved. In this edition, the author speaks straight to men about the rewards of learning and speaking their wife’s love language. The book is humorous and packed with helpful illustrations and creative pointers. It’s a great present that is bound to benefit both of you in a lot of ways.

I hope you found some great Valentines gifts for your man in our post.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Gabriel

7 Emotions You’ll Feel After a Long-Term Relationship Breakup

7 Emotions You’ll Feel After a Long-Term Relationship Breakup

by | Dec 17, 2019 | Breakups, Relationships

Photo by Nathan Jefferis

Breakups are not easy.

And it’s ESPECIALLY DIFFICULT if you’ve been in a long-term relationship.

You’re likely to be going through A LOT of different thoughts & feelings.

One moment you’re telling yourself it was probably for the best and the next your world is collapsing.

And it is FAR FROM pleasant.

But putting words to your feelings and the things you’re going through will help you feel LESS ALONE and give you CLARITY!

These are 7 things you’ll likely experience after a long-term relationship break up.

1. Denial That It’s A Breakup

When this happens you’re not even realizing it.

That’s how denial unfortunately works.

It’s hard to want to face that reality, because the implications are unknown or just plain horrifying.

Admitting that it’s truly over can put your entire world on the brink of collapse.

So it’s easier to pretend that this is just another bad fight.

“We’ll get back together once things have cooled off.”

If things worked out that way, then GREAT and I’m happy for you.

But you’re unlikely to be reading this if that were the case…

So give yourself time with it.

Denial is an important and natural part of the process in allowing yourself to come to terms with things.

2. Shock That It Actually Happened

Once you’re over the first feeling, you’re probably hit by a HUGE WAVE of

“..What the hell just happened..?” (Even if it was days ago)

Shock.

In my experience it felt like a giant invisible sledge hammer knocking out very ounce of certainty I had about my relationship and my life.

If you’re going through this, you might be thinking some of the following

  • “How could this happen to me?!”
  • “I thought things were going okay”
  • “Where did this come from?”

I know it’s tough. Very tough.

But the intensity of these types of feelings WILL FADE.

You won’t be bound by shock forever, the dust will settle and you’ll have a clearer head and feelings again.

3. Gradual Acceptance Of The Breakup

While things clear out, you’ll SLOWLY and GRADUALLY let the reality sink in.

It’s not an easy thing and it’s important to allow yourself however much time you need.

I was annoyed at how eager all my friends were for me to:

“Just move on.” and “Get over it.” or “You need a rebound.”

If you cared about your (now ex) partner, you know that it doesn’t work that way.

There’s nothing wrong with going slow.

You’ll need time to accept the breakup and recalibrate and it’s not cool for anyone to push you.

4. Confusion & Lowered Self Esteem

Even after you’ve accepted your fate, your emotions aren’t done with you yet.

As though things weren’t bad enough, right?

There’s a good chance you’ll feel confused about how it all went down.

  • “How did this happen?“
  • “Was I not keeping them happy enough?”
  • “I thought things were okay between us.“

You might also start feeling down and voices in your head being mean.

It can really help to talk to a trusted friend in these moments.

Somebody that can build you up and let you know that you’re doing okay.

Because guess what?

Nobody is perfect in long-term relationships and who’s to say this was on you anyway? 😉

5. Fear & Uncertainty About Your Future

It’s a terrible thing to have a sense of stability and certainty in your love life and for it all to then suddenly disappear!

It’s natural to think ahead in our lives and imagine a future with our partner.

Planning things like a home, family, adventures together, etc.

To greater or lesser extent, we COUNT ON being with this person in the future.

So when all of that abruptly disappears, you’re naturally left totally distraught and uncertain. Even fearful.

I KNOW the feeling!

It’s like everything you thought you knew, is no longer.

And if you were wrong about this relationship, how can you know anything anymore really?

Having said all of that.

These feelings too, will pass.

Your entire future isn’t in the dumps because of this, you can sulk, mope and bitch all you need…

And when you’re ready, you’ll begin to rebuild.

5. Loneliness And Sadness Might Be Your Friends For A While

But before you rebuild, you’ve got the next lovely pair of emotions that want to accompany you throughout your days…

Meet LONELINESS and SADNESS!

You can rely on your new pals to continually remind you of how terrible it feels to be alone.

Yes. They are awful company..

And yes, you’ll have to endure them for now.

Because the sudden breakup ushers a lot of change into your life, and it’s not easy.

Where you were used to having someone, there is now nobody.

Whether that be on the couch, in bed, at a table or on your phone.

But these feelings are not forever.

As you grieve and cry into your pillow you’ll work through it all and come out the other end better.

Maybe a little swollen and red in the face, but definitely feeling better.

7. Anger At Them For Everything

This is my favorite one. 😈

I’m kidding.

But it IS AN IMPORTANT one. Because this is where you start to rebuild!

You see, you’ve been through hell by now.

Denial, shock, acceptance, confusion, lowered self-esteem, fear, uncertainty, loneliness and finally sadness…

That’s one hell of an emotional ride and well done on getting this far!

