Love can be very hard and challenging at times. Couples fight, cheat and break up. Maybe you have been left for another person or fell in love with someone who didn’t love you back.
Hurtful and heartbreaking experiences like this can make you wonder: are relationships even worth it?
What’s the point of taking a risk and trusting someone, if it might end up being just another disappointment? These are valid doubts. Building a solid relationship takes a lot of time and effort. It can be tough and disheartening at times.
Nothing helps more to get through these difficult times than hope that things can get better.
Sometimes all the negative hurtful experiences can make you lose sight of what you’re even in this mess for.
I hope these 10 reasons help you remember why love is worth fighting for!
1. Intimacy
Physical closeness is a huge way to bond with your partner. It’s a great way to feel way closer and more connected within minutes.
Sex can work like magic. It can just suddenly remove all the barriers between the two of you. Not to mention all of the fun and pleasure!
Cuddling on the sofa while watching a movie, holding hands, kissing each other hello or goodbye, cuddling up to your partner at night.
All these simple acts can just suddenly trigger this feeling of closeness and safety that everybody craves so much.
Intimacy is plain and simply, the best happiness inducing drug on the market.
2. Endless Conversations
Feeling that you’re on the same page with someone else is awesome. Sometimes you will find yourselves so engrossed in a conversation, that the whole outside world, just disappears.
You forget where you’re going or what you’re doing because you’re both having so much fun. Nothing else seems to matter anymore and rightfully so!
Being in a long-term relationship can allow you to get to know and understand your partner really well and for them to know and understand you.
This brings natural flow and depth to your conversations. Understanding each other and trusting each other creates emotional intimacy.
This can be just as powerful and amazing as physical intimacy.
Seriously, don’t underestimate it!
3. Feeling Safe
Having someone who understands and knows you, who you’re intimate with, and whom you can trust, can give you an immense feeling of safety.
Suddenly you’re not alone anymore. Someone’s got your back. You can count on him/her to pick you up when you’re down, to help you out when you’re in trouble, to take care of you when you’re sick.
You have a partner in life, you’re together. You don’t have to deal with things all by yourself anymore. You’ve got help and support, someone who will protect you.
Being in a relationship can provide so much safety, comfort, stability. These are all things we all desperately crave and need.
4. Learning From Each Other
Every person has their unique set of skills, strengths, knowledge base and ideas about the world. That’s what makes us the unique selves we are! Nobody wants to date a copy of themselves.
That would be really boring… and weird.
The differences between you and your partner will allow for both of you to learn new things and expand your worldview. Seeing your partner approach certain problems in a way that is just so different from yours, can be extremely helpful!
Being able to grow and learn from each other is a basis of any relationship and provides a huge advantage in life in general.
5. Helping Each Other Out
Having a person know and understand you can allow them to help out on a whole different level. They will know exactly what words you need to hear and why.
Having that partner who loves you and supports you is the best feeling in the world!
They can build you up. Boost your confidence. Help you overcome your fears and move forward in life.
They will come with you to a doctor and hold your hand during that scary injection. They will help you feel more confident about an upcoming exam or presentation.
Nothing helps you to believe in yourself as much as having someone else believing in you!
6. Sharing responsibilities
Apart from all the emotional benefits of being in a relationship, there is a ton of pragmatic ones too!
When being together, the most mundane, seemingly unpleasant things, can even be fun!
Like doing chores, cleaning up, grocery shopping, or hanging the laundry. All of these become enjoyable when you’re doing it with someone you can laugh and joke with.
Not only do these otherwise boring chores become way more pleasant, now that you’re sharing them with someone, you only have to do half of it!
Sometimes you will wake up in the morning to find the kitchen cleaned spotless without you having had to lift a finger. Sharing responsibilities with your significant other can be a huge help and motivator.
7. Going on dates
Who doesn’t like going on dates together? They’re just so much fun!
You don’t need to be a fresh couple to enjoy dating. In fact, I think that after years of being together, dates actually become way more fun.
At the beginning of a relationship, people tend to need to impress each other the whole time and manage their image. Not knowing what to wear, where to go, doing elaborate makeup, etc can be stressful.
After years of being together, all the stress falls away. You don’t go on dates to impress each other anymore. Now it’s just about spending quality time together.
It isn’t your outfit or the location that will make a date really memorable and special (although these factors can certainly contribute ). It’s about sharing time with another person.