But now it’s your time for you to start feeling GOOD.

And anger is a PART OF THAT.

You see, there are two sides to every story and as mentioned earlier, nobody is perfect in a relationship.

So you might have done some things imperfectly.

But SO HAVE THEY.

A time will come when you’re ready and you can tear down the romanticized image of them and the relationship you had with them in your head.

You can then be ANGRY about all the things THEY DID WRONG and you were unhappy about.

I honestly had far more to get through than I expected with this step.

But once I had, it felt LIBERATING and FREEING.

So allow yourself the time and space to work through it all without judgement. And remember that your healing journey isn’t forever.

If you’re having a hard time coming to terms with it all, and are going through some turbulent thoughts and feelings, we can support you with getting through this in a Coaching Call.

In these one-on-one calls we can help you process the breakup, regain control over your thoughts and feelings and find stability in a way that feels good to you. And if it’s something you want, we can talk about how to potentially mend things with your ex.

Click here to check out Coaching Calls.

And if it’s not too soon for you, gather a couple of your single friends, pop a bottle together and remind yourself of the many upsides of the single life.

If you have any questions or you’d like to share your story, tell us about it in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

Gabriel

Why Endlessly Giving in Your Relationship Won’t End Well

Why Endlessly Giving in Your Relationship Won’t End Well

by | Dec 15, 2019 | Relationships

Photo by Roberto Delgado Webb

I was endlessly giving in my previous relationship.

And it DID NOT end well. (I’ll explain why later)

You might know the feeling of being stuck in a pattern of wanting to fix things with your partner.

That if you just give them this one more thing, it’ll finally ‘make things right’ in your relationship and you’ll both be happy.

Endless efforts of giving can include

  • Doing them that one more favor
  • Letting them get off the hook with hurtful behavior
  • Making another effort so that they’ll finally be happy

Well, I want to be honest with you here and tell you from personal experience and observation:

You will never get what you want in this type of pattern and that it will never end.

On the contrary, you’ll only be endlessly giving and chasing them, and they’ll never fully appreciate or reciprocate your efforts.

1. There Is No End To This Dynamic Because It’s About Control

So you need to get out of the state of mind that’s telling you if you do this ONE MORE THING, your partner will then definitely be satisfied.

Because it’s not about them being satisfied, it’s about them keeping you chasing them.

I’m not saying that they’re doing this consciously or that it’s with evil intent.

Maybe they’re scared, and it’s the only way they know to maintain a sense of control in their relationship.

But there are the following problems with that kind of thinking

  • It doesn’t serve you because you’re just endlessly giving
  • It doesn’t serve them because they endlessly miss opportunities to build trust with you
  • Your relationship remains stuck in this pattern and spirals

Which brings me to my story of it not ending well.

At some point in my previous relationship, it suddenly became clear to me that my ex-girlfriend was only interested in THIS KIND of interaction.

And as much I tried to talk to her about it, she didn’t want to see it.

In the end, I was left with no other choice than to protect myself and chose to end it.

So it cannot end well if you keep thinking that THIS TIME, it’ll be different.

Instead, recognize that it’s a power game. They keep you chasing to retain control over you, that they fear to lose.

Focusing on gaining their trust and NOT endlessly giving, can help turn this around.

2. Endlessly Giving Will Eventually Drain You

Honestly, it took me A LONG TIME to acknowledge, let alone REALIZE that endlessly giving was draining me.

I was so caught up in trying to make things work and help. Thinking that this time, it would finally fix things.

And THEN, I’d finally be able to relax!

If you’re thinking ‘And THEN, things will finally…’ or a similar train of thought.

You might want to check on how LONG you’ve been feeling that way about your relationship.

It was shocking for me to discover that it had been YEARS OF ENDLESS GIVING!

When I finally came around to seeing it, I realized that it had not gotten me the results I expected.

“You mean to tell me, this was ALL FOR NOTHING?? It didn’t work?!”

AND I was flooded with a sense of absolute exhaustion.

If you’ve experienced something similar, you’ll know that it can make you just want to throw in the towel.

It can completely drain you and make you never want to try again.

So be sure to create a balance of giving and receiving in your relationship. You can also practice setting boundaries for yourself.

3. It Can Make You Feel Broken And Angry

Once you’ve gone through all of that fun, you’re often left with a giant pile of self-doubt.

  • “How could I not have seen what was happening?!“
  • “Why was I just endlessly giving the whole time?“
  • “What’s wrong with me for always making the same mistake?“

Which can be followed by justified anger towards your partner.

You might feel like your good will was used and exploited.

“How the hell could they do something like that to you?!”

… It all really sucks. BIG TIME.

If you’re in a position to do so, take steps to prevent reaching this point.

And even if you didn’t manage. I can tell you that you’re not alone with this experience! It’s a pattern we see all too frequently in couples.

But it can be RESOLVED and wounds CAN HEAL.

Even within the same relationship.

Did you find these reasons to not endlessly give helpful? Or would you like to share your personal experiences? We’d love to hear from you!

Until then, see you next time

Gabriel