In that particular moment, you two are in the centre of each other’s attention.
Let’s be honest here, everybody loves and needs to be the centre of attention every now and then.
Dates provide the perfect setting to give each other that opportunity. That’s what makes them feel so great!
8. Cooking For Each Other
Cooking for one person can be a bit of a nuisance. It takes so much time and effort.
You have to buy the right ingredients, cook, clean and then, on top of that, you are very likely to end up with way too much food.
Having to go through all this hassle and then being stuck eating leftovers for a couple of days, might make you not want to cook for yourself very often.
Cooking for two is a totally different story, it’s freakin’ fun!
Doing groceries together is already so much more pleasant than shopping by yourself. Plus your partner helps you out, so you don’t have to do all the work. You don’t have to carry all the heavy bags, don’t need to cook and clean everything and you’re less likely to end up with so many leftovers.
On top of all the pragmatic benefits, there are huuuge emotional ones too!
Having someone cook for you will make you feel taken care of while making a dish for your significant other can feel just as great.
Regardless whether you’re on the giving or the receiving end, this exchange is bound to get your endorphins flowing.
9. Trying New Things Together
It’s not easy to start doing things you’ve never done before.
Learning new skills can be tricky. Sometimes, certain things might feel so daunting, you’ll end up not daring to ever try them out.
Trying out new things with a trusted partner makes it all much easier! You can help each other, figure things out together, encourage one another etc.
Having this extra help, support and company make trying out new things much less of a big deal.
Starting something can be much easier than actually developing and improving certain skills. Completing a beginners course in e.g. surfing will only take a few hours, but it takes much longer to practice and actually learn how to surf.
Having someone to practice with, someone who will continuously validate your progress and is going through the same learning process with you, can make it so much easier and more fun!
10. Adventures
There are countless beautiful and exciting things to experience in this world! You can visit architectural monuments, go to a shooting range, enjoy regional foods, take in art and culture. The possibilities are endless!
Adventures are also a great way to escape our mundane routines. To break the patterns that keep us numb and dumb. Go on an adventure! You don’t even need to over plan it!
See where your heart and feet take you, you’re bound to be pleasantly surprised!
As great as all of these experiences may be, they become a million times better when you share them with a person you care about and who cares about you!
There is no doubt, relationships can be challenging and downright frustrating at times! Ultimately though, I promise the benefits make it worthwhile and rewarding. So don’t be afraid to invest in yourself and your relationships!
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What are your reasons for being in a relationship? Let us know in the comments!
Karolina and Gabriel
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I completely disagree I have learned my lessons from relationships, at a young age. All, but one cheated on me and left me. That whole saying “It is better to have loved and lost then to have ever loved at all.” is BS. I would rather to have never loved at all then to have ever known the pain of loss. To me, that is the worst pain in the world. To you give you an idea, the last relationship before my last one, I ended up in the hospital because I tried to kill myself.
I’m 36 and just got out of a 5 month relationship. I get really attached very fast and get hurt very easily, which is why after my last one, before I was 19, I refused to date, ever again. So, I put my walls up high and thick and was cautious of where I would go out to. Somehow she slipped through a crack and eventually realized we don’t click, wasn’t mean to each other, just didn’t click. It made me realize that I either just don’t know how to be in a relationship anymore or cant and don’t want to be in one anymore. Either way, I have put my wall up so high and thick now that no girl will ever get through them and even if they can get to the point of testing them, as I do not go out anymore. I go home and go to work and refuse to hang out with anyone anymore, even friends. Its the only sure way to protect myself.
Basically, I don’t want to be with anyone anymore. That is the conclusion I came to. I don’t blame her, I blame myself for not having my walls high and thick enough to prevent myself from getting into a relationship. Which is why I have made them thicker and higher. Like I said, I don’t go out anymore. My walls and precautions worked for 16 years, with what I have done now, they should work for the rest of my life.
Relationships are not worth the effort or risk. This is my advice.
Hi Kyle,
That’s quite a crazy ride you’ve been through. I’m sorry to hear it’s been that tough. And it makes sense you wouldn’t want to take any chances of someone slipping through your protective walls again.
I also get why your experiences make you want to give up on relationships entirely.
And truth be told, it took someone very special and a lot of time and patience to build real trust before I even considered letting my steel guard down at all.
Having said that, your decision makes sense and I hope there’s not further hurt in your life, relationship or not.
– Gabriel